Ibtisam Posted March 29, 2008 CL Although it is all good and nice if you are 30, single and comfortable with the fact, or if you are 27, unmarried and not thinking of it at all. However I draw the line at mocking the importance of marriage. (*I can't beleive I'm sticking up for marriage* Marriage can be all that it is cracked up to be and so much more for some people. Others are not so lucky. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Yaabka-Yaabkiis Posted March 29, 2008 Marriage is big WORD! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TT Posted March 30, 2008 Sugar Love I can relate. My family have recently started pressuring me to settle down too. Whenever they mention it I just can’t stop laughing. My mom’s friends have also started to get in on the act too. Good Times. I don’t think you should get married because your family want you to. Marriage is a big step and one that shouldn’t be taken lightly. Some people are content in marrying someone they met a couple of times, while others need years to make up their mind. Do what is right for you. Marriage means compromising and not always getting your way. Every decision you make has to be made as a couple. Are you ready to take on all of that responsibility at this point in your life? I also think you should move out, if you live at home with your parents. Living on your own independently allows you to get away from all of that pressure and gives you perspective. You will soon find out there is no rush to get hitched, and you can relax. Also make a list of all the things you want to accomplish in your life, whether it is traveling, to learn a language or bungee jump. Start doing those things now and have fun. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zakinah Posted March 31, 2008 ^Are u encouraging the sister to Move out!! :rolleyes: call me an old fashion laakiin thats wrong,gabadha inteey guriga waaridkeeda joogto ayeey asturantahay!! somalidu waxeey tiraahdaa gabadhu ama guri ha yeelato, ama guri waalidkeed ha joogto ama god ha ku jidho si kale kuma asturnaato!!. SugarLove, abaayo no need to rush, when u meet the right Faarax u will know... Allahu aclam. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
-Serenity- Posted March 31, 2008 Originally posted by Zakinah: somalidu waxeey tiraahdaa gabadhu ama guri ha yeelato, ama guri waalidkeed ha joogto ama god ha ku jidho si kale kuma asturnaato!!. When you start a sentence with 'Soomaalidu waxay tidhaahdaa', it looses all credibility. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TT Posted March 31, 2008 Zakinah, I'm encouraging her to be more independent. There is nothing wrong with having your own place and doesn't imply the person has lose morals! If anything, you learn how to fend for yourself and you'll appreciate how hard your parents had to work to pay the household bills. Anyways, its just a thought...... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
-Lily- Posted March 31, 2008 Independence, the act of being self reliant, does not necessarily equate to living alone and can also be a state of mind & behaviour. Zakina, you should know by now that Somali sayings towards women are mostly misogynist comments. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JUSTICE Posted March 31, 2008 You need to hear this from someone who had been in the scene>>>>Me Don't just kick them, give them a chance and try hard to make it work... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zakinah Posted April 2, 2008 Horta qof walbe qumanihiis ayaa qoorta ugu jidho.. Lily, I know that there are somali sayings that are degrading towards woman laakin this one wasnt degrading because its actually not only a somali saying laakin a saying from our beloved prophet. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
