What does Islam say about having Boyfriends or Girlfriends?

[Umm al_khair]

What does Islam say about having Boyfriends or Girlfriends?

 

Islam strictly forbids us to have any kind of relationship with a

Non-Mehram ( people you can get married to). Whether it’s just a

friendship relationship or love relationship or even fiancé

relationship.

 

Before Nikkah, no contacts should be indulged between a man and a

woman. Cause; remember when two people are alone (a boy and a girl)

the third person there is the Satan (Evil), who always encourages

you to commit sins and as a result it leads to Jina/Fornication.

 

And as Muslims we must be knowing that Fornication or Adultery, (sex

outside marriage) is Haram in Islam. It is considered to be one of

the major sins.

 

Dear brothers and sisters in Islam, are we so pious that we can

afford to carry these sins with us to the Hereafter? If you ask me,

I’ll have to say no, because I know that, the weight of my sins are

way heavier then my rewards, so therefore I can’t afford to commit

those sins, and I am sure neither can you.

 

 

 

Many of us claim that they are not doing anything wrong, just by

talking on the phone or chatting on MSN, writing mail or e-mailing,

with their boyfriends or girlfriends. But we have to realize that,

it is still wrong to do that, because we are still in contact with

a non-mehram, which is again strictly prohibited in Islam.

 

 

 

And some others say that it’s ok if they talk to their fiancé or

future husband/wife, but what is the guarantee that, this person

will end up being your life partner? Then why, waste our jewels or

modesty, unnecessarily?

 

 

 

Allah Tallah has mentioned it to us that, “the jina of the ear is

what you hear, the jina of the tongue is what you say, the jina of

the mind is what you think, the jina of the hand is what you touch,

and the jina of the eye is what you seeâ€. Is it still not clear

enough that by any sorts of contact we are still committing sins?

 

 

 

By saying “I love you†to any boy/girl, we are committing the jina

of our tongue, by hearing something like that from someone, we are

committing the jina of our ear, and so on.

 

 

 

So therefore, dear brothers and sisters, its time we wake up and

open up our hearts and ears and turn back to Allah’s command. We

can’t allow the devil to take over us. The person we sacrifices for

the sake of Allah, surely Allah will grant them happiness.

 

 

This is especially for Women:

 

Allah Talla has given us (the women) the best jewel we could have,

and that gets lost when we expose it in front of other men. The

women’s bodies are like the rose petals and if touched or seened to

much over and over again, it will loss its lustre. Would any of us

keep our diamonds displayed in public? Then, why is it that we are

displaying our bodies to others.

 

 

We have to remember that, whatever Allah Talla commanded us to do

that is what is best for us.

 

 

AND LET ME REMIND U AGAIN CLEARLY THAT ……..

 

Kissing, not allowed in Islam

 

Huging, not allowed in Islam

 

 

Talking on the phone with non-mehram, not allowed in Islam

Writing mail,…. still not allowed in Islam

NOW IT SEEMS TO ME THAT THE POINT IS PRETTY CLEAR DON’T U THINK???

 

And remember to do Istikhara Salah before you decide to marry

anyone, cuz Allah is All-Knowing, and He knows what we know not.

Like a person by their Iman, not by how they look, or what they have

or what they are.

 

This is a very simple test, you will FOrWaRd this message around, if

you are a true believer and if you care for others.

 

May Allah Talla give us the ability to stay away from these evil

acts and bless us with His Mercy and guide us on the right path.

Ameen.

[Haddad]

Originally posted by ukthi muslimah:

May Allah Talla give us the ability to stay away from these evil

acts and bless us with His Mercy and guide us on the right path.

Ameen.

ربنا يغنينا بحلاله عن حرامه

 

Aamiin to the du'a, and jazakAllah kheyr.

[Foxy]

Oh please

 

 

it dont made me angel on having a boyfriend instea of a father firgure.....cheers am more of sinner than ever raised to be a jesus christ worshipor

 

 

cheers

[Foxy]

I foxy Brown

 

take back on my words...since I dont wont shit laods of trouble from the islamist facist, I detest that i am here but to make piece rather then to pick a beef with any other person....

 

 

cheers

 

 

PS I mean nothign but well in all matter of life

 

 

happy times....Good lauhg on little britian.......U have to be an ***** not to laugh at lil britian

[Foxy]

Lols

 

 

I am just messing around....so relax...chill out with asmile on my face not a damn frawn, i am not fussing or playing around just being playfull,,,after all its friday.....so its allowed to be playfull to the limit........especailly when the ashes series is in town.....

ozy ozy oy ozy ozy oy....go go on mate with the freakin mateship flagship

 

 

cheers

 

God bless on the cricket team and the wallibies

 

 

but beyond all God bless the All Blacks

[Haddad]

Originally posted by OG_Girl:

Edit: about the topic to be honest I did not read it the title is enough. I can guess what's all about.

I am curious; how does the average (majority) young Kuwaiti approach the issue? Is the average Kuwaiti conservative or liberal? If you're finding my questions uneasy, let me know.

[Castro]

Bartender, I'll have what Foxxy is having. Shaken, not stirred.

 

Boyfriend, girlfriend. Humans are instinctively attracted to the opposite sex. It's hard-wired (read: natural). It's how we evolved (read: created). Fighting it with threats of hell and BBQ is not going to help. What might help is explaining the consequences of extra-marital relationships. Unwanted pregnancies, disease, and so on. People will find a way to have sex even if hell was right next door.

 

I don't see the point in this. Non-married Somalis were having more sex in Xamar 20 years ago than they are in the diaspora now. People prayed, they feared god and once in a while, had a little hanky panky. As arabs say, an hour for you and an hour for the lord. Bada bim bada bum.

[Bess.]

As arabs say, an hour for you and an hour for the lord. Bada bim bada bum.

[J.Lee]

^LooooooooooooooooooL

 

Istaaqfurulah.

 

Correct me if I'm wrong, feel free by the way, for I'm rarely wrong (Okay fine. I'm always wrong but indulge me in this will you...) but isn't the Niikaax, the engagement?

 

If so, how can having a relationship with your fiancee be forbidden, after all the wedding, or arooska is just a formality right?

 

A formality,BTW, I can do without (That is the arooska and all it's oogie boogie bullsh!t). It is just an excuse for the bride to chemically peel her face (litterly! we are way passed Diana. carbon-based life forms). It is more like a facial edema infection waiting to happen nowadays ( I understand though, I mean Beauty is skin deep but sometimes some brides have to pull back or rather try to get rid off alot of layers dee and who can blame them?). Also it is one of the many events Husbands will have to squander all their (Yippie), and their family's (Not a good idea and only if desperate. Must be done without wife's knowledge) hard earned money (and he better with a nice big smile, do hide ilko fargeeto or ilko dawaco if you have any, no need to scare your bride or the children).

 

Why? Well, because the bride's family is not going to pay for the wedding (The bride usually makes this clear in the begining of the courtship, look for signs dudes. Seriously pay attention). It is only fair that the Husband pay for the friggin' wedding'majinger since wifey is looking out for him (Yes YOU Silly.) because if her family does pay for the wedding YOUR marriage is not going to be successful. Yaahuu iyo balaayo baa meesha ka dhici doonto. (excuse the somali.)

 

Why? (you might be wondering, it is only natural.) Well. she, your wife, would never hear the end of what a cheapskate (Yes. this means YOU) she married and neither will your kids This wedding business is despicable but sometimes life is a b!tch, just don't let it screw you without protection. (strap up dee, self-preservation is a must)

 

The mother of all the sh!tload is yet to come. The reason for this oogie boogie bullsh!t is just as screwed up as car without an engine, which is, btw just so people you don't even talk to or even acknowledge their existance ( there are alot of them!), or you might not even know or want to know (and surprisingly there are alot of them too!) can enjoy themselves with what your hard earned money bought them and are they greatful? (Aaah! lets think this over people)...... Hell No.

 

They talk about you, and your spouse behind your backs and you know anything that is said behind one's back isn't going to be complimentary.

 

Lets just say if every person who had nothing nice to say, said nothing at all, Nobody in that hall would be talking. dig?

 

Anyway. a quite nikaax at your local masjid is the way to go.

 

Btw. Please answer my question and May allah bless you for posting this.

 

Mansha'allah. May allah forgive our sins. (Aamin.)

[Haddad]

Originally posted by Wordette:

...but isn't the Niikaax, the engagement?

No, it's not. I don't know what they call engagement in Somali, but it's (خطوبة) in Arabic, and it's not part of Islam. Even holding a party after Niikaax isn't part of Islam. In Islam, there's only Niikaax & waliima (qado).

[Goonle]

Originally posted by Haddad:

quote:Originally posted by Wordette:

...but isn't the Niikaax, the engagement?

No, it's not. I don't know what they call

engagement

in Somali, but it's (

خطوبة

) in Arabic, and it's not part of Islam. Even holding a party after

Niikaax

isn't part of Islam. In Islam, there's only

Niikaax

& waliima (qado).

Haddad

 

What information do u have about temporary marriage with shiite muslims. An iraqi girl told me sex was hallal we just had to do a temporary marriage. Any info?

[Haddad]

Originally posted by Goonle:

What information do u have about temporary marriage with shiite muslims. An iraqi girl told me sex was hallal we just had to do a temporary marriage. Any info?

There's life outside the Internet. Go to the nearest mosque to learn about Islam. The other thing, it's Islamic etiquette not to ask questions for the sake of wasting time or space. Your question is similar to this one: The sun rises from the East every day? You asked that question, knowing the sun rises every day from the East. Why do you ask a question you know its answer? That's not smart.

[Goonle]

Haddad

 

I understand the shiite do have the custom i told u about. To be honest not all the answers are at the mosque. Thats why i asked. So if u dont know the answer just say u dont know. No need of beating around the bush.

[Haddad]

Originally posted by Goonle:

To be honest not all the answers are at the mosque.

Your personal opinion doesn't mean you're correct. You don't learn how to drive a car on the net, without actual practice in the real world.

No need of beating around the bush.

Do you know what that means? It's a silly figure of speech that doesn't make a sense. How do you beat a bush, let alone its around? There are many figure of speeches from various cultures that are outdated, no longer making sense, cannot be absorbed and etc. You don't blindly quote a figure of speech without thinking if it makes a sense, or if it's suitable.

[Goonle]

Do you know what that means? It's a silly figure of speech that doesn't make a sense. How do you beat a bush, let alone its around? There are many figure of speeches from various cultures that are outdated, no longer making sense, cannot be absorbed and etc. You don't blindly quote a figure of speech without thinking if it makes a sense, or if it's suitable. [/QB]

Im lost trying to decipher what uve written. Im gonna take from this that youre an expert on english evolution.