DeadlyVision Posted February 19, 2005 1. YOUR PERSONALITY AND ITS IMPROVEMENT ... Let's suppose that you have two friends, Rasmi and Abdull. You're fond of them both, and even though they are not alike, you still wouldn't want to say that one was a better friend than the other. Rasmi is a lively fellow, full of energy, seemingly always in high spirits, and exciting to be with because he can usually think of something that's fun to do. He's a friendly boy and knows almost everyone in school. One reason that he is likable is that he is quick to start a conversation with anyone he meets. He is witty, too, and good-humored. Whenever he is in a crowd, there are sure to be laughter and good feelings. He has his faults, of course, as we all do, and they can sometimes be very annoying. He is careless about money and appointments. Many are the times that he has borrowed money from you, and few are the times that he has paid it back. It hurts you sometimes to see him treating the crowd with borrowed money-money that will probably never be repaid. Yet you like him so much that you seldom refuse him a loan. It bothers you, too, that Rasmi is so undependable about appointments. You may plan to meet him at a movie at on o'clock on Saturday. You're there on time in the faint hope that Rasmi will be prompt for once. But again he disappoints you. He saunters up at one thirty-five without apologyies, but with such a cheerful greeting that you're glad to see him in spite of yourself. Rasmi is lazy too. He's good at getting his friends to come to his rescue when he has a job to do. You've helped him with his lawn-mowing, though he has never helped you. You've even taken his paper route sometimes when he has asked you to, although it has meant getting up at four in the morning to do so. You don't know just what it is about Rasmi, but somehow he makes you want to do favors for him. Abdull is just about as different from Rasmi as anyone could be. He's a quiet boy and doesn't make friends easily. Many people don't like Abdull very well. They have nothing against him particularly; they just aren't drawn to him. But you have found Abdull a true friend, and you like him very much. You can trust him completely. You can tell him anything, and it will be safe with him. He's never double-crossed you. He's absolutely dependable in other ways too. If he says he'll do something for you, you know it will be done and done well. Abdull is wonderful at repairing bicycles, radios, cars, or anything else, it would seem. He reads a great deal, and he can tell you about government afairs, travel in foreign countries, and sports events too, although many people would be surprised to hear this. Though not active himself, he keeps up on sports, and you can ask him about any of the national or local football or baseball games, and he knows the answer. Which of these two boys has the better personality? Ask the fellows at school, and they'll probably all say, "Oh, Rasmi, of course." But if you were to ask a psychologist, you migh find that his answer would be different. ... Basically, I shared this with you all because as Somalis we are more created by Allah with the charactristics of Abdull and have his abilities at most. However, we tend to go off line and cross battle zones to grow and become how Rasmi is in living. ... Be who you be, never fall in the traps of those who say you are this and you are that. ~1~ PME=Peace'Middle'East DV _LostWon_ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
runawayvirgin Posted February 24, 2005 Nurture Vs. Nature? how could we really know whether we were born as Abuls or Rasmis? Also, on what bases do we actually differenciate Nurture from Nature? I mean is there specific measurement that clarify what type of charactristics we adapt from our environment and Charactristics that are natural? people change to fit in because that is what their society advocates. I think Psychology is a study based on confusion(@least for me). Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
