Muna_muslimah222 Posted June 15, 2003 ANGER Allaah says: ".who repress anger, and who pardon men; verily, Allaah loves Al-Muhsinoon (the good-doers)." [Aal 'Imraan 3:134] "And those who avoid the greater sins, and Al-Fawaahish (illegal sexual intercourse), and when they are angry, they forgive." [al-Shooraa 42:37] This is because when a person does not restrain his anger, he insults, curses, swears and hits. Anger may be a door to all kinds of evil. The Prophet (saws) often advised people not to get angry. Al-Bukhaari narrated in al-Saheeh (6116) from Abu Hurayrah (raa) that a man said to the Prophet (saws), "Advise me." He said: "Do not get angry." The man repeated his request several times, and he said, "Do not get angry." The Prophet (saws) regarded the one who controls himself when he is angry as being the strongest of men. Al-Bukhaari narrated in al-Saheeh (6114) that the Messenger of Allaah (saws) said: "The strong man is not the one who can wrestle (fight); the strong man is the one who controls himself at the time of anger." Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar (may Allaah have mercy on him) made some important points in Fath al-Baari (10/520) in his commentary on the hadeeth "Do not get angry". He said: Al-Khattaabi said: The meaning of the phrase 'Do not get angry' is, Avoid the things that cause anger and do not expose yourself to that which provokes it. Anger itself could not have been forbidden, because it is something natural which cannot be removed from human nature. Ibn Battaal said: the hadeeth indicates. that striving to control oneself is more difficult than striving against the enemy, because the Prophet (saws) described the one who controls himself at times of anger as being the strongest of people. Ibn al-Teen said: in the words 'Do not get angry', the Prophet (saws) brought together the good of this world and of the Hereafter, because anger results in cutting off ties and withholding kindness, and it may lead to one doing harm to the person with whom one is angry, which diminishes one's religious commitment. One of the scholars said: Allaah created anger from fire, and made it an instinct in man. When there is a dispute, the flames of anger are fanned until a person's face and eyes become red, because the skin reflects what is underneath it. Anger produces external and internal changes, such as a change in colour, trembling, uncontrolled actions and a change in appearance, such that if the angry person could see himself when he is angry, he would feel ashamed of his ugly appearance and they way his appearance has changed. All of that is what happens on the outside. The internal effects are even worse, because it generates hatred in the heart, envy (hasad) and all kinds of bad feelings. The most ugly effects of anger are the internal effects, and the external changes are the results of the internal changes. All of this has an effect on the body. The effect on the tongue is that it speaks words of slander and foul language which the wise person would feel ashamed of, and the angry person regrets them when he calms down. The effects of anger can also be seen in people's actions, when they beat and kill. If the angry person does not have the chance to do that, he turns his anger against himself, tearing his garments and slapping his cheeks; sometimes he may have a seizure, or fall unconscious, or break vessels, or hit someone who has not done anything wrong. Whoever thinks about these evil actions will realize just how much wisdom there is in these gentle words of the Prophet (saws), 'Do not get angry,' and to how great an extent they protect people's interests by warding off this great evil which may otherwise lead who knows where. All of this has to do with anger for the sake of worldly things, not anger for the sake of religious matters. (Anger for the sake of Allaah is praiseworthy and recommended, such as anger when seeing evil actions). It helps a person not to get angry when he bears in mind what has been narrated concerning the virtues of restraining anger, and the warnings concerning the results of anger; he should also seek refuge with Allaah from the Shaytaan. and do wudoo'. And Allaah knows best." The Prophet (saws) was not a person who insulted or cursed others. It was reported in Saheeh al-Bukhaari (6031) that Anas ibn Maalik (raa) said: The Prophet (saws) was not a person who insulted people or used obscene language, and he did not curse people. If he wanted to rebuke anyone, he would say, "What is wrong with him? - may his forehead be rubbed with dust." With regard to the people whom you have prayed against, pray for good things for them, especially if you have been unfair to them in your prayers against them when they did not deserve such a thing. Ask Allaah to be kind to you, for a person's du'aa's may come back on him if he prays against someone who does not deserve that. You must keep your tongue busy with du'aa' and dhikr (remembrance of Allaah), because that brings peace to the heart. ". verily, in the remembrance of Allaah do hearts find rest" [al-Ra'd 13:28 - interpretation of the meaning]. Keep away from using your tongue to hurt other people. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad. 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Muna_muslimah222 Posted June 15, 2003 SHOWING ANGER Anger is from the shatan Anger will only bring you harm Being angry makes you weak You fill up with hatred and deceit Being angry clouds your view Take a step back And think things through Before your anger comes a boil Take a deep breath So things don’t spoil No one will benefit From words unkind It will only bring heartache And eyes that cry Instead of anger Try something new Try some Qur’an To pull you through Take the time away To sit and just pray Afterwards you will see How foolish you could be Allah will guide all of us to see Anger only brings Meanness and hearts to bleed Patients brings love, understanding And self esteem Choose the right path When anger sets in Pray to Allah And kindness will win. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wardi Posted June 15, 2003 Assallamu aleykum.MUNA sister i enjoy reading your post i learn today what anger does and may ALLAH reward you , thanks Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Batuulo Posted June 15, 2003 a/c wr wb maasha allaah kaana, muslimah jazaaki allaah khayr sis intresting article, I realy like it. thaanks Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
