sweet_gal Posted March 31, 2005 I want to know what happens in Somali weddings....What happens and in what order.... What comes first the Barambur dance ( where only ladies attend party) Or the Ceremony? After the wedding what happen? Are there any Superstitions......? Do somali couples after getting married go on a honeymoon? Also anything else you want to tell me about weddings would be nice too. (intresting facts etc) Thanks to all of the people that respond.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Viking Posted April 1, 2005 -the couple arrives four hours late -food is served at about 2am -people are dressed extremely smart but everyone looks uneasy (including the bride & groom - they look like they are attending their own funeral) -for some strange reason, the cake never reaches the guys at the back -honeymoons are quite rare because the bride demands a massive wedding where obsene amounts are spent on the occassion What happens after the wedding you ask... well, they have about 3 and a half offsprings; the man is eventually imbibed in an internet and/or qaad addiction. The woman gains 20 kgs, hoards gold and is always involved in ayuuto/hagbad with her fellow females and they live happily ever after... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
raula Posted April 1, 2005 ^^^ah! wat a tale of fantasy indeed they live happily ever after Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Juxa Posted April 1, 2005 aaaaaaaaaaah i can tell viking attended few weddings what happens? everything that should not happen. alot of danbi, kalif and sometimes i arkaay, i maqlaay. meaning, we try to be something we are not! perfect wedding/traditional somali wedding. duco yar, family coming together, bride wearing guntiino, and going to her husband 4pm Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ramla_cadey Posted April 1, 2005 about somali weddings, well i would say non stop party that ends til 2 or 3 in the midnight. my favorite thing is traditional dances n it happens in most som. weddings. sure some somali couples after getting married go to their honeymoon. even its few of them. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nephissa Posted April 1, 2005 I think the last time I was in a wedding, I spent about $1,500. You have to buy your dress and your shoes, have your hair, nails done, go to all the other parties(buranbur, shaash saar) and get the gift. It just adds up. I hope and pray nobody invites me this Summer. I'm kind of done with the wedding thing for a while. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
N.O.R.F Posted April 1, 2005 -for some strange reason, the cake never reaches the guys at the back Viking, we have all experienced many a night going home hungry after not receiving a plate of food lol Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Khayr Posted April 1, 2005 Question DOES THE HIJAB BECOME 'OPTIONAL' at somali weddings??? :rolleyes: and Is the WHITE GOWN more beautiful then the Diraac??? :rolleyes: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Viking Posted April 2, 2005 Originally posted by Dinho: Viking, we have all experienced many a night going home hungry after not receiving a plate of food lol Dinho, I learnt a long time ago that it is vital to have a nice hot meal before attending a wedding; chances are that you will only get a can of coke and cold sambusa, if you are lucky that is! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Strawberry_Xu Posted April 2, 2005 Sweet-gal I've been meaning to ask those same questions myself. I've only ever been to one wedding, and as soon as they introduced me to the couple, they made me stand in the corner all night so I could collect cups and plates. It was a black-tie affair (apparently), and there I was helping out in the kitchen (against my will, but I couldn't very well argue with all these older women), wearing an expensive evening gown. I've never felt less glamerous. But seriously, I always wanted to know what real Somali weddings are like (since I missed everything the only time I went to one). If SG doesn't mind, I'd like to add a few questions of my own: - What happens during the ceremony? Can everyone be a witness to this? Do the parents have to be actively involved in some way? - The type of dirac one wears, is it the everyday (but slightly fancier) style or is it something you can only wear to weddings (like the somali equivalent of a white bridal dress)? - When does the couple sign the marriage contract? Is this optional or part of the marriage process? - Is it normal for men and women to celebrate the wedding in the same place, or do they have to be in seperate rooms/buildings? - Are children normally invited? - Does the couple exchange rings/vows? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sweet_gal Posted April 3, 2005 Thanks for the replies everyone..........But I'd be happier if you guys/girls answered my question more seriously without talking about all the things you didn't enjoy about somali weddings. :rolleyes: Depending on how many weddings you've been to they all could not have been bad....Because I went to 3 and only one was not as good. Tell me things like What happens on the first day when the guy and the girls father and sheik meet....They get mehr I know that, but is she there with the sheikh and other men realtives? If not why? Are there any supersitions you've seen or heard of about somali weddings....I think they have a lot in somalia but focus mainly on Modern Somali weddings....Somali weddings in the west... What happens after the mehr? A party to for only ladies to celebrate the girls marriage or the wedding ceremoney?.........If you had to estimate how much money it costs to make somali wedding how much would it be... And any intersting facts......eg food, gifts or whatever else you want. Basically in what order does everything happen? Please tell me any superstitions if you know any.......... Again thanks to everyone who relpyed but please reply this time and make somali weddings appear to be the best wedding that ever happens .......If you don't want to then state the things you don't like about it and what you do like about it.......... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nephissa Posted April 3, 2005 Just watch a Somali wedding video! How hard is to find one? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
finestsista2005 Posted October 8, 2008 Somali weddings are offly expensive because everyone from the whooooole town attends it. It is for some strange reason expected to invite everyone even if it it is 500 people which in turn totals your expenses of the roof by maybe $50,000. Prepare to be broke ya'll! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Che -Guevara Posted October 8, 2008 That thread is from 2005....LoooooooooooooL. All the weddings I have been to were nice and attended by only family and close friends. The guest list never reached 100 heads. It was enjoyable and more personal.The cost was also relative less. Why go in the debt? One gotta be realistic and not just follow the trends. So, did you get married or are you getting married. Oh Nephtys...How expensive was urs Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kool_Kat Posted October 8, 2008 Originally posted by Che -Guevara: One gotta be realistic and not just follow the trends. Realistic as in spending $1500 to go to a wedding? HAHAHAHA, dheeman maa marada ku dhagan waayaabee? Che, kaaga ila soo socodsii uun ayeeyo, ala Boqortooyo style baan kugu tuureenaa! Dahab iyo luul aan dhulka ku daadineynaa... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
