Alle-ubaahne Posted March 7, 2007 Originally posted by Cambarro: Wont life be boring then? I absolutely am for being a raalliyo like this lady: http://pagesofimagination.blogspot.com/2006/12/i-thought-just-for-kicks-i-would-let.html Why..In a narration our beloved Prophet (Peace and Blessing of Allaah be upon him) said: "When any woman prays her five, fasts her month, guards her body(chastity) and OBEYS HER HUSBAND it is said to her: Enter paradise from whichever of its doors you wish” However an educated wife with a western upbringing can also be a raaliyo. Having been recently to Somalia, not every woman there is a raaliyo. You guys have this unbelievable image of the women back home. I have seen educated independent doormats in my time in the west. Taliban: Isnt there medium level between submissiveness and domineering woman? Personally it is good to have someone your equal whilst fulfiling your Islamic duties to each other. I don't understand why then you directed the question of submissiveness to Paragon, while you described yourself as the woman on the link that you posted? You are may be a baariyad with hidden agenda, may be, I say! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Alle-ubaahne Posted March 7, 2007 But if anyone asks me about my dooq on the sort of girls I would end up, I would say, the opposite of Val and Sheherazade, and of course, you must know what I mean their opposite in terms of character!! I can't stand with Val and Sheherazade; two girls that I sometimes see in nightmeres, for their latest feminism and harsh attitude to men! Oh, May they die at age 102, aamiin! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Valenteenah. Posted March 7, 2007 LoL @ ^^. I understand why Sheh, she turned down your multiple marriage proposals after all, laakiin anigu maxaan kugu sameeyey? Bal gardarradaa eega? Rokko, Yes, she's sweet and funny and fariidad (notice how she clocked the city girl's motives for visiting - eyeing up the reer miyi boys ). They both were actually. Funny stereotypes. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NGONGE Posted March 7, 2007 ^^^ I knew that one day myself and Alle-ubhaane would agree on something. This might be the breakthrough Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Johnny B Posted March 7, 2007 Originally posted by NGONGE: ^^^ I knew that one day myself and Alle-ubhaane would agree on something. This might be the breakthrough I knew you'd this urge to make to Alla Cubahne, but Naaaa, i just don't think you'd sell Val this cheap. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Valenteenah. Posted March 7, 2007 Does this mean I star in your nightmares too, NG? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Valenteenah. Posted March 7, 2007 Originally posted by Johnny B: i just don't think you'd sell Val this cheap . Johnny, luv, those two words shouldn't be in the same sentence. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NGONGE Posted March 7, 2007 Yes you do. Though I prefer not to call them nightmares. They're more like dark hallucinations. Oh. Hang on! Here comes one... ** sighs ** **licks lips** **stretches arms and lets joints crack** Aaah..back..where were we just now? Edit: Val, THREE words not two, THREE. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Valenteenah. Posted March 7, 2007 Nevermind. I don't know why I even bother. :rolleyes: PS: Look again. Only TWO words are highlighted. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NGONGE Posted March 7, 2007 ^^ The third word was SELL But, I suppose I see how you decided to ignore such a preposterous idea. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Paragon Posted March 7, 2007 Originally posted by Haneefah: Aggah, oo aragtidu ma shardi baa? Adoon arag miyaadan aamini karin jiridooda? Bas khalas, I shall not spoil it for you (though I suspect few of the sis's have already done so), keep on serenading walal And meey, la jin ma ihi Lol@Aggah. Walee aggahda iyo awoowgaa la janee ayaan aad u aqaan oo waxaan taa ku bartay beelo gob ah oo Eebe dhaqan wanaag ku manneystay. Haneefah, walaaleey, waxa la yiri 'ishu araggeey aamintaa, cagtuna orod'. Marka, aniga lafihii hore ayaan ahay oo waxaan ka haray qowmkii qiimeyn jirey gabdhaha reer miyiga. Wax i tus aan ku aaminee ayuu hadalku iga joogaa. I shall continue serenading then ....mar hadaad tiri la jin ma ahi Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ms DD Posted March 7, 2007 Originally posted by Paragon: quote:Originally posted by Cambarro: Waar yaanan u dhameystirin ragga. Raggu waa rag dee. A very wise advice. Isqabasho wanaagsaneydaa. I still stand by what i said earlier. Here is a story I would like to share: Abd al-Malik (Radiyallaahu 'anhaa) said: "When ‘Awf ibn Muhallim al-Shaybani, one of the most highly respected leaders of the Arab nobility during the jahiliyyah, married his daughter Umm Iyas to al-Harith ibn ‘Amr al-Kindi, as she was made ready to be taken to the groom, her mother, Umamah came into her room to advise her and said: "O my daughter, if it were deemed unnecessary to give you this advice because of good manners and noble descent, then it would have been unnecessary for you, because you posses these qualities, but it will serve as a reminder to those who are forgetful, and will help those who are wise. "O my daughter, if a woman were able to do without a husband by virtue of her father's wealth and her need for her father, then you of all people would be most able to do without a husband, but women were created for men just as men were created for them. "O my daughter, you are about to leave the home in which you grew up, where you first learned to walk, to go to a place you do not know, to a companion to whom you are unfamiliar. By marrying you, he has become a master over you, so be like a servant to him, and he will become like a servant to you. "Take from me ten qualities, which will be a provision and a reminder for you: "The first and second of them are: be content in his company, and listen to and obey him, for contentment brings peace of mind, and listening to and obeying one's husband pleases Allah. "The third and fourth of them are: make sure that you smell good and look good; he should not see anything ugly in you, and he should not smell anything but a pleasant smell from you. Kohl is the best kind of beautification to be found, and water is better than the rarest perfume. "The fifth and sixth of them are: prepare his food on time, and keep quiet when he is asleep, for raging hunger is like a burning flame, and disturbing his sleep will make him angry. "The seventh and eight of them are: take care of his servants (or employees) and children, and take care of his wealth, for taking care of his wealth shows that you appreciate him, and taking care of his children and servants shows good management. "The ninth and tenth of them are: never disclose any of his secrets, and never disobey any of his orders, for if you disclose any of his secrets you will never feel safe from his possible betrayal, and if you disobey him, his heart will be filled with hatred towards you. "Be careful, O my daughter, of showing joy in front of him when he is upset, and do not show sorrow in front of him when he is happy, because the former shows a lack of judgment whilst the latter will make him unhappy.[/QB] The above advice is certainly out of date and one-sided, but there is much wisdom here if you look it as mutual advice for how the husband and wife should treat each other. So both partners should serve one another, please one another, protect one another, etc. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Paragon Posted March 7, 2007 ^^Thanks Cambarro. The advice might have been given centuries ago but it is as relevant now as it was then. I think it all comes down to mutual consideration and care for each other as husband and wife. As I believe, every sensible man and women would hold this to be the seed of family success. Except when I am light-heartedly joking with sisters, at other times, I am fully aware of the needs and duties that exist between a husband and a wife. Marka, all I say here is said in a humorous manner and should not be construed as reflective of my true character . You hear that ladies, some sense of humour is needed here . Thank you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Aaliyyah Posted March 7, 2007 and walaa the bride looked very beautiful ancient na mean i dig it like dis... Khalaf here I thought u were a wadaad, who wanted his pride to wear a white niqaab in her wedding day :rolleyes: could have been fooled. Paragon lol U were joking all along? well u better be otherwise as I said u gonna be single til u take yr last breath ... wa salaam Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites