Situational Friendships Versus Transcendental Friendhiships

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somalee;912835 wrote:

I'm deeply fascinated by the concept of ''Friends for the sake of Allah''. Unfortunately I have never had such a friend in my life. Someone to constantly remind you of Allah whenever you go astray and yet whom you can have an intelligent discourse with. Not the current wadaads who constantly nag you with Palestine and how the west is conspiring against Muslims, those who think the mention of ''girl'' in a conversation will lead to hell. I think friendship for the sake of Allah is transcendental. I remember once I was in Kenya and my aabo calls me and tells me to pass by the grave of his long time friend and pray for him, recite some quran on it. That kind of friendship which transcends even death.

I had one, he was brilliant - would lead us in prayer, Qur'an constantly on in his room, woke up at 3am in the morning for extra prayers and all. Unfortunately he back-slide and run off with the village beauty...Now he can't look me in the eye. Perhaps we had put the poor chap on a high pedestal and it was impossible for him to stay up there. There was another potential candidate, but I felt he judged us sinners (fasiqiin) too much. He wouldn't say anything, just smile in a creepy way, we just drifted apart and now we bump into each other at mosques and we keep saying we should meet up for lunch, reconnect, yada yada, but nada, nothing happens!

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Alpha Blondy;912839 wrote:

friendship is an ideal and value so sacred but a little overused these days. long terms friendships are particularly important. but new friends can also be important as you can learn from them. friendship should be based on strong companionship, trust and loyalty. that's what i think.

It gets even worse when you throw in FB and Twitter friends...

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Aaliyyah;912843 wrote:

What do they say, love all but trust a few.You only need few close friend that you can trust wholwheartedly. Arabs have a saying if there are too many cooks the soup gets spoiled. The more friends you have the more superficial those relationships will be.

Aaliyah I am not talking of acquaintances, heck if I beat every bush at least 3 acquaintances will jump out of it - even the school janitor can be an acquaintance and yell "hey buddy" across the hall. When you go shopping at the local mall, you wil meet many acquaintances going about their businesses and you stop and exchange some pleasantries - howdy, howz the weather, did you fix that lawnmower of yours, howz the wifey/husband - and off you go. In my own private life, in schools and workplaces, I know at least half the schoolmates/workmates and consider then acquaintances. I ain't talking of that sis; am talking real friendships here...

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Apophis;912846 wrote:

I'm liking your (mostly) intelligent threads Qansax. Keep em coming. And I'd make Alpha my "situational friend", the situation being Doctor-patient in an insane asylum.

Kkk. Thanks for your back-handed compliment Apophis; very British....reminds me of Yes Minster! and Yes Prime Minister!

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Abu-Salman;912920 wrote:

Had read about how crucial friendship is and how modernity has eroded it (relations are seen as key to health, happiness etc);

our elders used to treat friends like close family.

 

Friendship not built on spirituality and mutual encouragement towards good is doomed and superficial by definition (the rest should and can be overlooked with greater wisdom).

You are describing the Islamic concept of friendship? Should we aspire to that then?

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Rumaysah;912931 wrote:

As we grow up, we realise it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones.

 

 

Good friends are hard to find so when you find one, hold on tight!

Where do you draw the line between holding tight and letting go? I think both are important...