Sierra Posted March 16, 2012 I think my parents are getting divorced. And its all my fault:( . Anything I can do to prevent this from happening? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Naxar Nugaaleed Posted March 16, 2012 how old are you? No there is nothing you can do and its never a child's fault that two grown people have decided that they are better off separate... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NGONGE Posted March 16, 2012 I was about to say "ban this little kid" but then I notcied that "she" is a MOD! What's that? p.s. Mummy and Daddy love each other too much but, sometimes, love is not enough. Granny might have been whispering again. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Narniah Posted March 16, 2012 NGONGE;804681 wrote: I was about to say "ban this little kid" but then I notcied that "she" is a MOD! What's that? Don't you ever get tired of this grumpy old spiel you vomit against new comers?!? Sierra I'm so sorry about this. You need to talk them and tell them how you feel. I hope they don't get divorced, If all else fails, Pray for them. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Somalia Posted March 16, 2012 NGONGE;804681 wrote: I was about to say "ban this little kid" but then I notcied that "she" is a MOD! What's that? p.s. Mummy and Daddy love each other too much but, sometimes, love is not enough. Granny might have been whispering again. Should we ruin her rep? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Miriam1 Posted March 16, 2012 Sorry hun. Whatever you said/did that makes you think its your fault - IT'S NOT. Your parents were most likely having difficulties in the marriage for a long time. Take a step back and realize that you are not responsible for the relationships of others. If you are in your late teens/early twenties....start focusing on yourself. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NGONGE Posted March 16, 2012 Narniah;804787 wrote: Don't you ever get tired of this grumpy old spiel you vomit against new comers?!? Sierra I'm so sorry about this. You need to talk them and tell them how you feel. I hope they don't get divorced, If all else fails, Pray for them. Sometimes, newcomers need a bit of induction into the ways of SOL. And, anyway, forget about them. How did YOU manage to have three hundred posts without me noticing you? Let me go and read some of your previous stuff to see if I should throw some "grumpiness" your way. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Archdemos Posted March 16, 2012 Sorry Sierra things happen love but you can........ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Aaliyyah Posted March 16, 2012 sorry to hear that hun. I hope things become easy for you and your family, thats tough phase to go through. Although I believe marriage is till death do you apart (taasi wa hadalki habar fadhida oo waxa layidhi lagdin la fudud) but in reality sometimes divorce is inevitable. Even though it is makruuh in islam to get divorced it is halaal because sometimes its best for the parents to go their separate ways. Inshallah khyr habiibti. Keep praying for your family. And about htat comment being your fault? if you think it is because of you (ie the way you dress act) and one parent being on your side the other one saying she needs to change blah blah just guessing then change your ways. Whatever that you think you did undo it...and see what happens. Otherwise, it is not your fault. It is just fate. salaam Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
burahadeer Posted March 16, 2012 I know how it feels.If you have brothers & sisters along some relatives,friends, try to talk it out your parents.Anyway stay strong.It's life,has ups & downs,sometimes powerless..believe me it could have been worse like in refugee camp. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Narniah Posted March 16, 2012 NGONGE;804858 wrote: Sometimes, newcomers need a bit of induction into the ways of SOL. And, anyway, forget about them. How did YOU manage to have three hundred posts without me noticing you? Let me go and read some of your previous stuff to see if I should throw some "grumpiness" your way. You can't see me because I'm invisible, I stay away from the Grumpy crowd.=) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Faarax-Brawn Posted March 16, 2012 Before you all say it is not the fault of the child, lets first ask her why she thinks she is the cause of the separation. Sierra. Hotel. India. Tango!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Malika Posted March 16, 2012 ^ erm , maxaa S.H.I.T aa? Lol FB - its very common for children to feel they are to be blamed, as they assume due to the nature of the arguments that they are to be blamed. Some children are very sensitive and somehow connect what is happening to their existance - if he/she wasnt there perhaps daddy and mummy would still be lovey dovey as they were in the past etc. Perhaps the child did something which igninate an argument between the parents - no knowing there are other underlying issues, the parents separate - the child then bares the guilt. Allah kuli xal It is tough times for Sierra - May Allah ease it for her. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Faarax-Brawn Posted March 16, 2012 Malika;805073 wrote: ^ erm , maxaa S.H.I.T aa? Lol FB - its very common for children to feel they are to be blamed, as they assume due to the nature of the arguments that they are to be blamed. Some children are very sensitive and somehow connect what is happening to their existance - if he/she wasnt there perhaps daddy and mummy would still be lovey dovey as they were in the past etc. Perhaps the child did something which igninate an argument between the parents - no knowing there are other underlying issues, the parents separate - the child then bares the guilt. Allah kuli xal It is tough times for Sierra - May Allah ease it for her. Indeed it is. the sh1t comment was being silly. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
