umu zakaria Posted July 26, 2007 Salama Aleikum, A couple have been married for 16 yrs and now the husband took a third wife who is very old, now the mother of 10 children is demanding a divorce on the basis that her husband disrespected her by marrying an old woman and not consulting her? they have not been in so good terms, the husband says he will never ever divorce his wife as he loves her apparently and he wont divorce his new one either, he says the only way out is i will travel and leave her instead og giving her a divorce? The kids all support thierm mother coz the dad mistreats and even beat his wife, are the caasi by standing up for their mum? what is the first wife's right here? harry up pls with insights thank u for any insights Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Blessed Posted July 26, 2007 The kids all support thierm mother coz the dad mistreats and even beat his wife, are the caasi by standing up for their mum? I don't think that they are casi, unless they are throwing insluts at him. If one party is doing wrong, then they have to stnad up for whats just. It's funny though, the sister is willing to put up with his abuse not an older co-wife. As for a woman who seeks to divorce her husband, there's an authentic hadith in Bukhari where a woman asked the Prophet (saw) to grant her a divorce from her husband, she had no complaints of his character or manners but had a genuine dislike for him. The Prophet (saw) asked her if she would return her dowry (a graden) she agreed and this lead to the dissolution of the marriage. Whilst divorce is discouraged for both men and women and should only be sought after all avenues of reconciliation have been exhausted, there is nothing in Islam that prohibits the woman to seek divorce, that stupidness is from culture and misunderstanding of hadith text. I hope that helps. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Khayr Posted July 26, 2007 A Marriage that produced 10 kids has some history there.... InnAllah Macaa Sabareen Consult with your local Imam not SOL'ers Fi Amanillah Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
- Femme - Posted July 26, 2007 Yikes. Divorce for second marriage but not for BEATING & MISTREATING? There is something wrong there. [edit] Hold up. I read wrong - he married his THIRD wife? Meaning the lady in question is the second? Can I laugh here or is that mean? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
umu zakaria Posted July 27, 2007 hey guyz, Khayr just want others opinion, the troubled family sought imams rulings , dont know the outcome yet. Andrameda, The man had two wives before but the old wife claims if he must marry again , he must marry some1 much younger than me! the new one wont produce kidz so is west of time, but the man claims to be deeply in love! it is so twisted, iam confused until now. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
