RedSea Posted September 11, 2006 Assalamu calaykum, As politically incorrect this might sound,but I think the answer is yes.The reason being, if the girl can't find a guy to bond good relationship with,if she is in fear of commiting an act that might break her virginity for instance(Zina), and if patiance becomes long overdue, then I don't see any reason why the girl should feel shy or it's unethical to pop the question herself, since she is doing for the sake of her own faith and personal protection of falling into sin. This question might have came up here before, but I think it's worth the discussion, and might help out alot of girls out there who haven't found a guy to bond relatioship with,thus feeling that isn't right to ask such question yet and are in dire need of marriage. Thanks, assalamu calaykum. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Valenteenah. Posted September 11, 2006 Of course it isn't 'okay'. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
-Lily- Posted September 11, 2006 ^LoL, sure it is. Just wouldn't do it myself. Imagine never knowing if he would have asked you ever or not? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Conspiracy Posted September 11, 2006 Mr Red Sea stop giving *her* hints, just go ahead and ask her out dude Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Faheema. Posted September 11, 2006 lol@ Val & Lily...united we are when it comes such Q... Waa adoo indha cad ku dhe a Faarax maad i guursan...lol waa habeen xalay tagay. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Faarax-Brawn Posted September 11, 2006 Do you have any idea what women will have done if it was okay for them?? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RedSea Posted September 11, 2006 Piere, I am assuming it's okay for her to ask. and Consipracy, really,it is not me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Modesty Posted September 12, 2006 Of course it's okay for a girl to ask a guy to marry her...we should all follow our hearts not some traditional rule that says you can't this and that. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sheherazade Posted September 12, 2006 What patronising khara. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Naden Posted September 12, 2006 ^ Khara, indeed. I say a girl should propose, but only if she's about a stone throw's away from losing her virginity :rolleyes: . And I mean, trampy sluttiness is just around the corner. Other than that, keep a nickel between your knees and wait for Faraax to propose. Uff. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
UrSisterInIslam Posted September 12, 2006 Bismilah Asalamalaikum Khadija (ra) asked if Rasululah (saw) would marry her. It requires strength to do that, but I think the man should be worth it first. Or you could always ask indirectly? Usually Brother's who fear Allah and who really want a future with a Sister they believe is really worth marrying to, they usually pop the question early on. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rahima Posted September 12, 2006 In today’s day and age, only if haday is nacday. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Castro Posted September 12, 2006 Originally posted by BeeBee85: Usually Brother's who fear Allah and who really want a future with a Sister they believe is really worth marrying to, they usually pop the question early on. They usually pop something. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nephissa Posted September 12, 2006 Yes. I'd also get his mother's permission and blessing first. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites