Why do Somali Naago like White guys?

[Haneefah]

Originally posted by Modesty:

I'm not trying to sound racist nor am I racist.

Really? Because you do sound like one to me when you write all caucasian men off your list and presume every somali woman who marries them has inferiority complex or is suffering from self-hate and wants to erase her 'blackness'. But I shall give you the benefit of the doubt Insha'Allah

 

Besides, what if you one day come across that amazingly handsome white man (perfect build, green eyes, black hair, tan complexion, eyes and a smile that takes you straight to cloud # 9--u get the point ), he possesses all the qualities you look for in a future husband, and thus sweeps you off your feet and better yet, he's a convert, you become acquaintances and discover that you're very compatible...would you then reject him strictly on the grounds that he's not Somali or the fact that you may be perceived by other somalis as having abandoned your own culture if you marry him or would you follow your heart and consider him?

 

It's really all about preference me thinks, so pls don't hasten to judge sis.

 

ps. I've seen and heard many sisters who married Africans, African Americans, Arabs, Indians, Pakistanis and the list goes on and on...So I don't believe they limit themselves to only caucasians when marrying outside their ethnicity.

[Modesty]

^Abraar, I have nothing against that. However, I'm more into Somali guys. So, I guess we can agree that it's about preference in most cases. Maybe I try to find meaning in everything...perhaps. Allahu Musta3an.

[RendezVous]

Asalam aleykum,

 

To follow your conscience is what one wishes to do in life, be it or not.Preference is also another part of life.

 

Most Somali ladies marry Somali men coz of Family connections, Honesty, trust relationship, culture, religion, background, freindship and more so Somalinimo.

 

What you don't find with other cultures is Lack of Honesty and privacy,dishonesty(although a small margin is there in somali communities), and mismatch in culture.

 

An example is that many of the white communities had generations of Christianity which collates other forms of cultures attached to it.They call it freedom.Their men will go in length to 'court' another lady or groove with another lady right there as you are watching..when you ask about it, they will claim 'she is my freind', they have a supposed freedom and unless you are courting for a legal case, stay far.He may have several 'freinds' and still be with you. He may even treat you like a freind. Their families are mostly christian, so you will never associate with them freely.They may at times call you for a family party, where whisky and drinks are normal.They may spray whisky on you assuming you don't have any problems with it.when you object, they will go in great length to say you messed their parties and toe xplain that whisky has not been mentioned in Islam..so on and so forth.That is their culture.When they accompany you for a small journey..they can make your daily Islamic routines just Nasty.

 

Ok, I don't refuse some caucs are Muslims Down heart and would try to isolate their families, but Family is family...No matter how you isolate his family..You will always feel uncomfortable.I have talked to some somali ladies about this and they agreed.

 

Likewise many Somali men would love to marry white Blondes and brunnettes simply by watching lots of interesting 'porno' online'.Still thinking You get what you see..They may be sweet and attractive but not sweeter than the Normal Xaliimo..who are more Honest and more relaible.

The 'Blondes' are generally not Honest..They can get one kid with you and you start Legal tussles.I got to chat with a simple blonde from Germany sometime ago and told me a great story.This people don't have religion even will not accept Christianity itself.They will go a great length to just 'enjoy life'..This lady whenever she goes for her assignment, she tells me she has a man there..She has been in Brazil ,Japan, Africa and Arabia and was telling me about her brazil Boyfreind.I wondered what kind of a man would marry such a lady..But that is their culture..They call it freedom..which Our Religion doesn't accept.

 

Wasalam. have a nice day, won't you

[Maf Kees]

Modesty, I think you don't know what the hell you're talking about. It's a Somali trend and a Black trend at that, that Somali/Black males are 3 times more likely to have a white girlfriend or wife than vice versa. So if anything the Farahs need to do some explanation not the Halimos. If you and other members don't realize that, than this thread is doomed to be another useless shithole.

