Ibtisam Posted March 8, 2009 ^^^LOOOL I did expect you to walk into that. My answer stands, I don't find my friends attractive sexually. LOL Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Faheema. Posted March 8, 2009 ^Liar! Liar! 'Pants...er, 'Boots' on fire! Someone once said... "It's as though women have two separate file folders: FRIENDS and POTENTIAL LOVERS and there is no mixing of the two. Worse yet, once she puts you into the FRIENDS folder it''s nearly impossible to make a switch to the other." I couldn't agree more Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ibtisam Posted March 8, 2009 ^^^ Strangely enough my best friend is a guy. He thinks I am a guy most of the time. EDIT: Faheem: Afkeena aya is ku aminaah Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Faheema. Posted March 8, 2009 ^lol, I hope your 'ugly' male friends are not reading this It doesn't make any difference to me, ugly or hot, If I put him in 'friends folder' that's it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ibtisam Posted March 8, 2009 ^^You are right, I'll go and edit that Don't want to hurt any feelings. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NGONGE Posted March 8, 2009 Heh! A 'When Harry Met Sally' thread? Here, let me save you all the trouble.... Sally: We are just going to be friends, ok? Harry: Great! Friends! It's the best thing. (On the road once more) Harry: You realise of course that we can never be friends. Sally: Why not? Harry: What I'm saying is... and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form, is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way. Sally: That's not true, I have a number of men friends and there's is no sex involved. Harry: No you don't. Sally: Yes I do. Harry: No you don't. Sally: Yes I do. Harry: You only think you do. Sally: You're saying I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge? Harry: No, what I'm saying is they all want to have sex with you. Sally: They do not. Harry: Do too. Sally: They do not. Harry: Do too. Sally: How do you know? Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman he finds attractive, he always wants to have sex with her. Sally: So you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive. Harry: Nuh, you pretty much wanna nail'em too. Sally: What if they don't want to have sex with you? Harry: Doesn't matter, because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story. Sally: Well I guess we're not going to be friends then. Harry: Guess not. Sally: That's too bad. You are the only person I knew in New York. (Louis Armstrong breaks into "You say neither, I say....". They've reached the Big Apple and are unloading Harry's luggage) Harry: Thanks for the ride. Sally: Yeah, it was interesting. Harry: It was nice knowing you. Sally: Yeah. (They shake hands) Sally: Well have a nice life. Harry: You too. Then the movie goes on a little like.... (Plane lands, Harry and Sally meet again on one of those motorised walkways in the Airport) Harry: Staying over? Sally: Yes. Harry: Would you like to have dinner? (Sally looks over) Harry: Just friends. Sally: I thought you didn't believe men and women could be friends. Harry: When did I say that? Sally: On the ride to New York. Harry: No no no no, I never said that. (Harry pauses, thinks.) Yes, that's right, they can't be friends. Unless both of them are involved with other people then they can. This is an amendment to the earlier rule, if the two people are in relationships, the pressure of possibilty of involvement is lifted. (Pauses) That doesn't work either because what happens then is the person you're involved with can't understand why you need to be friends with the person you're just friends with. Like it means something is missing from their relationship and "why do you have to go outside to get it?". Then when you say, "no no no no, it's not true nothing's missing from the relationship", the person you're involved with then accuses you of being secretly attracted to the person you're just friends with, which we probably are, I mean, come on, who the hell are we kidding, let's face it, which brings us back to the earlier rule before the amendment which is men and women can't be friends, so where does that leave us? Sally: Harry. Harry: What? Sally: Goodbye. Harry: Oh, OK. (They both start to walk along the motorised walkway, side by side) Harry: I'll just stop walking, I'll let you go ahead. Want more? ...oh, alright then.... Harry: You know the first time I met I really didn't like you that much. Sally: I didn't like you. Harry: Yeah you did, you were just so uptight then. You're much softer now. Sally: You know I hate that kind of remark. It sounds like a complement but really