lol Posted May 25, 2005 A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humid day, drinking iced tea and visiting with her Mother. As they talked about life, about marriage, about the responsibilities of life and the obligations of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance upon her daughter. "Don't forget your girlfriends," she advised. Swirling the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass. "They'll be more important as you get older. No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the children you'll have, you are still going to need girlfriends. Remember to go places with them now and then; do things with them. And remember that "girlfriends" are not only your friends, but your sisters, your daughters, and other relatives too. You'll need other women. Women always do. What a funny piece of advice,' the young woman thought. 'Haven't I just gotten married? Haven't I just joined the couple-world? I'm now a married woman, for goodness sake, a grownup, not a young girl who needs girlfriends! Surely my husband and the family we'll start will be all I need to make my life worthwhile!' But she listened to her Mother; she kept contact with her Girlfriends And made more each year. As the years tumbled by, one after another, she gradually came to understand that her Mom really knew what she was talking about. As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman, girlfriends are the mainstays of her life. After 50 years of living in this world, here is what I know about girlfriends: Girlfriends bring you chicken curry and scrub your bathroom when you Need help. Girlfriends keep your children and keep your secrets. Girlfriends give advice when you ask for it. Sometimes you take it, sometimes you don't. Girlfriends don't always tell you that you're right, but they're Usually honest. Girlfriends still love you, even when they don't agree with your choices. Girlfriends laugh with you, and you don't need canned jokes to start The laughter. Girlfriends pull you out of jams. Girlfriends help you get out of bad relationships. Girlfriends help you look for a new apartment, help you pack, and help You move. Girlfriends will give a party for your son or daughter when they get Married or have a baby, in whichever order that comes! Girlfriends are there for you, in an instant and when the hard times come. Girlfriends listen when you lose a job or a friend. Girlfriends listen when your children break your heart. Girlfriends listen when your parents' minds and bodies fail. Girlfriends support you when the men in your life let you down. Girlfriends help you pick up the pieces when men pack up and go. Girlfriends rejoice at what makes you happy, and are ready to go out And kill what makes you unhappy. Times passes. Life happens. Distance separates. Children grow up. Love waxes and wanes. Hearts break. Careers end. Jobs come and go. Parents die. Colleagues forget favours. Men don't call when they say they will. BUT girlfriends are there, no matter how much time and how many miles Are between you. A girlfriend is never farther away than needing her can reach. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Pacifist Posted May 25, 2005 Hibo aww how nice true indeed.. My girlfriends they once were but now they are surely my sisters and we are bonded for life. Like they say the ones who become friends for the sake of Allah have a shade in the day of Judgement. Waves to all the sisters in the sisterhood.. I salute you Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Final_Say Posted May 26, 2005 aah, how sweet, but true, what you need anything else for if you have girlfriends and ur deen (sorry guys, don't feel too unwanted) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Moth_To_A_Flame Posted May 26, 2005 Lovely! Through all of lifes tribulations, your girlfriends are the constant force there to support you. We should let them know how special they are once in a while! Three cheers for the sisterhood, hip hip hooray... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Modesty Posted May 27, 2005 i need to make more girlfriends! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lol Posted May 28, 2005 ^^^^ I second dat walaahi... Since I have started becoming more religious.. I have lost almost 90% of my friends..coz they were guys... so now I need girl friends... Any volunteers Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bess. Posted May 28, 2005 lol....am just glad i have my 4 sisters.... .. ps....u got a volunteer...hibo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Final_Say Posted May 28, 2005 lol modesty and hibo, don't we all!! after u fix up and start practsing and u get rid of all da guys, u find ur left wid few friends (or in my case 1 friend and my next door neighbour) it felt so strange, to suddenly have 1 friend; but u get over it after a while. lol so not to worry Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Xafsa Posted May 28, 2005 That was amazing Hibo..never thought of girlfriends being that important. Hibo I´m glad you have become more religious...but do I fir into the 90% of the friends you lost. No congrats on the baby? :confused: Speaking from experience..a husband and children can be too much to handle sometimes...thats where your friends come in. peace Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Valenteenah. Posted May 28, 2005 ^^ Congrats on the baby. I was wondering why you had disappeared. A girl, I take it? Name? How many months? Congrats again. Hope motherhood treats you well. (I'A) :cool: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Xafsa Posted May 28, 2005 ^^^^ thank you..yes its a girl..how did you know? she is only a month old right now. you changed your nick? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Valenteenah. Posted May 28, 2005 I have some limited psychic abilities. And yeah..new nick..new...attitude (I hope). One month, huh? Mansha'Allah. Maybe you'll send me a pic sometime? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lol Posted May 28, 2005 Besbaaso Thank you so much sweetheart.. I will be in touch on PM. Missy LOL... I have my sister and my mom and also two more girls.. Xafsa is one and Shushu...but the thing is... I am not used to having two relatives and two crazy women as friends.. u know? I miss my brothers who read sense back to me when I lost it. Walahi they made me stand strong... I am still looking for ways to keep them without offending my religion... XAFSA : XABIIIIIIIIIIIBTI..... U are always in the 10% left macaanteey... How u been? I was so pissed off at you for not writing... Now I know wat has been keeping u busy.... Give my love to my baby girl...and my brotha in law.... U never know I might join u in Sweden soon;) Zephy I think Barwaqo suited u better... u were jolly, sweet and fair.. now I don't know if its to blame on the job but u have changed... but surely not for the better :rolleyes: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Xafsa Posted May 29, 2005 2 crazy women huh? waayahay. Hibo it is summer time..you should come visit. I miss all my US friends. Zephyrine- I will send you a pic if you pm me your e´mail address. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lol Posted May 29, 2005 ^^^^^^U maybe crazy.... but I still love you dee Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
