Attributes of a Righteous Husband

[Buubto]

Asalaamu Aleikum wr wb

A while ago i posted topic called "Attributes of a Righteous wife" & now here is Attributes of a Righteous Husband". I have being searching it since....I guess now i am fare haa girls lol. have good time reading it.

 

Shaykh Saleh Al-Munajjid answered in response to a Muslim sister seeking advice about a husband:

 

We appreciate your eagerness to find out the attributes which will help you to choose a righteous husband, in shaa Allaah. There follows a description of the most important qualities which should be present in the man whom you choose or accept to be your husband and the father of your children, if Allaah decrees that you will have children.

 

There follows a description of the most important qualities, which should be present in the man whom you choose or accept to be your husband and the father of your children, if Allaah decrees that you will have children.

 

Religious Commitment

 

This is the most important thing to look for in the man you want to marry. The husband should be a Muslim who adheres to all the laws and teachings of Islam in his daily life. The woman’s guardian (wali) should strive to check out this matter and not rely only on outward appearances. One of the most important things to ask about is the man’s prayer (salaah); the one who neglects the rights of Allaah is more likely to neglect the rights of others. The true believer does not oppress or mistreat his wife; if he loves her, he honors her, and if he does not love her, he does not mistreat or humiliate her. It is very rare to find this attitude among those who are not sincere Muslims. Allaah says:

 

“And verily, a believing slave is better than a (free) Mushrik (idolater), even though he pleases you” [al-Baqarah 2:221]

 

“Verily, the most honorable of you with Allaah is that (believer) who has At-Taqwaa [i.e. he is one of the Muttaqoon (the pious)]” [al-Hujuraat 49:13] “Good statements are for good people (or good women for good men) and good people for good statements (or good men for good women)” [al-Noor 24:26]

 

The Prophet (sallallaaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) said:

 

“If there comes to you one whose religious commitment and attitude pleases you, then marry [your female relative who is under your care] to him, for if you do not do that, there will be tribulation on earth and much corruption.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan al-Tirmidhi, 1084).

 

As well as being religiously committed, it is preferable that he should come from a good family and a known lineage

 

If two men come to propose marriage to one woman, and they are equal in terms of religious commitment, then preference should be given to the one who comes from a good family that is known for its adherence to the commands of Allaah, so long as the other person is not better than him in terms of religious commitment – because the righteousness of the husband’s close relatives could be passed on to his children and his good origins and lineage may make him refrain from many foolish and cheap actions. The righteousness of the father and grandfather are beneficial to the children and grandchildren. Allaah says:

 

“And as for the wall, it belonged to two orphan boys in the town; and there was under it a treasure belonging to them; and their father was a righteous man, and your Lord intended that they should attain their age of full strength and take out their treasure as a mercy from your Lord” [al-Kahf 18:82].

 

See how Allaah protected their father’s wealth for the two boys after the father died, as an honor to him because of his righteousness and taqwaa. By the same token, if the husband comes from a righteous family and his parents are good, Allaah will make things easy for him and protect him as an honor to his parents.

 

It is good if he has sufficient wealth to keep him and his family from having to ask people for anything

 

The Prophet (salawaatullaahi wa salaamuhu 'alaih) said to Faatimah bint Qays (may Allaah be pleased with her), when she came to consult him about three men who had proposed marriage to her, “As for Mu’aawiyah, he is a poor man who has no wealth…” (Narrated by Muslim, 1480).

 

It is not essential that he should be a businessman or rich, it is sufficient for him to have an income that will keep him and his family from having to ask people for anything. If there is a choice between a man who is religiously committed and a man who is wealthy, then the religious man should be given preference over the wealthy man.

 

It is preferable that he should be kind and gentle towards women

 

The Prophet (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) said to Faatimah bint Qays, in the hadeeth quoted above, “As for Abu Jaham, his stick never leaves his shoulder”, referring to the fact that he used to beat women a lot.

 

It is good if he is sound of body and healthy, free of faults, sickness, etc., and not disabled or sterile.

 

It is preferable that he should have knowledge of the Qur’aan and Sunnah

 

If you find someone like this it is good; otherwise you should realize that this is something rare.

 

It is permissible for the woman to look at the man who comes to propose marriage, and for him to look at her

 

This should be in the presence of her mahram, and it is not permitted to look more than is necessary, or for him to see her alone, or for her to go out with him on her own, or to meet repeatedly for no reason.

 

According to Islam, the woman’s wali (guardian) should check on the man who proposes marriage to the woman who is under his guardianship; he should ask those whom he trusts among those who mix with him and who know him, about his commitment to Islam and his trustworthiness. He should ask them for an honest opinion and sincere, sound advice.

 

Before and during all of this, you must turn towards Allaah and pray to Him to make it easy for you and help you to make a good choice and to grant you wisdom. Then after all these efforts, when you have decided on a particular person, you should pray Istikhaarah, asking Allaah for, that that is good. Then after you have done your utmost, put your trust in Allaah, for He is the best of helpers, may He be glorified.

 

By: Shaykh Mustafaa al-‘Adawai

 

 

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"Our Lord! forgive us our sins and anything we may have done that transgressed our duty: establish our feet firmly, and help us against those that resist Faith." (3:147)

 

[This message has been edited by Buubto (edited 05-18-2002).]

[Hibo]

Buubto masha Allah, jazaakal lah kheer, and I beleive you have mentioned a lot of characteristics that I always think I had them thou it does not appear to people so, however one question sis if the man is religuios and his father is a looser oo maxaa competitionka looga bixin it is not his fault but if the sheikh says so with prove from quran or sunah then we can not urgue about it can we? any way I shall write soon the girls side too ...

maybe in my next topic cause i don't wana kill this topic before the other sisters and brothers comment on it, thou i repeat again i felt some how you were talking about me.. peace

OG_Moti is back and saying hi nomads

[MaandeeQ]

Asalaamu Caleykum

 

Buubto; I greatly appreciate ur effort to bring up this significant matter in order to enlighten all of US. Jazaakulaahu Kheyrun Abaayo n May Allah help US to find the right one insha'allah. God Bless

 

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"Whoever Does One Good Deed Will Receive Ten Rewards, Or Even More; Whoever Sins Once Will Be Punished In Proportion To It, Or I May Pardon Him" {MUSLIM}

[biG mOm]

asalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu

 

buubto nice jump lol

[Nur]

Buubto

 

Are you the Somali version of (Flying-Still)?

 

Your topic is wonderful, it is rarely discussed the qualities sisters would like to see in their future husbands ( or present ) so sisters add more to this thread, many brothers would benefit from it

 

 

Nur

[Qac Qaac]

moti, if u have all this characteristics then good for you man.

 

but be humble bro.

[Captivating_SouL]

Hope those advices and encourgments our dear sistah posted were heard then drailed onto deaf ears n yet no outcomes. Apprecaite it and take a lesson or two from this as a somali muslim brotha;s and sistah'z.

 

Salamz

[LuCkY]

SaLaaMz,

 

Thnx for posting...that informative topic.