Family Fun Game!

[Nur]

Nomads

 

This weekend, why not try the following game at home, assuming that players all have mom and pop, kids and even in laws or grannies.

 

The idea:

 

The following qualities are bad, undesirable to be found in our Character, as a family, we need to watch out for the ealy signs of these habits, so that we root them out of our system in a fun way.

 

A bad Character is not always genetically inherited ( Although insanity can be inherited from ones kids), its usually the result of years of oblivion and carelessness in being sensitive to others and their needs. in addition to a purpose for which one lives and if needed is willing to sacrifice all valuables.

 

 

1. Envy: A deadly character deficiency that annuls good deeds credis like fire according to hadeeth.

 

2. Pride: Result of insecurity, and halucination with insatible ego. According to hadeeth, " he who is proud ( Thinking to be better than others), Allah will demote him, and he who shows modesty ( to be like everyone else), Allah elevates him.

 

3. Backbiting others: A trait that shows weakness of character, a person who backbites others is seeking glory by putting others down.

 

4. Tazkiyatul Nafs ( Self Defense against mistakes and sins) : A person inflited with this defficiency will never admit mistake, nor allow others to point out his shortcoming, he/she is always right, " I would never do such a thing" is her response when responding to others mistakes.

 

5. Spying on others: This is a serious sin, this chatacter is constantly on the look out for a negative aspect of the victim, defamation being his ultimate objective.

 

6. Riyaa ( Show off): this character trait can result in discrediting of our deeds. A person who shows off their positive aspects or good deeds, is more into worldy glory than for Allah to take a notice of their deeds. Insincerity is the driver of Riyaa.

 

7. Over reaction in anger.

 

 

How o play this game:

 

In this weekend ( Saturday and Sunday), Family players will evaluate each others character and actions ( Evaluation of haracter does not mean spying, which is a bad character trait).

 

Family members will fill secret evaluation cards on each other , each one will record the negative character trait on siblings or parents, fold up the cards without signing. Each person fills separate cards on each person, so if family members are seven, each person will recieve sis evaluations, and give six evaluations for example:

 

Hassan ( Son) fills 6 folded evaluation cards on family members:

 

1. Mom: Envious of her friends, back bites friends, etc

 

2. Dad: Always right, never admits to be wrong,over reaction when angry.

 

3. Halima: too proud, envious,

 

4. Faarax: Too proud ( Mutakabbir), never accepts responsibility for own actions etc.

 

 

At the end of the game:

 

Cards will be collected and each family member self evaluates as they will count the points they have collected. The winner in this contest will be the family member with the least points.

 

Each member will work on reducing the negative aspect of their character for the next round of the game (following weekend), up until all the negative qualities are purged out of the household members.

 

 

Nur

[Haneefah]

A brilliant idea. But I have to admit, nowadays families rarely find the time to even have a meal together (with everyone's hectic schedule), let alone the time to play a game or spend quality time together (esp. when all have left home and married ).

 

I'll definitely keep this interesting game in mind for my future family though, Insha'Allah :cool: . I'm sure it would make a tremendous difference in the family dynamic and contribute to personal development.

[Malika]

Jazakha kheyr brother Nur, I definetly will try this game,as my daughter and I seem to have a communication breakdown at the moment, I say green,she says yellow..aarg!..I definetly need to work on the anger management!

 

Jazakha kheyr again

[Aaliyyah]

Nur masha-allah bro. This game sounds interesting, insha-allah I will try it with my parents and siblings some time, even though we barely get time, as Haneefah said familiaes are just pretty much busy nowadays and no one actually gets much of a family time. But, anyhow thanks, as always your posts are beneficial. Jazaka laahu khyr

 

wa salaamu alaikum

[Nur]

Haneefah, Maalikah and Caaliyah

 

Any results with the game?

 

 

Nur

[Malika]

^ To be honest,I didnt follow the game rules per say,but we have had some revelations..LoL,My daughter actually described me as the dad in your game..LOL I totally do overact,and perhaps that stems from fear of losing control,juggling so many balls in the air,one fears if they are not in control everything falls apart including the child. The communication is getting there,alhamdulillah!

 

In counseling this is called The Jowhari Window,usually you would ask those close to you,the people you trust to write or say how they see you,as always one tends to have a different perception to others of themselves. One might think they are kind,but those close to them might actually see them totally different,interesting stuff nevertheless!