Hello Sheikh! My Husband is having an affair!

[chubacka]

The woman probably hanged up because the Shiek did not give her the time to explain her situation fully but rather came out with the first thought that entered his head. Dhe did not even suggest that the woman speak to her husband and to share her concerns with him.

 

I honestly think polygamy is very rarely the solution to the problem, it will jst bring its own problems especially in this day and age where so many people are very far from the deen.

 

Not a good answer shiekh.

[Nur]

C & H sis

 

Chubacka

 

 

Its interesting that we all read the same discourse and come out with different judgments of what is right and what is wrong, and I think that is very healthy as long as we do not impose on others what we refuse to accept for ourselves.

 

There were two elements in this story, Infidelity and Polygamy. I have clearly stated that Infidelity knows no social status, no borders, no religions, its a social crime and its just a fact of life.

 

The caller Lady clearly complained to the Sheikh about INFIDELITY. In Islam, Infidelity does not warrant a Western Style Marriage counseling as some Nomads suggest, because its a Major Crime ( Kabeera). Instead, the woman wanted a suggestion of how to cope or live with the situation in which she found herself. Is she a victim, in my opinion, yes, to an extent by her own choice, because shame is on him, and its all his, not on her at all, so there is no reason for her to tolerate to live with an adulterer.

 

I do agree though that the Sheikh may have been insensitive in choosing his fact finding questions, specially when the Radio Talk Show was live on air, hence her abrupt hanging up of the phone.

 

My question to C & H and Chubacka is: Was the Lady right in her claim that "polygamy is a bigger problem than Infidelity"?

 

 

Nur