STOIC Posted February 7, 2013 My Muslim neighbor just came back from India.After four months of newspaper advertisement and countless interviews he found a suitable mate for his college graduate daughter! I used to hear that in Indian culture economically it is more taxing to have a girl than it is to have a boy because you have to pay a dowry to the man’s family whom your daughter is to be married to.My neighbor explained to me that he basically paid the man and his family.Gave them a college educated American citizen daughter for nothing...Weird culture.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
N.O.R.F Posted February 7, 2013 ^It is a weird culture. Thing is they know its wrong but carry on with it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NGONGE Posted February 7, 2013 ^^ And after all that, the girl goes to live with her mother in law and gets bossed around by her new husband's family. Can't we find one of those for Wyre? :D Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
STOIC Posted February 7, 2013 I knew they do those stuff, but i have never met someone that had done it..I spent half an hour with him yesterday to explain to me how it worked. I told him the American citizenship should worth more than the dowry they were all asking.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Malika Posted February 7, 2013 ^Indeed, a weird culture...Now the guy and his family will not only gain a wife, but a worker, cook, cleaner and forever devotion till death do them part..I would have sucked as an Indian woman, koleybaa wala igubii laha by now..Loool Afternoon folks! Maxa la shegee? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
STOIC Posted February 7, 2013 They already started processing the relocation sharcii stuff for him...Way unfair to the girl family..Men got it easy in that culture Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Malika Posted February 7, 2013 ^Yep - listening to the radio this morning about how doctors in Rajastani are willy nilly removing uterus from young women - made my blood boil. I grew up surrounded by Indians - it sure would have sucked to be born an Indian woman..noloshuu waa dib miraan. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NGONGE Posted February 7, 2013 Malika, "Sati" only applied when the woman was a widow and wanted to die with her husband. Don't panic, unless you kill him they will not burn you. (welcome back by the way. Long time no see and all that). Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
STOIC Posted February 7, 2013 Malika, When you read this stuff or hear it somewhere back your mind you doubt if it even exist, but to have practicing people sort takes you back..I doubt they will change anytime soon..Indeed Sucks to be born in that culture Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NGONGE Posted February 7, 2013 ^^ Each culture has its faults. Bet you many Indians wonder about ours. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Malika Posted February 7, 2013 Ngonge - my family would have burned me, too independent for my own good even in the Somali standards..lol. Stoic, it is harsh culture. One of my friends, she was a Patel, got married - not only to a well to do guy, but light skinned too [she made a point of that when she wrote to me] but my other friend whom the family was 'tailors' has not married, as there are 5 girls in the family, the father cant afford the dowry so they have all grown old at home...Nor did their brothers got married, being poor and a female is a curse in Indian culture. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nuune Posted February 7, 2013 ^^ Do they still do the dowry thing in India, meher badan ha la iga bixiyee waa inaan isku diyaariyaa Heydarabad, do I have a say how much dowry I need from the girl(sounds weird writing this). Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Malika Posted February 7, 2013 Ngonge, thanks! been ill and lazy to post.. So what have I missed? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NGONGE Posted February 7, 2013 ^^ Other than the glorious return of sheikh nuune you mean? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Malika Posted February 7, 2013 ^ha ha - Sheikh nuune's return is indeed glorious - illahi haa dayo! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
