Circumcision wars, child custody, culture and the girl child

[Che -Guevara]

Aden and Aly met through a Muslim dating website. Aden was a trained nurse, originally from Somalia but living in Minnesota, while Aly was an Egyptian engineering student living in Canada. Despite the hurdles of visas, borders and immigration hassles, their relationship blossomed and in April 2011, they married. The newly married couple began their life together, with Aden commuting across the border to the United States to work as a nurse and Aly continuing his studies in Ontario.

 

However, it wasn't long before their secret pasts were revealed to one another. Aly learned that Aden had been married before to a Somali man whom she had divorced, and Aden learned that Aly had been married not once but four times before, and suspected that he was still married to another woman in Egypt. As the skeletons in the closet were revealed, their relationship became increasingly strained, leading to bickering, fights and even physical violence. Despite all the abuse suffered by Aden, she continually returned to Aly after leaving him multiple times. Despite the roller coaster of bruises and betrayals, Aden became pregnant, giving birth to a baby girl in April 2012.

 

About six months after the birth, Aden returned to work as a nurse across the border in Buffalo, New York, entrusting the baby to Aly's care while she worked. Although this arrangement lasted for some time, the violence returned, its ugliness magnified even more by the presence of the baby. In the incident that ended it all, Aden alleged that Aly had not only beaten her but thrown the baby - now eight months old - across the room. She did not, however, take the baby to the emergency room; when the child was seen at a scheduled appointment the next day, doctors found no sign of injuries. Regardless, the terror of the altercation was enough to get Aden to finally pack her bags in secret and leave with the baby for Minnesota.

 

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[Che -Guevara]

Never understood two things-people who blindly look for mates online date/marriage sites and women who put up with abuse.

 

What headache!

[Guzel]

Well at least she did not put up with the abuse and left him but to use FGM as a weapon against him when she is Somali is not clever.

[Che -Guevara]

"Despite all the abuse suffered by Aden, she continually returned to Aly after leaving him multiple times"

 

She did put up with it. It took the birth of their child for her to come to her senses. The first sign of violence should be an indication. In any case, we don't know what compel her to go back but good luck to her.

 

FGM would have been good defense if she would have made herself victim of FGM and argue she doesn't want her child to go through the same horrible experience.

[Guzel]

It is hope that makes people go back to abusers, hope he will change and a need to work the marriage out. But i never understood women who put up with it for years and years, living on the edge because the person could flip anytime is not a way to live. Aden married a stranger, four marriages is not an easy matter to hide.

 

Why is her name Aden though?

[Che -Guevara]

It's her last name.

 

Four marriages and he was still married! Abusers are smart enough to isolate these women and make them dependent on them.

[oba hiloowlow]

Apophis;927584 wrote:

The first two paragraphs are woefully written. I wasn't sure if Aden was the man or if Aly was.

confusing as F

[GaroweGal]

Lord have Mercy, I am more than certain if Aly was a Somali man the sister would never have put up with all the abuse the whole clan would have been on his back but of course if the man in question is an ajanabi the Somali sisters tend to tolerate a whole lot and put up with all the abuse from non-Somali men!!!

[Alpha Blondy]

just another case of a self-hating somali female lusting after non-somali men miyaa?

 

maay wax isku falan?

[GaroweGal]

Alpha---there are quit a few on SOL that are ajanabi loving and anti-Somali.

[Alpha Blondy]

^ who are these GGoow? EXPOSE them for their lustful lingering thoughts. NAME & SHAME them.

[GaroweGal]

Alpha please refer to the white dress topic in the Women's section. I'm certain it will not be hard to identify them.

[Alpha Blondy]

i will check this thread immediately..... upon which i will bombard them with pictures of Alpha

[oba hiloowlow]

GG, you go girl.

[D.O.C]

A man who couldn't even handle his baby in a country that is not his,,,,,,,, what a NOPE!