Guur customs

[Valenteenah.]

NG, do they now? LoL. I wouldn't want to view it after the fact. And it's the serious stuff that interests me not the mindless chit chat.

 

Johnny, am not sure about the physics but those are interesting assertions. Who is the 'little Chinese man', Zu? You ought to let sleeping lions lie, sweetie.

 

Northerner, gold is a good thing. Brides always received gold as a wedding present, didn't they?

[-Lily-]

Actually I’m curious why the brides always ask for money in the Meher, that’s so cheap. Surely there has to be something more valuable one can ask for?

 

looooooool@shoe modelling.

[Johnny B]

Val, stop pretending , it ain't funnt dee, and it's let sleeping CATS lie, pumbkin .

 

Zu has no hell's chance in FRICTION , and that is a factor in the Xero game.

 

As for you , get your 'Guntino' on n get ready for shoe modelling as wrestling is for the likes of Serenity.

[Pujah]

All of you wash your dirty minds with soap and hot water specially you Johnny boy

[STOIC]

Sitting amid the wedding guests I was once picked by the lady with the stick in her hand.Even though I wasn't intrigued by her choice of picking me I knew I was going to open the damn thing.It wasn't too late before the lady started hiting me for starting from the wrong end.I regreted for trading my quite disposition for acting up as a chattier person to the judges.They sentenced me to dance with the most beautiful flower in the crowd.It was a hard decision.Especially when every flower was displaying dazling smile at the young turk.I was about to present the most exeburant dancing ever, but I opted to dance with my little niece who were clueless.

 

You really can't go wrong with an edible hilib and timiir smashed together by a bunch of old ladies in a wedding mood .

[Zafir]

JB, are you saying L.O.Z is our own Ron Jeremy? Neetto mosquito!!

 

Ng, I remember that day.

 

I remember my Xeedho, I struggled so hard against the that silly string, when I finally couldn’t figure it out, my older brother came over to help me dismantle my manikin bride while I stood there watching him take the whole thing apart. My bride’s potty mouth uncle goes “ Waar, kani bay aheyd in aan gabadha siisano” no one laughed, awkward silence rushed the entire basement. I almost wanted to sing [oknodku roobka ma daayoo] , I wanted to run to far far away land, I wanted to hide my face from the camera and wipe off that fake smile. As if all that weren’t embarrassing enough, my brother goes “ he is a virgin, he don’t know anything” and it was horrible, horrible experience, anyways I hate Xeedhos, I think they are degrading to women.

[Miskiin-Macruuf-Aqiyaar]

Originally posted by Munira002:

Lool, recently a friend got married,she went overboard with the western theme..after cutting the cake,exchanging rings...they kissed..OMG!! you should have seen the faces of the elders...priceless! Gobsmacked they were,as for the young they cheered...signs of modernisation eey!

Muniiro, waxaa isoo xasuusisay an awkward moment in Nayroobi, Kiinya.

 

It was in 1994, guriga la wada fadhiye, yar iyo weyn, adeer iyo abti, habaryar iyo eedo, and folks were ready to watch a recent wedding from Australia; a wedding of my abti's wife's brother and his new bride.

 

Long story short, the wedding too Western ayee ahayd but the shock has yet to come. At the end, afkii ayaa la isgishtay. Walaahi fadhigaas dadkii wada fadhiye, everyone from yar iyo weyn, kud isku yiri, some elders froze. If it was a few seconds maba xumeyn, but they darn continued for minutes. Yaxyaxnimadii waa laga baxay that some even started to talk about "BBC maxee sheegtay" in order just to change the heavy embarrassing air in the room. Finally someone -- bless whoever it was -- fast-forwarded it.

 

Markii dambe some started making lame excuses, such as the bride being 'Eritrean' [though she was Muslim] and perhaps dhaqankooda baas saas ah. Yea, yea.

 

About caanaha lugaha lagu dhaqo, I don't know about it. I only know caanaha geel ah la cabo as a substitution for cake, which is Western.

 

My sister's aroos in 1988 ayaa saas lagu sameeye, which was instead of cutting lame cakes, she and her bridegroom gave caano geel one another from a real dhiil. The whole aroos was hidaha iyo dhaqanka, from top to down. It was the first hida iyo dhaqan guur I had seen.

[Legend of Zu]

Originally posted by Johnny B:

Val, stop pretending , it ain't funnt dee, and it's let sleeping CATS lie, pumbkin .

 

Zu has no hell's chance in FRICTION , and that is a factor in the Xero game.

 

As for you , get your 'Guntino' on n get ready for shoe modelling as wrestling is for the likes of Serenity.

LoL..By talking about physics, you have disqualified yourself. JB= No More threat

 

Er on the matter you mentioned, The Late Holmes would have been envious - ever seen a Somalinese? then again you haven't been exposed to the excruciating exercises we do here in Zu Mountains!

