The Zack Posted March 9, 2010 ^ I agree that it is a matter of choice in the beginning but once u r already married to someone if that person brings another wife in the equation it will be very difficult for a religious girl to leave her loved husband for that mere reason. It is almost prohibiting what has been permitted by the Deen. P.s. I am not trying to make decisions for ya. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Aaliyyah Posted March 9, 2010 ^u got the religion part twisted...its halaal for a woman to seek divorce if she knows that she can not share her husband... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Che -Guevara Posted March 9, 2010 The Zack-What religion do you follow? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
The Zack Posted March 9, 2010 ^^Can you back that up with religious Daliil? The only time a woman can seek divorce because her man has married another woman is when the man can NOT afford it financial wise, health wise, justice wise and so on. I haven't seen any thing stating if a woman "knows that she can't share her husband" she can seek divorce. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Aaliyyah Posted March 9, 2010 ^I dont have a daliil on top of my head, but what I said above holds true. I heard it from several shiekhs. I will look this up. Anyhow, am sure if a sister tells the guy before they even get married that she wont ever be part of that arrangement he should understand or look someone more accommodating, there shouldn't be surprises later on. everyone has to be straight forward from the beginning... salaam Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
The Zack Posted March 9, 2010 Originally posted by Che -Guevara: The Zack-What religion do you follow? I don't follow a religion, I follow the religion. Aaliyah, That is fair. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GaroweGal Posted March 11, 2010 Honestly, why do I hear time and time again I stories of these no good haasidiin Faraaxs screwing over extremely magnanimous Xaliimos. :confused: As for the topic, I wonder if I'm going to hell for thinking these supposed shayouks are wrong in harrassing her? Smh. :rolleyes: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chocolate and Honey Posted March 11, 2010 I think you're in the same boat with all the girls who responded the same. ZACK, this "bait and switch" mentality is whats wrong with some men's solutions to such matter. And yes a woman can seek divorce if she happens to be unhappy and treated unfair in her own marriage. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites