Is it dangerous to use capitalist rules in your personal relationships?

[Professor.]

I think its dangerous to use capitalist rules in your personal relationships. We're given messages from birth telling us we are our possessions, and people with better cars, better houses, higher-paying jobs, etc., are better people.

 

This is why I hate terms like "the marriage market" and "exchange theory" in relationships; economics has colonized the language of love like it has everything else. Yes, often we treat our potential partners as just another asset or demonstration of worth, like a car or the latest fashion. And this creates a nasty "trade in, trade up" mentality in relationships.

 

There is a book I saw somewhere but haven't read - "Consuming the Romantic Utopia" that I want to get my hands on, as it supposedly talks about some of these concepts.

[Modesty]

The way I see it, you don't have to live a capitalist life. Of course, economics has to be taken into account in a partnership, but doesn't have to be the only determining factor.

[Socod_badne]

Prof,

 

There is nothing wrong with money. Money makes the world go around.

[Ibtisam]

^^^ it also makes people committee suicide, rape, rob and murder people, i guess that’s part of making the world going round. :rolleyes:

[-Serenity-]

Its simple:

 

No Money => No Love. Elementary my dear

[Ibtisam]

^^ i really hope you don't believe that dear:D or you are on your way to sad miserable life with lost of money

[-Serenity-]

^ Whats sad and miserable about having lots of money?

 

In the words of Kanye West, 'I aint no gold digger, but I aint messing with no broke niggers '

 

In any case, love doesn’t buy a house or put food on the table or even keep you warm in the dead of the night (well, maybe a little… but you still need a cozy blanket).

 

So I stand by my statement...

 

Money only = Good

Money and Love = Better

Love only = :rolleyes:

[Castro]

^ Mashallah atheer, I'm so proud of you. Don't let no broke Faarax trick you into a broke relationship and a broke marriage that leads to a broke life. If the nigga can't bring home the dough, he can stay single and love his broke self.

 

Love kulaha. Money talks and boolshidh waa inuu ka caraabiyaa meesha. :rolleyes:

[checkmate]

^^ Inanta beeta ka daa, oday-yahoow

 

CW, you are on the right track, but remember Money come and goes.

[- Femme -]

I know money does not buy happiness, but I just want a chance to see that for myself.

[Castro]

^ Read this for possible answers on how to find out for yourself.

[checkmate]

^^Actually Money does buy you happiness, It's love it can't efford..so you are ok to try it.

[-Serenity-]

 

Ibtisam, what say you?

[Nephissa]

Not in ten million years for ten million dollars. If there is no chemistry, I ain't there.

[checkmate]

What if there is physics?