NGONGE Posted April 26, 2004 A few days ago while I was on my way home from work, I got on a crowded bus and sat next to a Somali lady with a baby in her arms. I sat there reading my newspaper and minding my own business when this lady proceeded to expose her breast and feed her baby! I felt embarrassed and kept on staring at my newspaper (couldn’t read anything in it of course). My embarrassment had nothing to do with my views on the subject by the way. I’m not sure whether I approve of breast-feeding in public or not. I can see the reasons why someone would do it and can also see the reasons why someone shouldn’t do it. To the guys on here, what would have been your reaction had you been in my shoes? Would you talk to the woman? Would you get up and move away or would you sit there as if nothing had happened? How about you girls? Would you breast-feed in public? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Intuition Posted April 26, 2004 Asalaamu'Calaykum, Well for you its about embarrassment and to the baby its about being hungry then and there. To you it's just breasts, and to the baby it's a fast-food outlet. I guess women should try to be a little discreet lakiin when it comes to the crunch, its part of nature. Me personally I’m not at that stage yet, but I personally would try and avoid doing it in crowded places and if I had to, I’d make sure I’m well covered. Unless we are only women that is, coz in that case I’m allowed to. And anyway alhamdulilah now a days we have baby feeding rooms every where. I was in your position I’d say masha'allah beautiful baby how old? but then again I’m a sista, if your male you should turn away. Her breastfeeding is non of your business and doesn’t give men the license to stare. It ain’t your wife. Wasalaam Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Strawberry_Xu Posted April 26, 2004 Well said Intuition Don't know about you girls, but I'm a female, and even I get embarrassed when women breastfeed in public. I don't even like it when they do it in front of me in private. I understand that the baby needs feeding, but the least they could do is cover up. As a mother you should be prepared that your baby might get hungry, before you leave the house. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NGONGE Posted April 26, 2004 Like I said, I understand why she had to do it. The baby was hungry and needed to be fed, it’s not “take your top off for the boys” type of scenario. You can’t blame me for being embarrassed though; I would have been embarrassed had it been a western lady doing the same thing, let alone a Somali woman. As for staring, well, I didn’t stare but I would be lying if I said I didn’t want to. Not for her beauty, not because I’m a pervert, but just because it was a surreal type of situation to be involved in and I couldn’t believe my eyes. I need to start doing some work soon! :confused: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LadyDotNet Posted April 26, 2004 The mother should’ve made provision for her child while travelling on public transport. A mother knows her baby feeding times and should’ve been well prepared; in saying that we are not aware of the situation (maybe she had left the baby bottles at home or the baby is only used to breast feeding) If it can't be helped so be it. I am sure she tried to be discreet as best as she could, mothers have a way of not exposing themselves while breast feeding – a true talent some posses. Me personally, I would not be able to do it in public, probably end up getting off the tube/bus & finding somewhere less crowded to feed the crying baby (Result Happy baby, Delayed journey , ).. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Arwa Posted April 26, 2004 well said Intuition Salaam Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mombasa_QUEEN Posted April 26, 2004 salam when it comes to my beloved kids i would do anything for them and i wount be showing off like that but atleast i would cover up ma boobs and then breast feed the kid i belive the woman had no intantion to let you see her boobs lakiin she was thinking about her kid and how hungry he was and i belive thats the reason why she flip her boobs on public. and it could be bad and haram i think. but kids comes first Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BORN_BRANIAC Posted April 26, 2004 Originally posted by NGONGE: How about you girls? Would you breast-feed in public? The answer is NO, or it if had to i have to be cover my breast, i just have to.. to make my long story short... I agree with intuition 100%. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bambina Posted April 26, 2004 Salam Alaykum , Im pretty sure the baby was hungry but I wouldnt recommend any woman to expose her breasts to men's eyes. At least , mothers should make sure to bring some bottles and a long piece of cloth to cover her breasts and should be careful not to suffocate the baby with the cloth.I have seen a woman doing it and Im sure it will work for any mother. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SayidSomal Posted March 13, 2012 Ngonge's first recorded post. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Malika Posted March 13, 2012 Loooool and what a topic to kick start with! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jacaylbaro Posted March 13, 2012 :D ,, When he used to stare at the breasts Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BOB Posted March 13, 2012 ^^^He was so timid and apologetic...proper Arab. He got woman handled and they bullied him to submission till he ran.... :D Peace, Love & Unity. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NGONGE Posted March 13, 2012 Actually, this was not my first post. In fact, it wasn't even one of my first ten posts. Is this about goats again? War dumarka ha caayin! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites