- Femme - Posted November 22, 2004 Silver Linings for a Muhajjibah Assalaamu 'alaykoum I was on my way to the grocery store today when I came to a busy intersection. Many cars were wanting to turn onto the street that I was crossing. I paused to let a car go because I figured "maybe he/she is in a hurry; I can wait an extra second or two." But then we ended up doing that little hand handwavy dance .... "no, go ahead." "no, you go ahead." "no, no, you go ahead." You know what I mean. So finally I went ahead, and as I was stepping out of the crosswalk into the curb, the person in the car leaned out the window. I noticed he was a young middle eastern man with a cellular phone. He said to me (over the traffic noise) "Because you are a Muslim!" Well, that got me thinking. About the pros of being a muhajjibah, and of being recognized as a Muslim. I decided to share some of them with you all. CON: Sometimes bums assume that I am a religious person, so they try to get me to feel sorry for them so I'll give them money. SILVER LINING: Extra opportunity for barakaat and da'wah. CON: Strange men yelling "ALI BABA ALI BABA" or "GO HOME IRAQI B*******" as they drive by in their pickups. SILVER LINING: Barakaat for the trials those fools put me though. *sob* *sob* CON: It's very hard for me to blend in at some places, like the county fairs; people look at me like I don't belong there, and I feel awkward. SILVER LINING: I don't dare enter a bar or nightclub. CON: I can't show off my hair. SILVER LINING: When it rains, I don't get "the frizzies." CON: Sometimes I am mistaken for a nun. SILVER LINING: I get to hear non Muslims refer to me as "sister." CON: Little kids stare at me rather rudely. SILVER LINING: I get to startle them by smiling and waving. Then I get to see them smile and wave back, too. CON: People don't bother to invite me to their parties. SILVER LINING: I don't have to go to people's parties. CON: Sometimes Muslims see me and look away like they are sorry they saw me. SILVER LINING: Once in a while, I'll meet a Muslim who maybe isn't practicing, but is very happy to see me and he will say to me, "It makes my heart feel good to meet a good Muslim." Not that I'm that good or anything, but it's the thought that counts! wassalaam, Sr. Hafidha Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Iffah Posted November 22, 2004 CON: Sometimes I am mistaken for a nun. SILVER LINING: I get to hear non Muslims refer to me as "sister." ... this just happened to me yesterday. Poor lady thought I was a nun and wanted to talk to me about this traumatic news she received. I thought she was gonna attack me by the way she was staring...but I was relieved to know she only needed me to comfort her. Needless to say she didn't quite believe me when I said I wasn't a nun but a staff person. I've also been mistaken for a ghost ... :confused: ..and been complimented on my supposed halloween costume Tx for sharing FF - it was a good read. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Blessed Posted November 22, 2004 ^^^ I see youre having loads of fun at work Nice post, didn't think of it like that CON: Strange men yelling "ALI BABA ALI BABA" or "GO HOME IRAQI B*******" as they drive by in their pickups. SILVER LINING: Barakaat for the trials those fools put me though. *sob* *sob* One of my niqaabi friends used to get this all the time. :rolleyes: She used to just tell them; well this is my country... find another line! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
- Femme - Posted November 22, 2004 I probably do not fit into the preconceived notion of a ``rebel.'' I have no visible tattoos and minimal piercings. I do not possess a leather jacket. In fact, when most people look at me, their first thought usually is something along the lines of ``oppressed female.'' The brave individuals who have mustered the courage to ask me about the way I dress usually have questions like: ``Do your parents make you wear that?'' or ``Don't you find that really unfair?'' A while back, a couple of girls in Montreal were kicked out of school for dressing like I do. It seems strange that a little piece of cloth would make for such controversy. Perhaps the fear is that I am harbouring an Uzi underneath it. You never can tell with those Muslim fundamentalists. When I was younger my classmates used to pester me with questions about the hijab: Did I have cancer? Was I bald? Did I hate my hair? Was my hair diry and uncombed and I was trying to hide it underneath this cloth? IT wasnt funny back then...I remember getting into countless fights and ripping my hijab off my head to show them.LOL. I forced my mom to comb and braid my hair every single day...incase I had to show those little twits that I wasnt BALD. But now..years later...IM LIKE SCREW THAT!!! The funniest incident with the hijab has to be one that happened 2 years ago. I walking towards the bus station when this kid around his 20's with a 10 inch PINK and PURPLE MOHAWK came across from me. As we passed each other he looked at me hard and asked me "why the hell was I wearing that on my head?". Instead of being offended I swear I almost busted a gut laughing. The Nerve .LOL Aaaaaahhhhhhhh...the good old days Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sheherazade Posted November 25, 2004 Reminds me of the Sikh guy with the tres huge turban saying to me, 'Why are you wearing that?' and pointing to my head. I had a internal giggling fit but I kept a straight face and explained. I turned the conversation to Sikhism and oh suddenly he doesn't want to talk religion anymore. Still, I rock on. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Iffah Posted November 26, 2004 Lol @ you too.. Meenah Sure, it can be fun & there are usually some hilarious incidents happening - but there are also times I feel like strangling someone and it's almost always some snobbish dude in a lab coat Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
