Bess. Posted May 25, 2005 Why it is that Somali woman never give the good men in their lives the chance to get to know them. What is the appeal of this stereotypical gangster wanna be Somali guy. I c a lot of nice guys at my Uni who don't have a girl who they can talk to or spend time with, just cause they are nice, sweet, kind and respectable....u don't have to be dating them....I m sure getting to know someone of the opposite sex isn't haram ( I digress from the topic)... But girls do u agree, that some women are more interested in these so called "bad guys"?... According to counselors in Columbia University's Go Ask Alice advice column, it's because we don't respect ourselves enough and don't feel deserving of the niceness. But I think it's more shallow than that. It seems that most women get bored when nice guys remove the element of excitement from the scene. The problem lies not with the nice guy, but with the women who won't give them a chance. It's time for a nice guy's resolution. Whereas a nice guy will walk you home from the library after a long study session and not demand anything of u as if he is entitled just because he helped u, like a bad boy would, Whereas a nice guy listens to hours of sobbing and tells you you're pretty while you scrutinize two sentences a bad boy said to you and shovel Ben and Jerry's Chunky Monkey into your red, swollen face, Whereas Mr. Nice Guy never sounds as appealing as Mr. Denali, Mr. baggy pants or Mr. Player, Let it be resolved that not all nice guys are pushovers. Let it be resolved that kindness is a positive personality trait, not an excuse for failure. Let it be resolved that women who fall for jerks are not worth falling for in the first place. The bottom line is that women want a man who is charming, sexy and a little mysterious. While bad can be sexy, it’s also unreliable, irresponsible and just rude. Women need to stop glorifying the bad boys in their lives and start appreciating the kind ones. Who says that nice guys aren’t all those things and more, if we give them the chance to show us what they are capable of… Ps…girls, it’s the good one’s who end up with the great jobs and the great educations…. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Pacifist Posted May 25, 2005 chilli lmao Is it me or is it Hunting season or oky its summer inleyyn ballo... I was wondering with all these topics about pretty boy qarxis me and all lol Bad boys are very donjuroussssssssss like someone I know said it... Run Run Run Run and run a mile .. Chilli I concur wit yaaaaaaaaa The brothers at my Uni that one was funny but true.... Ya girls give the brothers a chance Oky chilli shall we start a plan for the sis and bro at the Uni What say you.. Whereas a nice guy will walk you home from the library after a long study session and not demand anything of u as if he is entitled just because he helped u, like a bad boy would, Whereas a nice guy listens to hours of sobbing and tells you you're pretty while you scrutinize two sentences a bad boy said to you and shovel Ben and Jerry's Chunky Monkey into your red, swollen face, Wow some one I know has done a great job I promise I won't tell... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nephissa Posted May 26, 2005 Nice guys are b-o-r-i-n-g. Cusbadaa ku yar Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Legend of Zu Posted May 26, 2005 Originally posted by Bishaaro: Nice guys are b-o-r-i-n-g. Cusbadaa ku yar LoL..ma waxaa ilowday sida cusbada wax loogu daro... Too much cusbona kuuma roonee deh!!! Cheers Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lol Posted May 26, 2005 Besbaaso: I think the reason we are attracting to bad guys is because, those nice brothas seem flawless and its scarry, because.. they gotta have faults.. somewhere. I mean think of it.. u meet this guy and he is so sweet...so good... rn't u gonna wonder if he is a psycho behind doors? Ofcourse....so u might as well deal with this bad guy whose faults are out...than one with a worst flaw Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RendezVous Posted May 26, 2005 I got this two.................................. Originally posted by Bishaaro: Nice guys are b-o-r-i-n-g. Cusbadaa ku yar Let it be resolved that women who fall for jerks are not worth falling for in the first place. Freaks say....I gotta some cusbo+ more honey... ... OlD ScHoOl... