Can you help who you fall in love with?

[-Lily-]

^^^LOL@ ma nus ba igu ogeed,I do like that . Yes being completed is rather irksome. It really annoys me when people refer to their partners as 'my other half'.

[Aaliyyah]

first sight as in ? qacda hore, qacda labaad, mise dhowrka qacood ee hore, mise kulan hore?

lol zu hadalkasta maxaad sida kale ugu rogta horta, majajilo wa in aad dhigta adiga

 

wa salaamu alaikum

[Ariadne]

Originally posted by AAliyah416:

quote: No.... you don't have to know someone to love them. Love is usaully without knowledge.

am kinda curious. How can you love some one that u dnt know???

 

can you just walk outside and meet a stranger and be like wow I don't know you, bt I love u...... :rolleyes:

 

wa salaamu alaikum

How mature rolling your eyes when you don't understand other people's reasoning... and here I was thinking that was only reserved for teenage girls under 16.

But you maybe in that age range so I will write small words and I won't venture into abstract concept I promise.

 

Obiviously going outside and saying I love you to strangers is not loving people without knowing them.

I was talking about falling in love with someone you just met... you don't know them necessarily.

 

The same thing with longing or loving someone from afar ( when you can't work up the courage) or you are slowly working it up.

 

or falling in love with someone you are introduced to. There are millions of situations... obviously I can't name them all... but they happen. Maybe they have not happened to you yet, but they happen.

[BOB]

Can You Help Who You Fall In Love With?

 

 

Salam Aleikum W.W

 

 

I believe we can choose who we fall in love with but who end up getting married to is THE ONE we can never choose as that choice has already been made for us long before we even came to this world by Allah s.w, the master of all being.

 

Take Boodhari for example, he CHOSE Hodan instead of any other girl including Khadra who's said to have been the most Shax Shax bilcaan in the whole of Berbera.

 

 

I'm into the idea of one falling in love with the guy/girl he/she married to as that's when true love really comes to fore by having this dedicated guy/girl in your life who's loyal to you through thick and thin and I would advice people out there not to bother with this phony so-called boyfriend/girlfriend relationship which is full of deceit and betrayal and ultimately leads to you know where...

 

 

Get married if you ever want to experience TRUE LOVE but people, beware of who you choose to mary, if you marry a Saqajaan then that means you've been and still are another Saqajaan and Soomaaliyeey...especially bilcaamahiina yar yar oo leh madax with 900 different colours...listen to your parents, especially to your Hooyo for SHE KNOWS what you know not and please stop abusing the word Calaf, nin aan Maryooleey aheyn idinkuma ogi mana aan idiinku duceyn, listen to the thoughtful voice within your head and follow your heart but beware don't let it lead you stray.

 

inta rag iyo dumar, wiilal iyo gabdho ee badaha ku dhimatay, inta xero qaxooti ay malaria ku dishay iyo inta uu bullet dilay kuwii badali lahaa yaa la idinka rabaa laakiin markaa aniga Chinese af qurmuune iyo quraab kaba uraaye iila imaataan using that overused lame excuse of "Waan is jecelnahay" is when uu madaxa I xanuuno because truth be told here, you might find a wealthier man than Faarax, a better looking man than Samatar but in the long run there's no man better than him just like there's no Bilcaan that can be compared to beloved Abaayo suuraaleey.

 

 

The truth of the matter is, we are meant for each other...that's why your name and mine is Somali. (Please tell your workmates, Bosses, Friends and most of all our children that we are SOMALI and not Somalian. Thanks in Advance.

 

 

That was me oo aaryada iska saaraayey without making any valid point...

 

 

Salam Aleikum W.W

 

 

Peace, Love & Unity.

[-Lily-]

Originally posted by *BOB:

Can You Help Who You Fall In Love With?

 

that overused lame excuse of "Waan is jecelnahay" is when uu madaxa I xanuuno

Bob, I do believe this is the first time I've seen you degrade love ever so passionately.

 

Right, you've heard the man, make off with the first all-right stranger you meet ppl...

[RedSea]

Originally posted by -Lily-:

^^^LOL@ ma nus ba igu ogeed,I do like that

. Yes being completed is rather irksome. It really annoys me when people refer to their partners as 'my other half'.

How about when said each partner is like a garmet to the other?

[-Lily-]

A garment denotes protection, inclusiveness and warmth, basically someone to care for you and not to complete you? This doesn’t mean that you can’t need that person. Me thinks this whole completing business places huge pressure on the Other.

[BOB]

Salam Aleikum W.W

 

-lily- for Waterlily? whom I used to be friends with once upon a time before she immigrated to Mars...is that you?

 

Lily my dearest sister, I am not degrading love and promoting hatred but what I can't support is interracial love because sooner rather than later the flame will die down and the stats seem to back me up on this one even if my argument has nothing to do with the so-called statistics but my own theory.

 

I believe that's what my post was all about and my point being DON'T CHOOSE to fall in love with a non-muslim and non-somali man but your own fellow muslim and Somali.

 

The majority of interracial relationships that I know of are of a Somali girl with a non-muslim man which is kind of heartbreaking as far as I'm concerned as there's no way under the big blue sky can a muslim girl be with a non-muslim marka walaal my post was based on a WAANO to my muslim Somali sisters and I apologize for the inconvenience as that was NEVER MY INTENTION.

 

Ramadaan Kariim and STAY MUSLIM & SOMALI.

 

 

Salam Aleikum W.W

 

 

Peace, Love & Unity.

[-Lily-]

Noted Bob ( & it is indeed I, WaterLily).

 

Well, on a personal level I don't look beyond our impossible big foreheads, (this doesnt mean you walk by without noticing the blond, blue eyed hunk) but I can't speak for all. I suppose we have the right to make our own choices, right or wrong.

 

Ramadan Kariim.

[BOB]

 

this doesnt mean you walk by without noticing the blond, blue eyed hunk

Oo see la dhihi mid timo qaanjeer iyo indho mukulaal leh...Agaa? Women and their strange Choices! :confused:

 

Nice to see you back...I was wondering if you were gone for good.

 

 

Salam Aleikum W.W

 

 

Peace, Love & Unity.

[Aaliyyah]

Each individual has their own perspective and way of life. That is the beauty of life, the fact that we all have different opinions. So, the bottom line is we do have to respect one another’s choice.

 

That been said, it is good to advice one another, as a Somali proverb goes, ”nin ku digay kuma dilin”. Therefore, it is crucial and a must that we marry some one who shares with us our religion. As it says in our Koran,

 

O you men! surely We have created you of a male and a female, and made you tribes and families that you may know each other; surely the most honorable of you with Allah is the one among you most careful (of his duty); surely Allah is Knowing, Aware. Surah al-Hujurat (49:13)

 

Race and culture is insignificant when it comes to Islam. Our religion is color blind, we are all judged by our ibada (deeds).However, if you look at real life examples where people married outside their culture, you will see how hard life could be. For instance, I seen Somalis who married outside their ethnicity, even though their spouse is religious, their different cultures brought many obstacles and challenges. So, as your sister I am going to advice each one of you to marry a Somali individual who is religious, that way you have some one whom you share religion and culture with. Even that does not guarantee a life without problems. But, it does remove unnecessary issues that might rise from different cultures and customs.

 

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The world is nothing but a blink of an eye. Where the here-after is eternal

[Nephissa]

I am going to advice each one of you to marry a Somali individual who is religious, that way you have some one whom you share religion and culture with.

I advice you to marry someone not only within your tribe but same LAF aswell. Waxaa taqaano guurso baa la yiri, waxaad taqaano baad dhalaysaaye.

[Kool_Kat]

LOOOOL@waxaad taqaano baad dhalaysaa...

 

How about ina adeerkaa or ina abtigaa? Good enough, then for sure waxaad taqaano baad dhali!!!eew, sorry, gotta go...

[Nephissa]

^ Waxan ku iri "LAF" not ina addeer or ina eedo. Adu laftaada haday saas u yar-tahay, anu tayda waxay la egtahay two tribes combined , markaa immediate ilmo addeero/ilmo abtiyo isma soo gaareeno.

[Miskiin-Macruuf-Aqiyaar]

Why limit yourself at tolka iyo lafta? Wah. Hoos usii soco, way hoos down, intaa jilib, jufo, cirid iyo bah ka gaareysid. Then amaaba walaalkaa guursataa markaas?