 

Rahima, I don't know which Somalis you refer to, but most Somalis that do venture outside their community do not prefer white over black. But I do concur with you sister deep down a lot of Somalis are racist to the bone.

[Strawberry_Xu]

Actually my impression was that many Somali girls (that I know) prefer black guys, so when they're not into Somali guys, they like African or Carribean guys. I've seen more racism directed towards white people than black people.

[Ibtisam]

i don't think that women go out think i am going to be on the look out for a white man to marry, it just happenes that where u are u have come across one or two women married to white man!! not enough to assume anything. maybe in your area there are more white man than somali (most probably the case), so better chance that u will meet one u like, go out, fall in love and decide to MARRIEd; then u tell mum and sh*it u just notice he is white, oh well just a colour!!

 

i think when u go work, uni, even social, i don't meet any somali men, i meet other race. And the only somali men u meet are the ones that try and chat u up while u wait for bus/train, which u tent to ignore!!

so there is better chance i will marry a none somali, beacuse i meet more non somali; see the logic ppl

 

peace out

[sigma]

white guys!!! personally i find them easier to slap around

[Ibtisam]

i find it easy to get on with as i always get my way!! farahs are so hard headed.

[Caano Geel]

Modesty, your question is not very modest!

 

anyhow, what business do yours or mine is who does whom?

[Ibtisam]

^^^ talking about direct, maybe i should add u to the rudest list of ppl thread

 

p.s. i hate the word Naago!! god help any man who ever said naag to me :mad: :rolleyes:

[RendezVous]

Originally posted by ibtisam:

 

...so there is better chance i will marry a none somali, beacuse i meet more non somali; see the logic ppl

 

peace out

The only 'Somali' eligible to marry you are the ones who tend to chat up with you on Bus parks...and 'You refuse'..Oh that is good.No wonder you don't meet those with Degrees and work in Multinational Companies...Ibtisaam..you got a lot of work to do..

 

>>>>Marry those white skinnies and make yourself even more coloured..

[Ibtisam]

no; the only somali's i see at uni are sisters and 60yr old somali men :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

[Faheema.]

Originally posted by Modesty:

 

Fayrouz, I happen to be a naag

Your point being?

 

Please don't make unnecessary out of context accusations

Am I, and there I thought you were the 1st one on the accusation assembly line.

 

I can understand if one says it’s a personal preference. Lakiin why shove it down peoples throat, more importantly Why would you generalize… if some decide to take a different route (i.e. marry a non-Somali) dee waa danahooga… what others do with their life should not be your concern, dantaada ku eekow…

 

My conclusion tells me it's from self-hate, and erasing "blackness" from your offspring.

Anagaa wax`aragnay, and how did you come to this conclusion I wonder. There are countless ways why one decides to marry outside their race….But the most important is waa Wax ilahay Qoray Who knows you might end up marrying one

[STOIC]

Modesty, people make choice according to their preferece.Even though this new trend is not a heritage of affluence that has been passed down from our forefathers; we got to respect their liberty to choose.When my cousin married an African woman every one thought he lost his mind.People in my family would not speak to him for years.It did hurt him and every one that cared.We do need to realise that when people make their choice;we have to respect it.

 

PS Castro, who can say no to them soft tacos and Heifers

[RendezVous]

Originally posted by ibtisam:

no; the only somali's i see at uni are sisters and 60yr old somali men :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

Nice try and welcome to the sea of Somali 'eligible' Bachelors.U only see the ones who are 60 years Old.you ain't a blind...?

By the way I saw lot of rich somali bachelors who work for many MN companies..who keep low profile..don't marry..and just single.Age bracket 23-34 years...The list is growing as days go..coz you only see the sisters at Uni...do u mean there are or were no brothers at various universities..?what about the ones who completed schooling 5-6 years ago?

 

I don't know why Many bachelors are avoiding Somali sisters..Should there be a reason to worry..?