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Final_Say Posted May 26, 2005 salamz: you don't get it it is not bad boys gurls want; they want a nice boy, that is a bit of a thug, you don't want someone that always agrees,thinks ur da whole world, too much attention hurts ur heart; instead they have disagree sometimes, have their own life and personality, and have somewhere to go when u have one of them bad days that no matter what he says or does ur gone be pissed off. and at times act like u don't care. the nice nice behaviour we expect frm our gurl friends, if the guy has the same qualities, we get confused, start thing something wrong wid you!! :confused: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Valenteenah. Posted May 26, 2005 How do you define a 'bad boy' anyway? Is it a womanizer? A criminal? An addict (drugs, alcohol, khat..whatever)? Someone who's emotionally damaged? Someone who's physically violent or verbally abusive? Is a geek with a video-game addiction a 'bad boy'? Is a footie fanatic a 'bad boy'? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dawoco Posted May 26, 2005 Besbaaso, intresting topic. You know when i see a somali guy slighlty "bad boy-ish", i immidiately think that he is a push over that acts how he thinks "cool" ppl act, a show-off with not much to say and someone with little to no prospects in life, as he is most likely to do whatever his friends approve of, as opposed to whatever is in his best intrest. In short, someone i wouldn't waste a minute on... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Faheema. Posted May 26, 2005 The Bad boy image is overrated..me thinks Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bess. Posted May 26, 2005 Originally posted by dawoco: Besbaaso, intresting topic. You know when i see a somali guy slighlty "bad boy-ish", i immidiately think that he is a push over that acts how he thinks "cool" ppl act, a show-off with not much to say and someone with little to no prospects in life, as he is most likely to do whatever his friends approve of, as opposed to whatever is in his best intrest. In short, someone i wouldn't waste a minute on... ... ...exactly....if someone is so obsessed with others think of them and they act according to others wishes of them...then they have nothing much to say or contribute....it just means that they are insecure in their own personality, that they feel...they don't measure so they imitate others to feel good about themselves....I have no time for an insecure man....who hasn't decided who he is yet...that he has become someone else entirely..... ps...to me "a bad boy"...is a wanna be...someone living a stereotypical or an imitation of someone else's life...someone u can't count one...cause they unreliable....player wanna be....gangster thug boy....who still by the way has an accent ...but acts like he was raised in the streets of Compton....or some other ghetto...a bad boy ...is the ultimate fake.....I don't know about y'all ...but I don't trust fake ppl... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rahima Posted May 27, 2005 I think that once girls reach the age of 20 or so, they soon realize that the bad-boy is all wrong for them. The cool bad-boy image is what girls are attracted to in high school because it is the “in†thing- they grow out of it quickly me thinks! Unless they are bad-girls themselves, which then makes sense. Then again, what exactly do we all mean by bad-boy? For me it is the chain-smoking, qaad-chewing, night-clubbing, gorgarad-wearing, unemployed, uneducated young brother who is also a womanizer. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Final_Say Posted May 27, 2005 wow, u guys have it twisted; or maybe i do; i though bad boys were people who do dere own thing regardless of what others thing (hence they we labelled bad boys for not following the trend)dey normally have a little crew dat runs around for them, treating them like a big boss!! with this definition; i think the followed is better than the follower Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
J.Lee Posted May 27, 2005 Personally, I like the Bad Boy attitude with the nice guy respectability nooh . Whereas a nice guy will walk you home from the library after a long study session and not demand anything of u as if he is entitled just because he helped u, like a bad boy would, Whereas a nice guy listens to hours of sobbing and tells you you're pretty while you scrutinize two sentences a bad boy said to you and shovel Ben and Jerry's Chunky Monkey into your red, swollen face, LooooooL, War Balaayo. So basically Nice guys are safe,submissive, and act like our girlfriends? How nauseating! BTW, Pili Pili. It seems as though you have had some run- ins with bad boys, Care to share? you know strictly for educational purposes, and all Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bess. Posted May 27, 2005 msword....it was just an example and i don't waste time with "bad boys".... ps... not all good guys are So basically Nice guys are safe,submissive, and act like our girlfriends? How nauseating! ... some good guys...are confident, strong and safe...wat is wrong with safe....it means u can count on him.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
