Nephissa Posted October 23, 2008 If one is not ready to change their ways after doing Hajj, will their hajj be accepted? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Che -Guevara Posted October 23, 2008 ^Depends what their ways are or were. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
N.O.R.F Posted October 23, 2008 Nephys, What is the point of going? The importance of one's intentions is hugely under estimated. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nephissa Posted October 23, 2008 ^ nothing morally impure, just pretty ordinary [fun] way. I asked this q because I've just finished reading Abu-Salman's 'hijaab' thread. In it, it had this verse: “O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies (i.e. screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way ). That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allaah is Ever Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful” Hal il inaad wax ka eegto hadaanad diyaar u ahayn, maxaa dhacaayo? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Aaliyyah Posted October 23, 2008 Neph, am sure Allah swt will accept any good deeds that we act on. Regardless of whether we continue what we use to do or change for the better. Know that Allah swt is merciful sister. But, if you had the chance to go to haj and start a new page in life knowing that allah swt forgave you, and you know you have a new page to depart from. what's holding you back from changing?your creator forgave you despite of all the bad deeds you have done. He gaveyou a new start, new beginning...knowing that I would assume a fellow muslim person would be more than motivated to alter their ways so they can please Allah swt... Wearing niqaab is optional most scholars agreed that showing your face and hands is acceptable. You just need to cover in Islamic fashion and you don't walk around with hijaab and tight jeans like i seen some ppl do. And, that you pray ur five prayers and that you refrain from the things that Allah swt prohibited. Remember Allah swt clearly said he doesn't enforce upon us things that we are unable to do. May allah swt forgive us all and facilitate at least one trip to haj in our life time. wa salaam Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Che -Guevara Posted October 23, 2008 Complete different Q but somewhat related. Is danbi if one pay Hajj expenses for ur mistress or GF? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Aaliyyah Posted October 23, 2008 ^ you and your awkward questions... am speechless!! You are not suppose to have mistress or gf to start with from religious point of view. I have a solution for you, marry your mistress. And, then you can pay for her expenses...and both of you can start a new page in a halaal way... Someone call the shiekh Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Che -Guevara Posted October 23, 2008 ^But let's say you do have mistress and wanna the relationship that way-then what?. Does your good deed go un-noticed?. If I understand right, the topic is about the dichotomy of human nature vis-à-vis faith. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Aaliyyah Posted October 23, 2008 It makes no sense at all...why don't you get married and then go to Haj. Pretty simple! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Che -Guevara Posted October 23, 2008 ^Please reread the post above. The key point is I don't wanna get married to mistress but willing to help her since ee rabto inee soo cibaadeesato. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Aaliyyah Posted October 23, 2008 lol@ i don't want to marry a mistress....lets clarify this was she your mistress before? or now? if she was your mistress before and now that relationship is done with. Then, perhaps you can get ajar out of helping a sister out. But, if she's still your mistress (what you are doing is haraam) and the fact that you have no intention of marrying her even makes the situation far worse. walaal you lack the basic understanding of Islam. Get some knowledge inshallah. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Che -Guevara Posted October 23, 2008 ^I was just making a point. There is dichotomy in everything we do, I think this is what Nephtys is trying to get at. Does a bad deed nullify good one. Perhaps the mistress thing looks obvious but more relatabl example would like listening to music while making Afur or watching half-clad women on tv right after praying? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Aaliyyah Posted October 23, 2008 ^ It depends on the nature of the bad deed. She said "just having fun", which can vary from one person to another. Maybe, she should clarify what she means by fun??...if fun is just hanging out with your friends and wasting time. That's something you should try to control and minimize other than that it's not a big deal..If it's however skipping a prayer, or having a mistress things that we know are haraam...and are examples of the major sins in islam..it's something you should avoid and change before you ask allah swt to forgive you. Allah swt knows whats in our hearts and what our intentions are so if you go to haj planning when you come back you will continue skipping your prayers, or have mistress? then really even if allah swt forgave you abt the previous sins...you're still doing them which in a way makes no sense at all. The ideal situation would be stopping them, and refraining from whatever those actions were for good. salaam p.s Listening to music is also haraam. Even though most of us do listen to music. No one is perfect. But, we should strive inshallah to minimize that too. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Che -Guevara Posted October 23, 2008 ^You know it is the music that led to me to the mistress Wa Salaam dear. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Aaliyyah Posted October 23, 2008 ^^^ that's exactly why music is haraam. It naturalizes things that obviously are haraam from religious stand. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites