Where is my Malaysian Gal??

[rudy-Diiriye]

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Malaysia 'obedient wives' club: Good sex is a duty:

 

RAWANG, Malaysia – As a new bride, 22-year-old Ummu Atirah believes she knows the secret to a blissful marriage: obey her husband and ensure he is sexually satisfied.

Ummu and some 800 other Muslim women in Malaysia are members of the "Obedient Wives Club" that is generating controversy in one of the most modern and progressive Muslim-majority nations, where many Muslim Malaysian women hold high posts in the government and corporate world.

The new club, launched Saturday, says it can cure social ills such as prostitution and divorce by teaching women to be submissive and keep their men happy in the bedroom.

"Islam compels us to be obedient to our husband. Whatever he says, I must follow. It is a sin if I don't obey and make him happy," said Ummu, who wore a yellow headscarf.

The club, founded by a fringe Islamic group known as Global Ikhwan, has been dismissed by politicians and activists as a throwback to Medieval times and an insult to modern women of Malaysia. But the group's activities, which previously included the setting up of a Polygamy Club, show that pockets of conservative Islamic ideas still thrive in Malaysia.

Groups such as Global Ikhwan are unlikely to gain much popularity beyond generating shock value. Still, there is concern that radical groups could garner support among other Muslims, who make up 60 percent of the 28 million population, and upset decades of carefully nurtured racial and religious harmony.

"Unfortunately even today, there are still many Muslim women who are ignorant of their rights or culturally inhibited to exercise their rights in full," said Shahrizat Abdul Jalil, a female Muslim minister in charge of family policy.

Despite the group's conservative Islamic background, Rohayah Mohamad, one of the founders of the club, openly talks about the virtues of marital sex even though most of her colleagues are shy about the topic.

"Sex is a taboo in Asian society. We have ignored it in our marriages but it's all down to sex. A good wife is a good sex worker to her husband. What is wrong with being a whore ... to your husband?" she said.

"This way, the family institution is protected and we can curb social ills," said Rohayah, the club's vice president who is also a trained physician.

She said wives must go beyond the traditional roles as good cooks or good mothers and learn to "obey, serve and entertain" their husbands to prevent them from straying or misbehaving.

Indirectly, "disobedient wives are the cause for upheaval in this world" because men are not happy at home and their minds and souls are disturbed, she said.

Authorities recently said Malaysia's divorce rate has doubled from 2002 to 2009 with higher rates among Malay Muslims.

"When husbands come home, wives do not welcome their husbands with warm alluring smiles and sexy dressing ... That is the reality today," she said.

The Global Ikhwan group is an offshoot of former members of the Al-Arqam sect outlawed in 1994 after its teachings were found to have deviated from Islam. It is funded by the group's restaurants, grocery stores, poultry and other businesses abroad.

Most of the 800 women who are members of the new club, including Ummu the new bride, also belong to Al-Arqam.

Expectedly, the club has faced intense criticism.

Some Malaysians started a Facebook page called "We do not want sexist nonsense from Global Ikhwan."

One Muslim man, Amirul Aftar, wrote: "I do not want a wife to submit to my every beck and call. I want a wife who understands me ... we are not your masters, we are your equal."

Women's group, Sisters in Islam, said Islam advocates marriages based on mutual cooperation and respect. It said domestic violence happens regardless of women's behavior.

"Communication, not submission, is vital to sustain any healthy relationship," it said.

[samonia]

She said wives must go beyond the traditional roles as good cooks or good mothers and learn to "obey, serve and entertain" their husbands to prevent them from straying or misbehaving

 

Malaysia 'obedient wives' club: Good sex is a duty

 

and what is he goin to do in return i wonder !!!!!!!

[Malika]

^Honour her by marrying her?..:D

 

Rudy - you have been missing a good thing all these years! intaa xaliimoo wax kaa shegeysee, you should have been in Malaysia bro!

[Axmed-InaJaad]

mashallah malaysian woman are real muslim woman who know their roles. they need to teach clases to somali girls

[Blessed]

Indirectly, "disobedient wives are the cause for upheaval in this world" because men are not happy at home and their minds and souls are disturbed, she said.

Ah, the good old 'wixii xunba Xaawaa leh'. Rather, these 'men' are not raised to take responsibility for their own actions. If a married Muslim man is misbehaving and messing around, it's because he is a weak man wh*re who lacks respect for the xuduud of Allah, pure and simple. Islam compels a man to be obedient to his Creator and submit to His will first and foremost....

[Nina Fox]

An ideal wife favoured by most men is a woman is pregnant and barefoot in the kitchen. What is this the Stoneage? The words Submission, Obedience, Respect, etc, go both ways. If these ingredients are "forced" upon one person, then thats not a marriage, its modern-day slavery. Thats just my 2 Roubles.

[Showqi]

^ We don't accept roubles. Sorry.................. Labo shillin waxaan ahayn ma qaadano.

[Aaliyyah]

An ideal wife favoured by most men is a woman is pregnant and barefoot in the kitchen. What is this the Stoneage? The words Submission, Obedience, Respect, etc, go both ways. If these ingredients are "forced" upon one person, then thats not a marriage, its modern-day slavery. Thats just my 2 Roubles.

lol Nina I agree with you. I must say there is nothing wrong abt a woman thats pregnant who is in love with her husabnd who wants to be in the kitchen and cook for her husband. However, you are right they made it sound as if its one way-street!..

 

if both the husband and the wife take the extra mile to serve one another, life will be bliss! waxba ma xumanayaan..

 

salaam

[Aaliyyah]

One Muslim man, Amirul Aftar, wrote: "I do not want a wife to submit to my every beck and call. I want a wife who understands me ... we are not your masters, we are your equal."

that is what every man should say. Minus we are your equals..men and women are not equal in Islam. But, I kinda understand where he's coming from..he means when it comes to marriage he is her equal he has to give as much as he takes..and make sure he is not just taking and abusing her love..

 

take notes farahs

 

salaam

[Nina Fox]

Im all for Love, Honour and Respect in a marriage. But the way "some" men view marriage is as if they are buying cattle and one must wait on them, hand and foot. Whatever happened to the wife being your pride, a marriage being a happy union that encompasses love and all. A union that symbolises give and take. Despicable!

 

Showqi lool@ laba shillin.

[Che -Guevara]

Marriage is over-rated.

[genius pauper.]

in fact it is a treasure if a wife is obedient to her husband, and that has no limits. the man too, has to be kind and obedient.

 

waloow ey dhib badan yihiin dumarka badankooda, in lawanaajiyo ayeey quruxdu kujirtaa. but me, walee wan wanaajin.

 

p.s. however a woman loves her husband, muran un weey keeni. and the men have to know how to handle this perfectly.