Would you confess your past to your partner before getting married?

[underdog]

The answer is HELL NO.

If this so-called "wild past" is real and not a figment of your imagination, then it must have taught you somewhere along the line to KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT and HAVE AN ALIBI.

 

If that lifestyle is dead and gone and you have adopted a new "respectable" character, then you don't have to justify anything. Your new spouse knows you as a decent upstanding human being. and that's how you'll stay until you pull some Jerry Springer Sh!t and start "revealing" secrets.

 

When you run into a playa-hatin' ex, it'll be your credible word aginst there tainted accusation.

 

LIVE AND LET LIVE.

[Jaabir]

Well thank you all for sharing your thoughts, some of you have missed that point, I didn’t mean to voluntarily tell your dirty past to your partner, I meant WITHHOLDING the truth about your past if he asks you, I just think that whatever you have done in your past will somewhat have an effect on your relation if not declared before your marriage…

 

So tell me how would you feel if you married this person thinking he/she is an angel (which they might well be at that time) and by accident you found out he slept with your cousin or used to smoke weed, wouldn’t you think it will be hard for you to trust that person again!!

 

Lol @ Truth shall set you free.. I guess your name tells it all huh

[A7LA-SHU]

IF IT WAS SOMEONE IM JUST TALKIN TO. THEN HELLS NAH HE CAN ASK ALL HE WANTS BUT I WOULDN'T TELL HIM THE WHOLE TRUTH.

BUT IF IT IS SOMEONE IM MARRYIN. SHIT I'LL DIG HIS LIL DIRTY OUT SO I WOULDN'T MIND IF HE DID THE SAME WITH ME. SO YEAH I WOULD ANSWER ALL OF HIS Q AS LONG HE DOES THE SAME. COZ I DON'T WANT HIM USIN ALL I TOLD HIM AGAINST ME SHIT LOL.. (EVEN THOUGH I DON'T HAVE NO DIRTY THINGS TO HIDE) IM AN ANGEL YO WHAT CAN I SAY..

[finestsista2005]

I like what alot of nomads said especialy Lateafah, Truth set you free and Shyte because :

 

Point one

 

Your past has molded you in some way, for me to understand completely i have to know what you were( meaning went throgh) completely because there has to be reason why you are acting the way you do in some certain stuff(that drives you crazy).

 

Point 2

 

For ladies I would say tell him lil there and lil that cuz man are Lakads. They find hard to let go your past mistakes and bring it up to hold it against you or they either leave you. Men are such sensitive creatures...they can't handle the truth. They are like little kid with-held their favourite candy. They might not feel same way after you told them u tasted the waters. We women we are forgiving and even care for them alot after confesion. So hell no will i tell him all of my dirty secrets...put i definatly want him to tell me wat he did. Execptional are if he is really understandign..if not let the dogs sleep.

 

ps.very nice topic!