Queen Arawello Posted July 14, 2008 What would ya'll ask for as a dower/mahr? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Malika Posted July 14, 2008 ^I only asked for what was in his pocket,the stingy man only had £20 pounds and that became my dawry.. It depends with the man your marrying,if he can afford and you know he can afford why not ask for a substantial amount but if you know your man hasnt got the means then why not pardon him and go for lesser amount. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Queen Arawello Posted July 14, 2008 LooooL Jokarad I really don't know what I would ask for, It dosen't have to be money so thats o.k I suppose Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Faarax-Brawn Posted July 14, 2008 Originally posted by Malika: ^I only asked for what was in his pocket,the stingy man only had £20 pounds and that became my dawry.. Such a thrifty family,mashallah Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cara. Posted July 14, 2008 Admit it FB, if you were him you would've split the 20 between two pockets. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Pujah Posted July 14, 2008 I asked for the moon and few stars - didn't get any of it but oh well! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Miskiin-Macruuf-Aqiyaar Posted July 15, 2008 If we were Reer Hindiya or Bakistaan, adigaa lagaa rabi lahaa inaa wax bixisid. Not only that, waa inay reerkaaga arooska qarashkiisa badankiisa bixiyaan as well. Now, that is a culture. Soomaali culture is good though, not only does the groom or his family has to pay meherka, most of the wedding's cost, but also soori and whatnot to other members of the bride's immediate family. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Som@li Posted July 15, 2008 Pujah, Ma maqashay xidigaha ku meheri? and it happens when the guy wants the girl no matter what,and asked if he can accept her request, and he will say "Xidigahana ku Meheri haday rabto",lol Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rudy-Diiriye Posted July 15, 2008 yo! this happened couple of weeks ago in la.. sujui dude gets called to his maher! guess wat he came there thinking he was just gonna get fed! indha soo baxey noo marki la dhaya wheres the money!!! lol... anyways, in san diego these days...gal families are footing the bill...including the house furniture if any faraax is interested. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Abtigiis Posted July 15, 2008 The biggest dowry is to buy her 'Kitaab Quraan ah'. I know lot of guys who do that. Apart from its immeasurable spiritual value, it costs 1-10 USD. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Buuxo Posted July 15, 2008 ^haha.Whoever choose that as a dowery are smart, they know that somalis make a habit of not giving the maher until sheekada xumaato.At least kitaab bey heesataa Why be cute or coy 'war maherkeyga halkaas so dhig inteen sheekada bilaawan'. I never have given it any thought, and when i do i make sure they whisper it in to sheykh and husbands ear. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ibtisam Posted July 15, 2008 A house of my own [which he has no claims to and cannot stay in] in a far way beautiful place and permission to escape and go there when ever and for how ever long I wish. That way when ever he pis*ses you off you can escape to a nice place for as long as it takes you to stop contemplating killing his sorry as*S We'll both live longer and easier life. :cool: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Faheema. Posted July 15, 2008 Originally posted by Abtigiis & Tusbax: The biggest dowry is to buy her 'Kitaab Quraan ah'. I know lot of guys who do that. Apart from its immeasurable spiritual value, it costs 1-10 USD. I hate the way most Somalis have devalued this form of dowry. When she says I want Kitaab Quraan ah it doesn't mean you buy her one and she puts it on the shelf, it means you have taken on the task of teaching her the entire quran and its meaning. It is a massive responsibility to take on let alone accomplished by the average Farax. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Faarax-Brawn Posted July 15, 2008 Originally posted by Abtigiis & Tusbax: The biggest dowry is to buy her 'Kitaab Quraan ah'. I know lot of guys who do that. Apart from its immeasurable spiritual value, it costs 1-10 USD. That is probably the most wonderful of gifts. You have to pay for or teach her the entire quran not just give her the golxob adeer. If you fail though, hada the consequences ayadana are dire. Caraz,i think i would have been cheap Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Haneefah Posted July 15, 2008 Faheema, precisely sis. Unless you're a Zaid bin Thabit, Ibn Abbas or Ibn Masud, may Allah be pleased with them...ok maybe not. But if I were a man, I seriously wouldn't contemplate accepting such an enormous burden unless I had an excellent command of the Quranic sciences, and the capacity to deliver. I'd push her towards materialistic requests. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
