Somalina Posted March 25, 2010 Eng--I see you don't ask much when it comes to food, waxa ka farxinaya waa bariis basmati iyo baasto with hilib kaliya. At least you have reasonable demands. On the real though, whoever is home first should cook or call for takeout. Just like Juxa said. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chocolate and Honey Posted March 25, 2010 there is one rule to sustain the structure of happy somali family. the family uses and survives on whatever the husband earns. the wife's earning is for the extras oo kaliya. i can understand malika's calool jilec being her sujuiness lakin CH, runtii Someone's not happy in la faro galiyo lacagteeda haye? Juxa, lets get real though. If you make 70 a year and he makes 70, and you have 2 kids, a mortgage and other expenses, you wont even throw 20 into a joint account? And what is extra by the way? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Resistance Posted March 25, 2010 Women are verty demanding these days. They stil the man to provide for them financially and now they want a man who will cook for them. What does that live them to do aside from looking pretty ( and some cannot even manage that ) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Juxa Posted March 25, 2010 CH you are missing the point hon, it is not matter of being stingy, it is whose responsibility is it? as i said a lady is free contribute if she wishes, but waa odayga howshiisa magaratay? you dont want your husband to say xaliimo you ate nuskilo bariis ah yesterday marka soo £10 soo bood do you? lol@resistance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chocolate and Honey Posted March 25, 2010 LOL! Absolutely not! And such man ilaahay baalaga magan galay. Yeah, I think I missed what you were saying. The man is responsible for the household expenses. My point was if the woman makes enough money, she should contribute some of her money but she CERTAINTLY doesnt have to. soo waan is fahanay. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Juxa Posted March 25, 2010 thanks hon a woman's money iyadaba kama badna, those shoes and the bag and the suit and the skirt and that lovely masii wadaaaaaaaa hadiiba wax ka haraan sii Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chocolate and Honey Posted March 25, 2010 True that! I can hardly sustain myself, lol! Everyday wax uun baa soo gadaa. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
-Lily- Posted March 25, 2010 All I know is dad is jecel don’t calculate or keep scores, it's a very ugly & uncompassionate prospect. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Juxa Posted March 25, 2010 whats love got to do with it? gets her babis out @lily iga daa jaceylkan baas aad sheegto meeqo sano baan kulahaa Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NGONGE Posted March 25, 2010 Originally posted by chocolate & honey: LOL! Absolutely not! And such man ilaahay baalaga magan galay. Yeah, I think I missed what you were saying. The man is responsible for the household expenses. My point was if the woman makes enough money, she should contribute some of her money but she CERTAINTLY doesnt have to. soo waan is fahanay. So she will not cook for him AND if she works she'll keep her money for herself? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bilan Posted March 25, 2010 ood qaadis iyo jiidis waa isla guri gayn, both the wife and husband should have on goal. i do not think the respect you have for your husband should depend on how much money he makes. and in reality, you need 2 income to survive. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chocolate and Honey Posted March 25, 2010 So she will not cook for him AND if she works she'll keep her money for herself? Ehem...she'll cook when she can and when she cant she'll buy him a takeout with his money Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
-Lily- Posted March 25, 2010 lol@Juxa, I just meant the topic in general. Ok, they don’t love each other but like & respect each other or whatever arrangements they have in place, to say, she didn’t cook, he didn’t pay that bill, it seems so petty in the grand scale of things. Obviously if things become an issue it’s an entirely different matter. I love your idea, I agree with it, it is a Muslim woman's right but I also think it's unrealistic & uncompassionate to hold him to that in today's life unless the guy is quiet rich. We are not talking about dodgy council flats in bad neighbourhoods here, or a mediocre existence. If a man is to pay for a rent/mortgage on a London property, pay all bills, kids expenses, cover remittance to parents/extended family back home, cover social life, holidays, he must be making 100k a year if not more. That is far from the reality in most cases. Some kind of favourable compromise must be found. What I'm saying is, you don't have to, but it's nice to share If you find a loaded Farax by all means do send him my way & I will happily sing your philosophy! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Valenteenah. Posted March 25, 2010 This whole cooking thing is overated. Cook if you want to and if your food is edible, hubby will be grateful. Don't cook if you don't want to. There's no khasab. Suu kugu guursaday ayuu kugu haysanayaa. Unless you used to tell tall tales about your delicious food at the shukaansi stage - then you are just a tease. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Juxa Posted March 25, 2010 gabdhahan xoogooda iyo lacagtooda diyaarka u ah iney share gareeyaan waa casri cusub i am from an era long gone....marka idhaafa cooking and cleaning does not even take that long, lakin meesha principle baa kajira lol@val usheeg. lily i forgot about the remittance, thanks for reminding me Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites