Poll: Marry a married man or a Non-Somali man?

[Captain Xalane]

Originally posted by Nur:

Aaliyah sis writes:

 

Xalane.....looks like u are da type of man who goes for woman who makez lota money.

Aaliyah likes to guess,lol.I go for none but a woman who is down to earth.Thats the kinda man i am.

[Aaliyyah]

as you wrote : The Egyptians have a saying " Idaa tazawajtal qirda li maaluh, yaruuxul maal, wa yabqal qird calaa xaaluh" true that walahi, at the end of the day the money is gonna fade away , so what ye gonna do den ? divorce him/her? we do need to get real and get married based on character and diin, cuz dat certainly lasts. Well said brother Nur couldnt have said it better.

 

Xalane ina/adeer xaaal qaado, waxaan is laha lacag u daba ordaya ileen lookskeeda ku cajabiyey lol, gabadh kasto ka so hor baxda ma ku dhaha " Honey do u look like Fahima ? " lol someone need to hook u up with her , i do know sum of her cousins i shall c what i can do lol.

 

Wa salaamu alaikum

[Captain Xalane]

Originally posted by AAliyah416:

ileen lookskeeda ku cajabiyey lol

Haa nooh

[UK_ROSE]

I'd Marry a Married man any time.. So long as he is goodlooking, rich and Successful.

 

Oh, yeh and a Somali..

[Rahima]

I wouldn't marry a married man if he was the last man on earth.

[Nur]

Rahima sis

 

 

A better statement would be:

 

" I do not see myself marrying a married man at present."

 

 

Biologists say we are a different person every 12 years as all of our cells change, psychologically we frequently change with emotions that at times change our outlook 180 degrees, and spiritually, it was reported that the Prophet SAWS used to supplicate " Allaahumma yaa muqallibal quluub, thabbit qalbii calal islaam " I am not sure of the siighah, meaning, O transformer of outlooks, keep my outlook and belief fixed on Islam.

 

That statement of yours represets an outlook of a period in your life, based on your present priorities and taste, which are known to change, on one hand, and your self esteem and pride as you value them, on the other. some people who made similar statements lived to regret making superlative statements like the above, depending on the driver of that statement, which is apparent to Allah alone, it can either be harmless or a haunting statment, i pray for your Mucaafaat ( safety from harms way) in this life and the other.

 

Nur

[Rahima]

Nur it was an over exaggerated statement for I do not know what my future holds.

 

However, it was an expression of my extreme dislike of it.

[-Serenity-]

All this talk of marrying a married man makes me dislike all somali men walaahi! After all, even when the supposed 'best' among them are so delusional and selfish, what could we expect from simple minded everyday faaraxs?

 

I'll take the non-somali anyday over a married one!

[StarGazer]

I can't believe you created this topic....lol.

[Socod_badne]

Originally posted by -Serenity-:

All this talk of marrying a married man makes me dislike all somali men walaahi!

Ms. chameleon, we can discern your general dislike for Somali men even through this flaccid excuse of yours that claims talk of second wives is putting you off, so much so that you dislike all Somali men. What a hogwash!

 

 

After all, even when the supposed 'best' among them are so delusional and selfish, what could we expect from simple minded everyday faaraxs?

To derive qualitative judgements like best and simple minded takes keen acumen and elevated intelligence. It's been common knowledge for quite sometime now that discernment, ability to connect the dots or detect patterns is supreme sign of intelligence. Sadly, most women and dare I say most humans come deficient in these qualities. Thus, why they perpetually make the wrong decisions. They somehow expect by magic or osmosis a person will turn good.

 

At our core we remain pretty match the same throughout our lifes. Sure, we shed and adopt some qualities as part of life's learning process but rarely will you ever see a munifenct man turn into greedy one. So, if you women get hitched to a schnook, who's fault is it? Wouldn't it be yours? Weren't you the one amiss in the selection process? And facile excuses like there aren't enough good men out there doesn't cut it no more. For one thing, it's nothing but defeatist moans. Secondly, it's self-fulfilling prophecy, not empirical fact.

