New Year Resolution

[Kamaavi]

Originally posted by chubacka:

^ but you should have some long term goals.

I’ve a big a picture, instead of a long loooong-term goal. A big picture is the lifestyle I want to live and the accomplishments it contains. No deadline. No hammering out the details.

 

Just a big picture that I can set shorter goals towards.

[hodman]

Originally posted by chubacka:

Besides, most people put on their resolution eat better, why not do it righ now, why do u need to wait till 2010 to eat better

.

 

Because it gives you a bit more time to eat all the c*ap you want.

THANk you finally someone understands me

[chubacka]

Key to keeping New Year resolutions revealed by psychologist.

 

The key to keeping a New Year resolution may be to break your goal into small steps and not to dwell on the consequences of not achieving your goal, a pscyhologist has claimed.

 

Less than a quarter of Britons will achieve their New Year resolutions in 2010 because they go about it the wrong way, according to Professor Richard Wiseman.

 

He studied 700 volunteers who made a wide range of New Year resolutions, including quitting smoking, losing weight, starting a relationship or gaining a qualification.

 

Just 22 per cent of participants managed to meet their goals or described their progress as ''very successful''.

 

The reason so many failed is that they took the wrong approach - and were led astray by self-help books, according to Prof Wiseman, from the University of Hertfordshire.

 

By comparing the techniques of successful and unsuccessful resolution makers, he came up with a list of tips for staying the course when making changes in one's life.

 

People who failed tended to dwell on the ''bad things'' that would happen if they did not achieve their goal, said the professor.

 

They were likely to remove temptation from their surroundings, adopt role models, fantasise about being successful, and rely on will power.

 

 

''Many of these ideas are frequently recommended by self-help experts but our results suggest that they simply don't work'', said Prof Wiseman. ''Because of the widespread nature of this advice, millions of people will fail to achieve their aims''.

 

Successful participants, on the other hand, broke their goals into small steps, rewarding themselves when each stage was passed.

 

They also told friends about what they were trying to achieve, reminded themselves of the benefits of obtaining their goal, and charted their progress.

 

''Many of the most successful techniques involve making a plan and helping yourself stick to it,'' said Prof Wiseman. ''Those carrying out all five techniques were around 20% more successful than others.

 

''Failing to achieve your ambitions is often psychologically harmful because it can rob people of a sense of self-control. I hope that this new research will help people change their lives in 2010.''

 

:: Prof Wiseman's 10 secrets of success when making New Year resolutions:

 

 

1) Make only one resolution;. your chances of success are greater when you channel energy into changing just one aspect of your behaviour.

 

2) Don't wait until New Year's Eve to think about your resolution . Instead devote some time a few days before to reflect upon what you really want to achieve.

 

3) Avoid previous resolutions;. deciding to re-visit a past resolution sets you up for frustration and disappointment.

 

4) Don't run with the crowd and go with the usual resolutions.. Instead think about what you really want out of life.

 

5) Break your goal into a series of steps. focusing on creating sub-goals that are concrete, measurable, and time-based.

 

6) Tell your friends and family about your goals. thus increasing the fear of failure and eliciting support.

 

7)Regularly remind yourself of the benefits associated with achieving your goals.. Create a checklist of how life would be better once you obtain your aim.

 

8) Give yourself a small reward whenever you achieve a sub-goal. This will maintain motivation and a sense of progress.

 

9) Make your plans and progress concrete by keeping a hand-written journal, completing a computer spreadsheet or covering a notice board with graphs or pictures..

 

10)Expect to revert to your old habits from time to time. Treat any failure as a temporary set-back rather than a reason to give up altogether.

 

Now the only problem is choosing which of the 65 resolutions to focus on...

 

 

Source: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/howaboutthat/6895795/Key-to-keeping-New-Year-resolutions- revealed-by-psychologist.html

[Ibtisam]

I never make any- not concrete ones anyway, because I have a fear of not achieving what I set out to do and then I will be a failure. But this year I am going to try and be more simple and straight forward and age gracefully. I am going to tell rude people to get a life, and ungrateful people to jump off a cliff and cut off lots of fake useless rubbish I picked up in the last year. I am going to stop being a push over (this is for my family only) reinvent myself and Arawelo with a semi warm heart. Here comes the mean serious to the point Ibtisam- Looooooooooooook out>>>>> Crash landing.

[cynical lady]

aaaam i'm confused. I thought you were all of that and more already.

[Ibtisam]

^^^Loool. I got a bit soft this year because I thought I'd give being "nice" a go. Now I realised it is cramping my style and it is not me. What about you?

 

P.s. Based on this your recent comments- you are getting soft too.

[cynical lady]

lol@ cramping my style.

 

My New Year resolution is too scandalous to mention.

 

p.s My dear every year I make the same resolution i.e. try to be tiny winy nice and less cynical. Come 2nd week of Jan, I realise how hopeless that was. Hence gave up on the niceness and embraced my permanent state of grumpiness.

 

Actually I need to open a grumpy-corner. So much to be grumpy about lately.

 

As for me getting soft- shame on you sister-woman. And whatever gave you that idea?

[Faheema.]

lol Ibti, A Leopard Never Changes Its Spots baa la yidhi markaa just be yourself, it's what works best

 

As for me...Re-join the gym, quit FB (which I did a week early) Do couple of professional baking courses, quit my job before the end of the tax year and concentrate/pursue sound and profitable business ventures. Insha Allah.

[cynical lady]

As a maître pâtissier?

[Faheema.]

^Oui Oui, well hopefully one day soon

[Juxa]

hmmm ibti you become nicer cause you met me, it is natural that my niceness have rubbed into you

 

lool who am i kidding, if faheema and lily cont entice you with bit of niceness, no chance baan ku iri

 

my new year resolution is same as always, aniga iyo him above. i want to learn quranka too