Safferz Posted March 7, 2014 Is feeling unsure and directionless in every area of your life unique to being in your mid-20s to early 30s? Is it normal to look at your life and wonder, is this it? I think every decade has its challenges, but is there something about making that transition into adulthood, responsibility and self-sufficiency that produces these sorts of crises during this period in particular? I'm bored with everything and everyone in my life at the moment. I'm tired of dealing with cold weather. I don't like men right now and I've made peace with my inevitable future as a crazy cat lady. I'm annoyed by most of my girlfriends and hearing about their inane problems. I can't believe I start grade 20 in a few months, and by the end of my program, will have spent most of my 20s in school. It's more a general state of blah than actually having anything concrete to complain about, I do realize that objectively speaking, things have worked out quite well for me and I'm thankful for that. It's my birthday next week, hence the catharsis. I'm going to buy myself a bright new lipstick tomorrow, that might make me feel better Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Holac Posted March 7, 2014 Times are changing Saff. 30 is the new 18. What you don't want to do is settle for less. The best advice Holac can GIF [pun intended] is to keep celebrating. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Safferz Posted March 7, 2014 Heh, I don't look nearly as a cute celebrating, but thanks Holac Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Alpha Blondy Posted March 8, 2014 <cite> @Safferz said:</cite> Is feeling unsure and directionless in every area of your life unique to being in your mid-20s to early 30s? Is it normal to look at your life and wonder, is this it? I think every decade has its challenges, but is there something about making that transition into adulthood, responsibility and self-sufficiency that produces these sorts of crises during this period in particular? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Safferz Posted March 8, 2014 @Alpha I wonder what happened to the report a comment to the mods option. Go away, this is the last time I will respond to you directly or engage with your desperate attempts to get my attention. Stay away from me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SomaliPhilosopher Posted March 8, 2014 Dear Saffy, These sentiments are surely natural. For the common man these feelings often lead to detachment. Though for the wise, as I expect the case for you, detachment is the catalyst to such feelings. Often worry and thought disconnects one from the world. Might I suggest you re-immerse yourself into the world and your daily affairs. Step down from the hill you watch the world from. Stroll through the tombs of life. Verily, swimming is inane for a bird, but not for a fish. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Safferz Posted March 8, 2014 Sound advice, thanks SP. I think a lot of it has to do with the banality of routine, especially in the winter months with its cold weather and short, dark days, combined with entering the busiest time of the semester in what's been the most challenging year in my academic life. I always feel better when it's summer and I'm traveling and doing things I enjoy. May is just around the corner, so I'm staying focused on that. Picked up this pretty fuchsia lipstick I shall wear out today, crisis temporary averted Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Hasina Posted March 8, 2014 I'm feeling like this too. I've been avoiding friends and family. I can't remember the last time I went to a social gathering. It's pretty much been work and school. That's it. Even there, I keep my to myself. It's starting to affect my salah and my imaan generally. I'm just in a dark place right now. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Safferz Posted March 8, 2014 <cite> @Hasina said:</cite> I'm feeling like this too. I've been avoiding friends and family. I can't remember the last time I went to a social gathering. It's pretty much been work and school. That's it. Even there, I keep my to myself. It's starting to affect my salah and my imaan generally. I'm just in a dark place right now. Hasina, sometimes being stuck in a rut can be a sign of something more serious, like depression. Describing yourself as being in a dark place and avoiding friends and family is more concerning than simply being bored with your routine, I think. Have you thought about seeing a doctor or trying counseling? How long has this been going on? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nin-Yaaban Posted March 8, 2014 Safferz, try volunteering somewhere helping and working with those less fortunate. Makes you appreciate what you have in life. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Alpha Blondy Posted March 8, 2014 <cite> @Safferz said:</cite> I wonder what happened to the report a comment to the mods option. Go away, this is the last time I will respond to you directly or engage with your desperate attempts to get my attention. Stay away from me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Saxansaxo Posted March 8, 2014 It's normal to feel that way. You're not alone in that, what helps me is reminding my self of why I have chosen to stay in this exact path. Building ones future makes one forget living in the moment or enjoying it sometimes. I know I have done so many a times, forgot living, not making time for the litle things I enjoy doing, because I'm busy planning for the next task or day/week. Hopefully it'll be all worth it someday. InshaAllah khair and happy b day in advance:) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
