Can you help who you fall in love with?

[Aaliyyah]

Q-Can you meet someone once and know they are your other half?

 

A-I don't think you can know someone is your other half merely by meeting them once. I think love comes gradually.

 

Q-Is it there truly only one person in the entire universe for you?

 

A-am not so sure abt that, bt hopefully there is some one for everyone. am still looking for my mr charming, he is hiding somewhere in dis universe

 

Q-Do you HAVE to know a person to be in love with them?

 

A-Obviously, you have to know some one to be in love. How can you claim to be in love with someone you barely know?

 

Q-Is love a necessary ingredient for marriage?

 

A-yes absolutely, no question abt that.

 

 

Q-Perhaps falling in love at first sight is somewhat like a paradoxical statement.

 

A-I don't believe in falling in love at first sight, that wouldnt be love right. That would be lust, since it is only based on physical attraction.

 

thats my 2 cent for now.

 

 

This whole think came about when my friend started working at this new place. She has met few people on the first day and she absolutely detested one of the blokes there. A year later, she cant live without him. How did that happen?

Cambaro sis as they say opposites attract. At first they prolly disagreed on many issues.But, that might have just brough them closer, the fact that they argue. Kinda weird bt happens.

 

wa salaamu alaikum

[RedSea]

Aaliyah rageedii..keep looking.

 

ps. you dont think am rude since we disagreed on some issue do you?

[Ibtisam]

^^Yes she does. She told me she does not like you and you are NOT the one.

[Malika]

^^^Xasiidad,Let the brother do his thing..

[Ms DD]

Answers as I expected.

 

But can you help who you fall in love with?

 

I think love is a gimmick. Personally there is nothing in between Lust and Caring. How long can a love sustain with in a marriage?

 

I cant say that my parents love each other after 35yrs. But they care deeply for each other. There was lust at the begining, than caring.

 

Khalal

You are forgoven bro. You just gave me the giggles for calling me a teenager. oh them old days!

[Malika]

^^^I agree,whats love got to do with[marriage],to sustain a marriage,there ought to be more then lovey dovey love,patients,tolerance,maturity etc etc

 

Can one help who they fall in love with? Oh yeah,I believe there is a certain amount of calculation that goes in whom you fall in love with, for example do they posses what your seeking,because you are only attracted to those whom you assume have the qualities you like..so mahaan?

[Aaliyyah]

Aaliyah rageedii..keep looking.

 

ps. you dont think am rude since we disagreed on some issue do you?

I don't judge individuals simply cuz we have different political perspectives. I think we could just agree to disagree on those issues.

 

 

^^Yes she does. She told me she does not like you and you are NOT the one.

naa maxaad isku diri. ka joog

 

I agree,whats love got to do with[marriage],to sustain a marriage,there ought to be more then lovey dovey love,patients,tolerance,maturity etc etc

Dahia what is your definition of love sister??? isn't part of loving some one caring for them, being patient, respecting them, and tolerating your differences??

[Ariadne]

Can you meet someone once and know they are your other half?

 

Is it there truly only one person in the entire universe for you?

 

Do you HAVE to know a person to be in love with them?

 

Is love a necessary ingredient for marriage?

 

We are not talking about lust here. I am talking about the feeling related to the irrationality within ourselves.

 

Perhaps falling in love at first sight is somewhat like a paradoxical statement.

To say somenone is your other half is to say you are a half person until you meet them and only then can you be complete.

No one can be your other half but they can be the person to compliment you ( as in partner).

 

I don't think there is only one person in the entire universe for you either. That is like saying all the relationships that lead up to that person were nothing and do not count. I think all the relationships you have, are people that are supposed to be introduced into your life so you can both learn something from each other.

 

No.... you don't have to know someone to love them. Love is usaully without knowledge.

 

Yes, love is a necessary ingredient for marriage. Otherwise why would you bind yourself to that person for a lifetime?

[Aaliyyah]

No.... you don't have to know someone to love them. Love is usaully without knowledge.

am kinda curious. How can you love some one that u dnt know???

 

can you just walk outside and meet a stranger and be like wow I don't know you, bt I love u...... :rolleyes:

 

wa salaamu alaikum

[RedSea]

Ghanima,

 

Okay. Since you chased Aaliyah away...I am stuck with you. Diamond ring coming up!!!

