A question

[Beerlula]

Would appreciate if u guys could tell me if it's permissible for a muslim woman to marry a muslim man who doesn't pray or fast but who is otherwise a good person.

[LuCkY]

SaLaaMz,

 

I highLy doubt it...i wiLL Leave this to the rest who can answer...i have heard and read somewhere that it is not permissibLe.<---Correct me if im wrong.

 

ONe thing to keep in mind though:

1-What separates musLims from Kaffirs is praying.

2-What separates musLims from Kaffirs is foLLowing through with ALLah's commmandments[this incLudes the Qu'ran,hadiiths,sunnah and etc.].

 

Some of the CuLumma say that a person that doesnt pray isnt musLim referring to them as kaffiriins.Whereas other CuLummas say otherwise...saying you cant caLL a musLim person kaffir whether they pray or not so Long as they dont renounce ALLah.

 

But i am sure that someone if not more of you have more insight on this...so pLz come out of your sheLLs and shed some LIght on the subject.

[Nur]

Beerlula Sis

 

As your name implies, you have shaken my Liver out of synch, my dear little sister in Islaam, so my answer to your question may make me a BEER DILLAACSHE.( a Liver Disector)

 

 

Marriage in Islam is a sacred relationship of two servants of allah who will join in a relationship to start a family and who will make Allah SWT their guardian in this life and their saviour in the next.

 

Prayer is the center pillar of Islam, unless a pesron lives in the south pole, chances are they would know that Muslims are expected to pray.

 

Prayer is an act of surrender of our will to a higher authority, Allah.

 

 

Allah made man superior to all of his creastures, " Wa laqad karramnaa banii Aadama"

 

Allah ordered Satan to bow down in respect to Adam, our father, but satan refused to obey allah to bow down to Adam.

 

That act made satan cursed ( denied mercy) forever.

 

Now Allah asked mankind to pray for him, ALONE.

 

So, anyone who refuses to pray to Allah is a friend of Satan, his is no good, because the way to measure goodness is how Allah SWT measured and he said : " Falaa Saddaqa, wa laaa sallaa, wa laakin kadhaba wa tawallaa"

 

" He did not beleive ( good enough) so he did not pray, instead, he disbelieved ( did not take Allah serious enough),and as a result, he ignored (prayers)

 

 

Now, if Satan was cursed for refusing to Bow down to Adam , what makes a pesron who refuses to pray a Muslim?

 

 

Nur

[Beerlula]

Lucky, thanks walaal for your reply.

 

Nur,

 

Jazk. Khayr for your elaborate answer. I have really been thinking about this question for a while and your answer couldn't have cone at a better time. Again, Illahay Khayr haa ku siiyo!

 

Another question though,(I hope I am not bothering u) What if this brother promises to pray and starts praying b4 marriage. As is the case with a lot of taariku salat they usually pray for a while and then stop and then resart( u know that cycle). I can't guarantee how long he will continue praying. Is it ok to get into this union with such a promise. I will never know if he will continue or will not.

[Nur]

Walaashey Beer Lula

 

When companies introduce a new product to be sold to the market they make sure that it is :

 

1. Good quality

2. Tolerates lot of user abuse

3. functions well for many years

 

So they have a department within the engineering division called Testing Department, their job is to make sure that this new product meets the above requirements.

 

Then the product is introduced to the market.

 

Now, a husband and a wife is not a product to be used for a short period like the above product, so the testing should be more elaborate and extensive, because most men and women under the influence of love would sign any documents to get married, some will even change their religion altogether.

 

Make sure that the person has genuinly changed, that he becomes closer to Allah SWt, and wait a good period to see if his relationship with Allah SWT is firm over time, then make itsikhaarah, consult family and friends and tawakal calal Allah.

 

 

So, my advice is like the Chinese say,

 

Before marriage OPEN BOTH EYES

 

After marriage, CLOSE ONE EYE ( cuz you are stuck with him, possibly with ten kids)

 

 

Nur

[Beerlula]

Thanks Bro. Nur, I appreciate your response in clarifying the matter for me.

[Reality Check]

Beerlula,

 

does he believe in God? If yes, and he isn't an athiest..then he just needs time..maybe as his wife, you will influence him in a positive way. Otherwise, if you are seeking to marry a strong mulsim, let him know that..and give him time to find the right path....or DROP HIM!