Is it okay for a girl to ask a guy to marry her?

[Valenteenah.]

Originally posted by sheherazade:

Val, cheating? By asking a married man to marry me? How so?

No, no, no! The process you went through to answer the question is not correct. It's cheating! You can't claim 'yes' without having taken the daunting risk of actually proposing to a man you WANT to marry - hat in hand, heart in throat.

 

See now?

[Saalixa]

RED sea

 

So i get second hand furniture (be material in any way money or goods or even undurable goods)! On my dead body NOOOOO! And a man would never love you the same when he knows you want him before he brings up the subject Just ask the specialist in human behaviour called psyhiatrists ( was the the way to spell it i hate that word). Like DR phil. He'll tell you men are full of ego. ( And they are! because i have brothers and have observed ).

 

Just imagine living in a marriage for the rest of your life being reminded by your Mr that you were the one who was in real need of him and he just felt sympathy towards you by agreeing. It Ruins your integraty :cool:

[Nehanda]

I don’t get what all the fuss is about. A girl likes a boy and vs, she decides to take the matter into her own capable hands and pops the question period! What’s so difficult and unislamic about that? Why waste your time in dallying. Just as long as you read the signs correctly and that you feel that your feelings are reciprocated then ask away.

 

Life is just too short for waiting for the unknown.

[Paragon]

^^ I agree. It is simple. We only get what we ask for. Plus, sometimes the fellow might ask the girl to marry him, that is good -no problem. But other times, he might not have the guts or courage to ask a girl if he can marry her. So let the girl do it. To hell with what is unmanly or unwomanly.

 

Xoogsade: If the guy doesn't ask you to marry him and he knows you very well, probably he isn't interested, so don't bother asking.

Assuming that applies to a percentage of men, now let us assume this too: may be he is scared sh!tless?

[sheherazade]

Originally posted by Xoogsade:

If the guy doesn't ask you to marry him and he knows you very well, probably he isn't interested, so don't bother asking.

Don't men think like that about women? Or are they all sure a woman who shows interest wants to marry them?

 

The man should be the one seeking the woman's hand although I wouldn't find a woman who asks a man to marry her strange. Just smitten.

 

 

Why 'should'? A man can be afraid of rejection and sh*t scared or waiting for something to materialise for him(money, home etc.). And why smitten? A woman can know a good thing when she sees it. What purpose does it serve- the gender of the asker being male?

 

Much ado about nothing I reckon.

 

Val, you make it sound painful. Hearing a 'No' is not the end of the world. Nothing to be gained but a husband, nothing to be lost but a man who doesn't want to commit. Win-win.

[Pucca]

Originally posted by Mr. Red Sea:

Piere, I am assuming it's okay for her to ask.

 

and Consipracy, really,it is not me.

these i'm-posting-a-question-on-some-relationship-bullcrap-but-its-not-about-me" topics are becoming rather tiresome...goodness!

 

 

the above outburst ..wasnt really me.

[Xoogsade]

Originally posted by sheherazade:

quote:Originally posted by Xoogsade:

If the guy doesn't ask you to marry him and he knows you very well, probably he isn't interested, so don't bother asking.

Don't men think like that about women? Or are they all sure a woman who shows interest wants to marry them?

 

The man should be the one seeking the woman's hand although I wouldn't find a woman who asks a man to marry her strange. Just smitten.

 

 

Why 'should'? A man can be afraid of rejection and sh*t scared or waiting for something to materialise for him(money, home etc.). And why smitten? A woman can know a good thing when she sees it. What purpose does it serve- the gender of the asker being male?

 

Much ado about nothing I reckon.

Sheherazade, not every woman who shows interest in a man surely wants to marry him. The interest could be anything, however, in a courtship where both parties have shown more than the usual interest in one another, and a level of understanding have been attained with no barrier to union, the man should pop the question. If the lady does ask before he does, fine by me as well.

 

 

Paragon.

 

Why is the guy that scared of her to begin with? I can understand if he thinks he will be rejected and he isn't too sure.

[man_in_malaysia]

why not? does she not have rigthts to ask her boy wat she wants? i think she better ask if she is satisfied with him