it's an insult. Harry: OK, you're still as hard as nails. Sally: I just didn't want to sleep with you and you had to write it off as a character flaw instead of dealing with the possibility that it might have something to do with you. Harry: What's the statute of limitation on apologies? Sally: Ten years. Harry: Ooo, I can just get it in under the wire. Sally: Would you like to have dinner with me some time? Harry: Are we becoming friends now? Sally: Well... (Pause) yah. Harry: Great! A woman friend... You know you may be the first attractive woman I have not wanted to sleep with in my entire life. Sally: That's wonderful Harry. More? More? (Sally kisses Marie then walks away. Then she sees Harry arriving, still puffing. Then, Harry sees Sally as well.) Harry: I've been doing a lot of thinking. And the thing is, I love you. Sally: What? Harry: I love you. Sally: How do you expect me to respond to this? Harry: How about you love me too? Sally: How about I'm leaving. Harry: Doesn't what I said mean anything to you? Sally: I'm sorry Harry, I know it's New Years Eve, I know you're feeling lonely, but you just can't show up here, tell me you love me and expect that to make everything alright. It doesn't work this way. Harry: Well how does it work? Sally: I don't know but not this way. Harry: Well how about this way. I love that you get cold when it's seventy one degrees out, I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich, I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you're looking at me like I'm nuts, I love that after I spend a day with you I can still smell your perfume on my clothes and I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it's not because I'm lonely, and it's not because it's New Years Eve. I came here tonight because when you realise you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of the life to start as soon as possible. Sally: You see, that is just like you Harry. You say things like that and you make it impossible for me to hate you. And I hate you Harry... I really hate you. I hate you. (They kiss and make up.) Harry: What does this song mean? For my whole life I don't know what this song means. I mean, 'Should old acquaintance be forgot". Does that mean we should forget old acquaintances or does it mean if we happen to forget them we should remember them, which is not possible because we already forgot them!? Sally: Well may be it just means that we should remember that we forgot them or something. Anyway it's about old friends. (They kiss and make up, once more.) Harry (Voice over): The first time we met we hated each other. Sally (Voice over): No, you didn't hate me, I hated you. And the second time we met you didn't even remember me. Harry (Voice over): I did too, I remembered you. The third time we met, we became friends. Sally (Voice over): We were friends for a long time. Harry (Voice over): And then we weren't. Sally (Voice over): And then we fell in love. (Harry and Sally on the couch this time.) Sally: Three months later we got married. Harry: Yeah it only took three months. Sally: Twelve years and three months. Harry: We had this... we had a really wonderful wedding. Sally: It was a, it really was, it was a wonderful wedding. Harry: Yeah, we had this enormous coconut cake. Sally: Huge coconut cake, with the, with the... tiers and this... very rich chocolate sauce on the side. Harry: Right, 'cos not everybody like it on the cake 'cos it makes it very soggy. Sally: Particularly the coconut, soaks up a lot of that stuff, so you really... it's important to keep it on the side. Harry: Right. THE END Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Che -Guevara Posted March 8, 2009 LooooooooooooL Originally posted by -II-: It doesn't make any difference to me, ugly or hot, If I put him in 'friends folder' that's it. I don't know if you are married or not, but that's something married woman or about to be married chica would say. Ibti.....LooooooooooL, yes anything near the pocket, below the neck..easy trap.Anyway, makes me wonder if your BBF find you 'beautiful' Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ibtisam Posted March 9, 2009 ^^^No he thinks I'm not lady like/ women enough. :eek: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Faheema. Posted March 9, 2009 Originally posted by Che -Guevara: I don't know if you are married or not, but that's something married woman or about to be married chica would say. LoL, neither...and the only reason a 'hot' guy would be in the friends folder is because that's ALL he has going for him So, it's natural to place him there Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Che -Guevara Posted March 9, 2009 ^Very pragmatic I say.See you I like Ibti Jee...Unless you are spitting tobacco or scratching your crouch in public, then I say you are still lady. Besides what does your looks get to do with ur behavior? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ibtisam Posted March 9, 2009 LOOOOL @ spitting tobacco or scratching your crouch in public. LOOOL Waax walaan. when you spend so much time with someone, what they look like is shaped by their behaviour. Have you never met a stunning lady and after a while you decided, gosh she is truly ugly, how do I get away from her. Or you met someone whose looks you did not even notice to start with and then after a while you find yourself think, she is beautiful, how did I not notice! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ms DD Posted March 9, 2009 I read this: Do's and Don'ts of Cultivating and Maintaining a Platonic Friendship with a Woman You Would Otherwise Want To Have a Relationship With and Quite Possibly Marry. DO play and replay scenarios in your mind where you come out and declare your true feelings to her, whereupon you proceed directly to frenzied yet sensitive, passionate, and completely fulfilling love-making. DO NOT actually attempt this. DO rehearse elaborate and impassioned declarations of your love DO NOT ever let anyone hear you doing this. DO NOT ever actually give her the speech. (Instead, drop little, enigmatic, self-deprecating hints to her, and then agonize over why she does not pick up on them.) DO listen to all her problems with men: No matter how many times you have heard her make these same mistakes (with other men), DO NOT get so entranced by her soft, full lips that you lean forward and kiss her. (Fantasize about it instead.) DO feel the knife twisting and your insides tearing up as you listen to this DO develop a gnawing enviousness that grows into an insane jealousy DO commiserate with your close guy friends. See who can come up with the most heinously painful story about "The Treatment." Shudder in unison. DO NOT confide in any of your female friends, because: They won't understand. They've done it themselves. In fact, they enjoy doing it. They'll think you are talking about them. They are obligated to pass on their knowledge to the Psychological Warfare Division of the Sisterhood to Destroy All Men. DO get drunk and maudlin about her DO NOT get drunk and confront her If you do reveal your true feelings to her while drunk or in an otherwise abnormal or altered state of mind (incl. unwarranted happiness, ridiculously deep depression, brain fever, etc.), DO deny and disavow all statements the next day. DO say how it would be such a big mistake if you were to get together with her. DO joke about it afterwards. DO NOT cry, break down, and admit that you have been carrying a torch for her for ___ weeks/months/years/aeons. DO NOT consciously avoid her for the next two weeks (avoid her unconsciously). DO curse yourself for being a miserable, spineless, pathetic, emotionally-stunted fool. DO promise that you will change, that things will be different. DO NOT actually change. DO agonize about whether to sign letters to her "love" or "your friend" DO NOT pretend you are kissing her when you lick the envelope. DO vacillate between fearing that she will discover how you feel about her and hoping that she does. DO seek out opportunities to hug, air/cheek kiss, and give/receive back rubs DO NOT let things get out of hand (if this should happen, apologize profusely and disavow everything) DO become trapped in a shallow, meaningless, lifeless relationship. DO NOT actually seek out a secure, quality, lasting relationship, as this would interfere with your fantasizing about her DO complain bitterly about this awful relationship to all your friends and to her. DO create a web page that is vague enough to be relevant to the masses, yet specific enough so that the one, special platonic friend you've been carrying a torch for reads it, comes to her senses Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Che -Guevara Posted March 9, 2009 Originally posted by *Ibtisam*: LOOOOL @ spitting tobacco or scratching your crouch in public. LOOOL Waax walaan. when you spend so much time with someone, what they look like is shaped by their behaviour. Have you never met a stunning lady and after a while you decided, gosh she is truly ugly, how do I get away from her. Or you met someone whose looks you did not even notice to start with and then after a while you find yourself think, she is beautiful, how did I not notice! Oh Ibbi..You are so sweet.K, we will have Fahiima and DD doing the bidding for you and have 'the once ugly now stunning' know of your feeling Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