[Chimera]

I used to wonder how could i love one ''single'' woman for the rest of my life? seeing everyday these beautiful girls wether Asian,White,Black or Somali ,i wondered how could i pick one and stick with her? my love for them is like a jo-jo

 

i really got this feeling inside of me as if i was about to go into a prison that was going to last for eternity, like somebody seduced me into a room or something and then threw away the keys...lolol

 

i was young and didn't know much about our culture,country,religion and history which helped me come to the realization these other girls mean nothing in the end and after those bad experiences, my view of Marriage is; first you marry the girl you love (duhh) and then the first two, three years it's that simple ''newly love'' you have for your girl that keeps your relationship exciting

 

then when this excitement has watered down, Allah swt comes with a special gift a child, who will cement and re-inforce our love for each other and this will continue for another two babbies I.A

 

then after a while me and her will notice nice qualities we didn't pick up during the ''first spark'' and seeing our kids growing up will boost our relationship, cause your becoming a real family now where the children are 6/7 years old and the girls I.A do those girly things with their Hoyoo and me and my sons will rock that macawiis playing soccer in the backyard

 

in between those era's there will multiple other points that will make me fall in love with my wife over and over again but i just don't know them yet

 

my point is; Marriage or love is a contineous cycle of falling in love with your partner throughout the relationship ad nauseam and it's important that people realize the fact there will be periods in your relationship where you can't stand one another because of {most likely} materialistic issue's

 

that is why it's sad to see nice newly weds spending 24000$ on a wedding and then go into debt when trying to get a house of their own which then results in divorce

 

you need to be two steps ahead of these unfortunalities, you have to be prepared like get a stable job and move to a place that doesn't feel isolated, make sure relatives on both sides are not too close and yet not too far away either. A nice necklace or earrings once in a while wouldn't hurt either just remember that this world is only the first dimension

[RedSea]

Thanks Dulqarnayn. I agree.

 

I had similar issue. Where I almost found myself in I can't decide which one to love in with situation. Then I realized if I don't choose one I'll be wondering and single for the rest of my life.

 

I think to be in that situation is like another version of iman daro(yaahuu ). I have now understood the girl you are with attires the same thing as the next. There is no such thing that this girl offers better things than the next. They all have what we are after. Love and kalgacayl. :cool:

[Zafir]

Can you meet someone once and know they are your other half?

 

At that moment, yes, soon as they leave so does the thought. if it lingers, it becomes L.U.S.T

 

Is it there truly only one person in the entire universe for you?

 

No, There are two in every continent

 

Do you HAVE to know a person to be in love with them?

 

Like butter would on toast Baby

 

Is love a necessary ingredient for marriage?

 

Like a moth to a flame Baby

 

We are not talking about lust here. I am talking about the feeling related to the irrationality within ourselves.

 

You're asking to bring a knife to a gun fight

[-Nomadique-]

^ Dhulqarnayn -alSumaale you're a true romantic.

[Legend of Zu]

First I didn't want to answer these q's but the answers in this thread made me - well - neerafooso

 

Can you meet someone once and know they are your other half?

 

Ma nus baad igu ogayd?

 

Is it there truly only one person in the entire universe for you?

 

Bal Universe-ka maxaa i gaarsiin arladiiba ma dhaafine! besides if there are Superwoman [Helen Slater], Wonderwoman [incl her sisters] or Hot aliens (them hotties in Star Trek]...well..those are more than one, don't you agree?

 

Do you HAVE to know a person to be in love with them?

 

Do you mean before you fall for them or while you falling for them or in between?

 

See you can never know anyone fully, so you may fall for them the more you get to know them or fall out of love with them...so it can go either way

 

Is love a necessary ingredient for marriage?

 

Haddaase, maxaa i ag dhigay!

 

We are not talking about lust here. I am talking about the feeling related to the irrationality within ourselves.

 

Only the lust part of love is the irrational

 

Perhaps falling in love at first sight is somewhat like a paradoxical statement.

 

first sight as in ? qacda hore, qacda labaad, mise dhowrka qacood ee hore, mise kulan hore?

 

Cheers