Dating Tip: The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably

[jabarti]

Waraa soomaali maryoolay akhriya this interesting topic about how we should aproach ladies since we are from Mars and they from Venus. lean how , and when in order to succeed in relationship and dating.

 

1) Being Too Much Of A "Nice" Guy

 

Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted "nice" guys?

 

Of course you have.

 

Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.

 

What's going on here?

 

It's actually very simple.

 

Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.

 

And guess what?

 

Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION. And being nice doesn't make a woman choose you.

 

I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, but get over it. Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.

 

 

2) Trying To "Convince" Her To Like You

 

What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested?

 

Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.

 

Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!

 

Never, ever, ever.

 

You cannot convince a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning.

 

Think about it.

 

If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that by being "reasonable" with her?

 

But we all do it.

 

When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.

 

Bad idea. Another one that will never work.

 

 

3) Looking For Her Approval Or Permission

 

In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".

 

Another HORRIBLE idea.

 

Women are never attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER.

 

Don't get me wrong here. You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you. But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again.

 

You will never succeed by looking for approval.

 

 

4) Trying To Buy Affection With Food And Gifts

 

How many times have you take a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?

 

If you're like me, then you've had it happen a lot.

 

Well guess what?

 

It's only natural when this happens...

 

When you do these things, you send a clear message: "I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".

 

Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation.

 

 

5) Sharing How You "Feel" Too Early With Her

 

Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on.

 

Attractive women are rare.

 

They get a LOT of attention from men.

 

Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another all the time by men.

 

An attractive woman is often approached several times a day by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often hundreds of times per month.

 

And guess what?

 

Attractive women have usually dated a lot of men.

 

That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.

 

They know what to expect.

 

And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.

 

This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves. Don't do it. Lean back. Relax. There's a much better way...

 

 

6) Not "Getting" How Attraction Works For Her

 

Women are different from men.

 

You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.

 

When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.

 

But does the same apply for women?

 

Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?

 

Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.

 

Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?

 

Think about it. Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them feel than they are to looks alone.

 

If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

 

But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this. And ANY guy can learn how...

 

 

7) Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks

 

One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age.

 

And sure, there are women who are only interested in these things.

 

But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks. There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet...

 

And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.

 

 

8) Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women

 

Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.

 

Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women. Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.

 

Another bad idea...

 

Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over. Women aren't attracted to Wussies!

 

 

9) Not Knowing What To Do In Each Type Of Situation

 

A woman always knows what you're thinking.

 

I know, it might be hard to believe. But if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.

 

And if you don't know HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!

 

And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating...

 

Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything.

 

If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.

 

 

10) Not Getting Help

 

This is the biggest mistake of all.

 

This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.

 

I know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.

 

Hey, I've been there myself.

 

Let me tell you a little about me. About five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn't know how to approach, meet, and get dates with women that I was attracted to.

 

It frustrated the hell out of me.

 

One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn't get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night... I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.

 

Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out. I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I've dated models, I've dated actresses, and I've dated nice, normal, regular girls as well.

 

It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling... like I don't know how to meet women... and I might wind up alone.

 

I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women.

[Faheema.]

What an interesting analysis and it can be beneficial for some brothers. However, you forgot to mention the 11th one. (I would probably make it 1st).

 

And I think I speak for most women when I say this,

 

11: There is nothing worse than a man who is Self-congratulating, self-praising, Self-absorbed and Self-aggrandizing.

 

“Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out. I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I've dated models, I've dated actresses, and I've dated nice, normal, regular girls as well.”

I think you might need to reevaluate you findings. Male Ego plays major role in this field.

[Macalin]

Jabarti..LOl..Wallahi U are on a Mission here!

 

I wonder Tho' what abt the Ones where theres instant chemistry and that both Yall Like each Other?...??

 

But Tru Tru Most of this Are all RIGHT...I know nice Guys Finish last!

[rudy-Diiriye]

yo!

 

try it via her friend. it always works like a charm! lol...

[Captivating_SouL]

jabarti its well thought analysis in your view of point but you have negelected to connected it with females in a positive lite...inshallah am sit down one of these days and jot down few words of wisdom and the female side of things....

 

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[Baashi]

Interesting! I have to emphasize that there is a major difference between a "nice guy" and "wimpy guy". Wimpy guys are very dependent! They are not this fancy tiger that women like to tame. Wimpy guys lack the self-confidence...they don't initiate things or can't face the risk of being rejected...and as the result they act as if they are interested in her but can't say so...and thus guur iyo gaabsi wax alla waxey rabaan lama yaqaan. That's not being nice that's being wimpy.

 

Nice guys, on other hand, are considerate men who have class and don't see themselves as being skirt-chasers and womenizers. To be one, if u need a tip , then don't follow the above mentioned tips...be urself and adopt an attitude that is accepting and open, and show that u are interested in her.

 

There will always be women who continually choose jerks! It might be that they are emotionally twisted and not capable of being a partner in a solid, stable relationship. The truth of the matter is the jerk's self-involvement will make it more likely that he will cheat on the woman or dump her when someone more exciting comes along or when the novelty wears off. If you got rejected by being nice...it is not because you have a good manners, or you are pious, or you are considerate but probably she is not interested in u or variety of other reasons.

[sweet_gal]

Yeah goodluck to all of the brother's who wanna go by his words.....

 

The ending was funny how u said u've dated models, actres from what country would they be......Alien land or ur imagination.......

 

Just cause it worked for some models, actress as u claim doesn't mean it's gonna work on all women.......