 

 

The world belongs to those who take it. Scarcely will the world present you with free lunch, you gotta earn it through hard labour. In my neck of the woods, no free tripe for cats. Unless you were born with silver spoon in your mouth you gotta bust your butt to make ends meet. Wanna get decent paying job? Go through 12 years of generalised education and 4-10 more years of specialised training. Wanna climb atop of the corporate ladder? Be prepared to start at the very bottom and work your way up, at glacial pace! Every realisable and worthy goal is fraught with risks and rewards.... carries with it a challenge, sometimes dispiriting one, that requires spending great deal of energy, time and persistant assiduity. Assuming finding a husband/wife is realisable and worthy objective, why would it be any less taxing endeavor? It wouldn't, it isn't and the continuous failure of people to grasp this reality of life is what fuels their never ending frustration.

[LayZie G.]

Hell would freeze over before I end up with a married man, even with his millions, North.

 

I said this before, and I would say it again, don't let anyone or anything stop you from testing the outside of the somalisnmo waters.(even thought somalisnmo isn't a word, it still sounds good, try sounding it out loud)

 

 

I think marrying anybody, man or a woman for a temporal vanishing attribute is not a good idea, the ony attribute in a woman and a man that lasts the test of time is their faith and love for Allah, all others are a facade, and packaging, not that they are not desirable, I

Surely, this isn't the real you talking, its this other "NUR" character you created in SOL over the years, the one everyone adores and respects as someone said on your other thread. "If you disrespect NUR, you are disrespecting those that adore him as well", its like you're a cult leader or something to some of these people, but getting back to your above statement...

 

Even thought faith and love for allah goes along way in one's life ,the reality is love and respect for one another that keeps the relations from deteriorating.

[Socod_badne]

Originally posted by LayZieGirl:

Hell would freeze over before I end up with a married man, even with his millions, North.

Based on the unsupportable premise that what women say and what women do are one and the same. They are not!

 

An apposite example of the hypocracy and duplicitousness of some women is offered to us by Winston Churhill:

 

Perhaps the best Churchillian put-down occurred one evening when he was attending a more than usually dreary dinner. Churchill was being harangued by a young lady with a very strident voice about the state of the poor. Our hero had had a few sips of shandy, and, whilst not exactly as relaxed as a newt, found her voice, manner and views (she had probably never met a 'poor' person) decided he'd had enough.

 

"My dear," he leaned closer, "Your concern for the poor does you great credit. But are you really dedicated to the cause? For instance, if I were to offer you one million pounds to donate to any charity you chose, would you make love with me?"

 

She had no choice but to answer in the affirmative. Churchill's voice got rather louder; "Well would you sleep with me for a fiver?"

 

"Sir Winston! Just what do you think I am?"

 

The famous voice rose to full bellow; "Young lady, we've already established exactly what you are - now we're just haggling about the price."

 

The young lady left in a flood of tears and a London taxi, and the rest of the dinner passed in glorious peace

[Alle-ubaahne]

Originally posted by Rahima:

I wouldn't marry a married man if he was the last man on earth.

If you would have the opportunity to marry the Sheikh Shariif of the Islamic Courts of Somalia, I am sure your current position would be more than subject to change.

 

And you would be saying, "Ilaahow naagtuu rabo ha qabee, markoo lee muu i guursado."

 

I am also sure, Eedo Rahima, that you wouldn't mind marrying Sh. Xassan Daahir Aweys, given his old age and red beard!

 

[Rahima]

^Dude i wouldn't marry those two men even if they were not married or have never married before.

 

I have a whole list of reasons as to why, foremost of which is i wouldn't be able to communicate with either. That said, it doesn't mean i don't admire them.

 

Anyway, leave me alone .

[LayZie G.]

Dude i wouldn't marry those two men even if they were not married or have never married before.

Rahima, One woman's loss is another woman's gain. I would definitely consider Sheikh Shariif, the younger of the two rulers of the ICU if he was riding solo. Think of the power LayZie would have, I would finally punish the likes of Khayr and Co..(if they ever step foot in somalia that is)

 

Their neck is mine