Naomi_B Posted September 5, 2007 Mornin' ppl I just thought I'd come up with a new topic, How important is a social life to you all? Its just that I heard / seen many people after marriage GIVE UP on a social life completely, weekends are spent at home (dont get me wrong I like relaxing at home on some weekends too) but not every weekend. Also why is it girls tend to limit their going outs with friends when they get married, so much so that they end up losing / drifting apart from their friendS? (bear in mind these are not mothers yet) :confused: This has made me want to make the most my time while Im still "free" lol Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Legend of Zu Posted September 5, 2007 ^^^^ What they have at home is waay better than chit chat Cheers Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ms DD Posted September 5, 2007 Absolutely Loz. Who go out when the goods are at home? I am not a mother, and i dont go out often. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Naomi_B Posted September 5, 2007 wow! Im just thinking I'd probably spend Sundays at home with the Hubby but weekends, either he should take me out or go somewhere with friends (be it Spa, shopping, movies, dinner, friends houses anything) Ms D&D, is it also true girls tend want to go out A LOT to weddings after they settle down? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Blessed Posted September 5, 2007 There seems to be a lot of self-imposing nomads on this board, I'm reminded by the Arab saying; 'at every wedding, he has his fingers in the pies'. :rolleyes: If the schedual you describe is what you want in your marriage Naomi, have it. It's really not for you to worry about how other xaliimos choose to live theirs. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ms DD Posted September 5, 2007 NB Personally, I dont like weddings. But my socialising have lessened since i got married. Mostly cos my priority changed. I guess it is different for everyone. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Naomi_B Posted September 5, 2007 Zenobia.. Well thats what I've seen of friends who are married, the lifestyle they lead.. and thats not a "scedule" of my future life, but inshallah just about 10% of it... the rest wont be laid out here on public forums. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ibtisam Posted September 5, 2007 Zenobia bad day hun? loool HAHA Social Life is overrated, expensive and adds nothing to your life, I'd rather sit at home by myself, or watch TV, do some cleaning. The main reason is priority changes for a married women, she is not going to be out all the time with her girlfriends like she use to, or yap on the phone with them all time like she use to, before it was just hooyo complaining, now she has a demanding kusband. She is busy worrying about her hair, nails, looks and uunis, while her old girlfriends are worried about what bag she should buy, where she should go and eat or if she should meet that farah for dinner or how tiring it is working 9-5. The married one is busy trying to balance married life with work, and trying to pick few things from her old life to take into her new life, sadly some friends just don’t make it into that list and get sacrificed. She now has 4 nosy new sisters, a monster new mother, 2sets of ayeeos, 20 new cuz who’s names she must at least try to remember, did I mention new dishes she is trying to learn to cook, oh and keep up with the latest fashion (his family is coming around again, she does not want to start gossip about her curtains or her diirac). How exhausting, I don’t think she has time to sit around or shop four days in a row till she drops, no, no she will be labelled waaragasto by the new family. Oh and finally after all that, she must have time to spend with fairly stranger of a husband (who knows he might have something special to offer after all). I think she does not remember anything about friends now let alone social (read time wasting) life. Hope that answered your question NB. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Naomi_B Posted September 5, 2007 Lol Ghanima, Thats hiralious, you said "She is busy worrying about her hair, nails, looks and uunis".. have u not seen how much of a slob some people become once they get married, men and women alike. They're probably thinking "yes! I've bagged the *****, finally! lemme relax" Nimanka become obese and start growing afros and foolxumo beards whilst hablaha either become a baby factory or just desperate housewifes. Ms D&D..iTS true prioties become a must, especially when one has a baby Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NGONGE Posted September 5, 2007 ^^ As if you two would know Ayaayo (Zanobia), tell me who's upsetting you, I'll sort them out for you right away. Just point at them, ayaayo, just point at them. Nota Bene (or Naomi B to your friends),animated excitement is not really my thing but I have to say that you're a breath of fresh air on this tired old place. Keep it up and, whatever you do, never go to the dark side (namely J.Baro and Ghanima's little clique). Ps I always thought that slowing down and not going out much has more to do with work and age than marriage and commitments. One gets tired of the whole thing after a while. In fact, many a twenty year olds are longing for hard work and marriage simply to have a good excuse not to go out. Pps Several ladies, in the past few days, have been making very disparaging comments about mothers-in-law. Stop it you spoilt brats; Somali mothers-in-law are sweetness personified. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Naomi_B Posted September 5, 2007 Ngonge, You're absolutely right it's to do with age and working full time which slows down socialising .. me personally my socialising from 18-22 was absolutely CRAZY!! Oh the gud' ol' days! Now, its kinda more quiter, mainly because there isnt much for people 23+ to do .. (obviously i wont go clubbing or anything like that) Only the things I listed above to be honest. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ibtisam Posted September 5, 2007 ^^You really don't act your age, (don't worry it is a good thing) I thought you were about 15/ 16 Ngonge: I do I was married in my past life, Honestly, and I'm some what married now...to my family of course. and mother in laws...well I have seen some ahem....ones and lovely sweet old ladies. Just depends on your sorry luck. You probably upsetted lady Z, what did you do? :mad: :cool: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Malika Posted September 5, 2007 Nothing beats,hanging around all day indoor with your hubby in your pajamas,messed up hair!Pure bliss! I personally dont do girl girl outings,I prefer to hang out with the dude's,I find men great company,with the jokes,laughs and basically a chilled out atmosphere.If I want to do fun things what beats then being a centre of attention among a group of guys!,I also prefer to do certain things alone,like going to the gym,book stores,shopping..I am a loner, a comfotable loner at that! As for letting yourself go after tieing the knot,its just natural one feels loved and accepted for what they are,not what their external image is. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ibtisam Posted September 5, 2007 ^^WHy oh Why lady! Poor sods (both wife and husband) Imagine they dated for years and only seen each other looking fab, then they get married and they see each other "looking like death" to quote Lily from another thread! Loner are you back yet? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Naomi_B Posted September 5, 2007 Ghamina, 15/16? those were the days! Oh well! Funny you stated the following "You act like 15/16".. Have u met me or something? You need 2 rephrase your sentence and choose your words more wisely in future, it would be better if you just said "from what I gathered by the way YOU WRITE.." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
