Ariadne Posted October 4, 2002 clan shman...If I marry someone it will be for the who they are and not what they are. We all remember that famous quote in Romeo and Juliet when Romeo is under juliets balcony and he tells her what family he is from and then she says that "a rose is still a rose by any other name." She means she dosn't care if hes her enemy that he is still her romeo. And what Im trying to say is that when we come down to it all clan is only a family name, that if you love someone you would not care what region their grandparents or great grandparents came from and what clan they belong to. Because it becomes unimportant as you take away the complexities of a human being (the man made ones)you come down to someone who bleeds, breathes, walks and talks just like you but as humans we are all separtists so we try to invent something to separte ourselves such as tribe and clan when in fact we should be coming to together as family.........if you can't notice from this post yes I am a modern hippie (different from the ones form the 60s cuz they beleive in not taking showers and not washing your hair, doing drugs and lots and lots of orgies) me on the other hand I like their ideologies of saving the environment, peace and humanity towards the less fortunate but not how they chose to go after those goals.) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
StarGazer Posted October 5, 2002 Dantay, 1st of all I don't see myself with a second cousin and my family isn't into that whole arranged marriage bit. To make a long story short, I don't really care for clans, sub-clans what have you. I wasn't raised in an environment where my parents exposed me to differences of clans, biases, etc. I thank them for that and may Allah bless them. I am not going to reject a good pious brother on the sole basis of his tribe, gimmi a break!! I am not going to sit here though and deny that am related to people who feel differently about this issue. But guess what, they've never had a say in my life so far, so why should they when it comes to marriage? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Hibaad Posted October 16, 2002 If i find someone who meets ur recuirments i really wldn't care what clan he is. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Hodanneey Posted October 18, 2002 SHUJUI_1: Brother, well said and well put. I agree with you 110% i couldn't possibly put it in better words. *CLEAN HEART AND CLEAN MIND IS THE KEY TO SUCCESS* Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
