Is having a Wedding Important?

[Cabdow]

Me name calling? naaaaah not my thing wallaalo.

 

Ps: I prefer raaliyo over dahab-qodo that's all. Besides, can't a brotha state his opinion without being labeled? War ileen tan oo kale...

[Aaliyyah]

(hala'i arko hala'i maqlo type) is nothing but a dahab-qodo

if that isn't name calling ....i dont know what is. Maybe you should state your opinion without talking ill of others. I want a lavish wedding insha allah and I wouldn't like someone calling me .. dahab qodo ..or ha la i arko ha i maqlo type.am sure there are tons of men who would be more than happy to give their wife the wedding she desires and deserves. So perhaps you should learn to respect other people's choice.

[Cabdow]

^ Kuseey, i don't understand waxa ku hayo qofyahay. My previous comments weren't directed to you 'per se' they were more like general opinions (or rather my own perceptions) of what i think of certain (dhiig-yacab ) xalimoos. Having said that, waxa la yiri "Far iyo meel bugta iyada is og" Marka do me a fav, hawada iiga bax nooh (adoo raali ah )

 

Btw, before aadan geeshaliga tuurin. Let me assure you, it's all in the name of kaftan

[Aaliyyah]

just learn how to respect ppl, and refrain from calling them " dahab qodo, dhiigyacab etc" ..

 

no one is asking you to offer a lavish wedding ...there are many women out there who really don't care about having a wedding . I can even point out a few of your type in SOL

[Som@li]

When you say “Lavish”, how much are we talking about?

Can u please send me a quote?

 

Xanjeex, adeer busaarada gabdhaha kala fogoow? Rag bahasha quuraya baa jira.

[Abaay Heylay]

Dabshid, when we say lavish wedding, for me is between 15-20 thousand plus the honey moon and the extra costs.

[Ameen]

And the total bill will be around $25,000

 

Like DAMN!

 

Im saying though...what if the man brought that money to the table and said, "hey baby, here is the money you wanted and you can play with it as you like BUT just a suggestion. How about we use the money to start our new family? Or we go to hajj and send one extra month in Medeenah, looking around and getting use to the Prophets city? And after that, we can travel around the world instead of throwing the money into one BIG night that most people will forget about in a two days or they'll have nothing good to say about it (thats ofcourse if your talking about the unIslamic weddings ) "

 

If he proposed that, what would you say?

[Haneefah]

^an extra month in Madina or Mecca sounds enticing. I've seen honeymooners who've opted for that option. A blessed way to begin a family!

[Ameen]

I know, isnt?

 

If only the women of our Time would request such a trip, then we wouldnt hesistate to show them the MONEY

[Aaliyyah]

Dahabshid, I would say 30 000. But, there is always room for accommodation depending on his income. Ofcourse, I haven't included other expenses...this is just the wedding

 

Ameen am sure there are many women out there who wouldnt mind going to makkah for honeymoon, dnt sound so pessimistic.

[Nuriya]

30K for a wedding? That has to be some kinda dambi.. There's nothing wrong with having a wedding but why spend an exorbitant amount of money? Gaalada can get away with it, b/c they're gaalo..but talk about israaf, I couldn't sleep well knowing that I've spent that much money on a night of nonsense (hadaan somali nahay, it's nonsense, never been to an organized somali wedding in my life) when there are some muslim ppl all over the world who don't have a dime to call their own.

I guess I just don't get it.

[Malika]

Ameen,that sounds ideal.Only happens when the two involved share the same outlook in life..

 

 

Aaliyah,I see your sticking to your guns..Lol,girl just be wise with that much money.A girl I know had one hell of a lavish wedding,later on while on holiday I visited her at her new home[she migrated to be with hubby]and to find them living in a studio flat[tiny]..common sense would have been for them to use those thousands of pounds they wasted on that one night in Hilton to buy even a two bedroom house..oh well they have the wedding DVD to show their children how the blew up almost 60 thousand dollars for one night...

[Nephissa]

now seriously, how do you go to Makkah and Medina for a honeymoon? doesn't that defeat the whole purpose of honeymooning..y'know.. the whole 'shebang' thingy. . How do you expect to go about it when one is busy doing cibaado Allah day in and out. [istaqfurulaah]

[SCORPION_SISTA]

loool Nephthys, you can sneak it in-between, as long as you cleanse before hand there shouldn't be a problem...Maybe those who opt for it, delay their wedding night to afterward, it is more to share an spiritual connection...Bee bye

[Malika]

Lol Nephthys....Actually,one should not be doing cibaado day and night,there are times for prayers,times to sleep ,to work and times to play..

 

It makes the whole experience 'wholly'dee..Lol,astagfirullah.

 

This reminds me of a question asked by a dugsi macaalim[Zanzibari]after being driven mad by the nutty Somali kids,she asked do you people start with rebuking the sheytan and saying bismillah before you do the 'shebang'thingy..waxaan aad dasheen,they are not normal..Lol