How not to talk to your kids

[Baashi]

The Power (and Peril) of Praising Your Kids

[Abu-Salman]

Of course, parenting can't be seriously learnt from psychologists alone, albeit neuroscientists are just a bit more serious with more scientific methods and I tend to agree with the above finding that general praise not linked to a specific effort is wholly counter-productive (hardly a scoop though).

 

That said, giving an Islamic education should be the focus of each and every parent (Aqidah, beginning with Tawxiid, especially) within a propitious environment and through examplar behavior, as this teach moderation in everything (even if this involve moving to a Muslim country, somehow "sacrificing" one's career ect).

 

Health Issues, general and scientific Education, one's awareness of available opportunities ect could hence be tackled within a coherent framework given that avoiding every harmful behavior, empathy towards others and time management skills thus become islamically sanctioned.

 

This myth of an all-powerfull "intelligence", whatever that may mean ("experts" constantly disagree over its meaning as this could include skills as different as map reading...as langage aptitude), and this must absolutely be discredited for the illusion it is, as different cultures and associated world-view have different agendas and basic assumptions to say the least.

 

Meanwhile, local Islamic schools are a must (a Somali one will open September in North London) and should never be overlooked as an Islamic reference is the priority of all priorities; else, there is little point in rearing "smart", but otherwise acculturated outcasts neither fully integrated into the Western incoherence nor having any Islamic appearance, let alone Ilm...