 

I tell you JB, the Zu school will start the winter intake soon...don't miss it...you may get the chance to be my apprentice

 

Cheers

[Malika]

MMA, I saw it only on two occasions,and that was back in Tanzania.The bride will be handed a jug of milk,while the groom is handed a boy,before entering their home,both their feet are washed...,I will ask my ayeeyo,whats its called and where in Somalia its mostly practiced.

 

I love the gelbiis, two years ago,my cousin went to get married in Nakuru[kenya].He was escorted by almost 100 men,walking down the street,the cars honking...aah what a feeling,he was so smug and yet trembling with fear.

[Warrior of Light]

Originally posted by Munira002:

MMA, I saw it only on two occasions,and that was back in Tanzania.The bride will be handed a jug of milk,while the groom is handed a boy,before entering their home,both their feet are washed...,I will ask my ayeeyo,whats its called and where in Somalia its mostly practiced.

 

I love the gelbiis, two years ago,my cousin went to get married in Nakuru[kenya].He was escorted by almost 100 men,walking down the street,the cars honking...aah what a feeling,he was so smug and yet trembling with fear.

^what I have experienced is when the bride is sent to the grooms homestead. At the doorstep her feet are rinsed with milk(these days water with a dash of milk) and she cares a male baby. Then she enters the house. Implying that May she bring good fortune to the family, house full of caano and may she bring sons. Its common practise among somalis whose links orginate from Somaliland in Tanzania.

 

The Gelbiska is also very common and the opening of the Herada in Tanzania. Though due to religious influence alot of sijuis have stopped the herada and the gelbiska as it is a venue where men and women can mingle freely. What a shame.

[Warrior of Light]

Some other myths?? Ive heard about somali weddings.

On the night the newly weds get to be together a minhisada sits outside with a bakoorad, to let no one pass. And later the white sheet is passed around the old ladies, if there are markings which they are looking for, there are ululations addressed to the bride.

 

^^Im glad that part no longer exist in this generation somali wedding.

 

I also hear the yeradka(money given to the brides family to buy stuff for their daughter) is becoming less common. I wonder how much a groom could pay for that? As in the value ?He buys her furniture? gold?clothes??

 

Looks like it after he married the lady he goes bankrupt but their house is fully furnished. What happens if they divorce, she leaves with all??

[Nephissa]

Waxan maqlay some parts of Somalia, the bride gets a good whooping with a belt from the groom as part of the wedding ritual, so she never undermines his strenght and manhood. The symbolism behind this custom beats me half to death. However, after the garaacid the bride and groom are required to rejoice and celebrate their marriage for the following seven days (todoba-gal). Maskiinad walle.

[Som@li]

^I aslo heard abt that custom, I dont know if it is true.

 

One of the customs which is strange is called " Is tus". After the meher, usually the wedding takes place after sometime. But the man is invited at girl's home, and they stay together for some nights, this is aslo called as JC mentioned DADAB GAL,

[Pujah]

^^ does that mean hadeesan cajabin the wedding wont take place?

[Baashi]

Speaking of local Guur traditions and how diverse Somalis are in that dept, there are Guur customs that are so strange that you would think it is a pagan practice unknown to Muslim Somalis.

 

The fertile land where Shabelle river discharges its rich soil before it disappears, south west of Qoryooleey about 40Km inland...my uncle and my dad used to farm a large swath of land and we the kids used to go there in the summer...

 

There lives a community whose languages are alien and unwritten and the only language of communication to other "kooyto" (alien) is May-maay...now Jiido, a local restive farmers, and Garre, wandering nomads, dominate the area.

 

When Garre man ties the knot, he doesn't get to see the pride for about three months...that honor goes to his first cousins if he doesn't have one, his second cousins,...distant cousins. She will "serve" the boys and comes back to her man ready...and he won't have to deal the breaking the stitches open issues.

 

We, the "Faradheer or Lama-Goodle as they called us, find it totally inappropriate...Some of the folks opened a dugsi or malcamad...those who were able to read Qur'an had an accent and you mistaken their accent for Paki or something.

 

The Jiido is totally diff. They boy gets his head shaved, two pieces of white clothes, a cane treated with butter, a decorated mundul (shelter), and couple og cows, the pride gets (often too young) gets treated like...I don't remember what they do to her but from what I remember the boy comes out early in the morning...neighbors greet him (like Indians with the hands put together in a vertical position) ...she doesn't come out...and she gets beaten for no apparent reason.

 

When my old man probed the issue of having your pride impregnated by your camel boy cousins he was reminded the Garre proverb: Garre kissigiis halaal waa. Kissi means garac, w acal, b-a-s-t-a-r-d...

 

Gotta run...later