Just another hypothetical question

[- Femme -]

I was reading a book a while back about a man who cheats on his wife with her best friend. She only finds this out 6 months after his death. When she confronts her best friend...her best friend admits the affair but also reveals that she's dying of cancer. She begs her to raise her 2 year old daughter. The woman is conflicted about raising the daughter of her late husband and his mistress but at the end agrees to honor her best friend's dying wish.

 

Anyway, I guess this question would be for the women. Let's say your hypothetical husband has been secretly married to his second wife for a while. She dies. He comes to you and tells you about the situation and you decide to stay with him. Would you raise his child(ren) with that woman if he asked or insist that they be raised by her family (or anyone else for that matter)?

 

Men, if your first wife refuses to raise your children by your late second wife, would you divorce her or have them raised by someone else?

 

**No trolling please**

[Jacaylbaro]

maxaaba second wife ii gaynaya horta ....

[nuune]

^^^ La ima tuhmin miyaad leedahay.

 

 

Marka horeba waa loo sheegi oo waxaan orani second wife ayaa dhaxda ku soo jirto to make things easy for all three of us(me & the 2 wives )

[Goodir]

Such matters should remain off limit.

[Nin-Yaaban]

Originally posted by nuune:

^^^ La ima tuhmin miyaad leedahay.

 

 

Marka horeba waa loo sheegi oo waxaan orani second wife ayaa dhaxda ku soo jirto to make things easy for all three of us(me & the 2 wives

)

waan kugu raacsanahay, maxaad ba uqarineysaa, marka horeba cadeyso in aad midkale laqabtid.

[Valenteenah.]

Isis, you and your hypothetical questions!

 

Hypothetical answer: The child is innocent, therefore I wouldn't have any qualms about looking after her, even if I'm no longer married to the yellow-bellied ba$tard who fathered her, which is more than likely.

 

 

Now, what's brought on this little scenario? Have you been watching Arabian soaps, again?

[Geel_jire]

Originally posted by Isis Naomi:

I was reading a book a while back about a man who cheats on his wife with her best friend. She only finds this out 6 months after his death. When she confronts her best friend...her best friend admits the affair but also reveals that she's dying of cancer. She begs her to raise her 2 year old daughter. The woman is conflicted about raising the daughter of her late husband and his

mistress

but at the end agrees to honor her best friend's dying wish.

 

Anyway, I guess this question would be for the women. Let's say your hypothetical husband has been secretly married to his

second wife

for a while. She dies. He comes to you and tells you about the situation and you decide to stay with him. Would you raise his child(ren) with that woman if he asked or insist that they be raised by her family (or anyone else for that matter)?

 

Men, if your first wife refuses to raise your children by your late second wife, would you divorce her or have them raised by someone else?

 

**No trolling please**

for the sake of clarity in your first paragraph "Mistress" qualifies as cheating .. no argument there

 

but in your second paragraph second wife secret or not does NOT equal cheating ... and should not be mixed up with the former.

 

so If i were to answer the second question: since al-xaaji faarax did nothing wrong she should have no problem raising his child from another woman

[Ashkiro]

^LOL in pointing out the obvious, I don't think there was a mix up just a transition into asking the question. None of you gentlemen addressed the question the poster directed towards the men. So Mr. Geel_jire take a crack at it. Isis that's really a difficult question, but I would have to agree with Valenteenah, the children are innocent afterall.

[Faheema.]

Originally posted by Geel_jire:

quote:

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Originally posted by Isis Naomi:

I was reading a book a while back about a man who cheats on his wife with her best friend. She only finds this out 6 months after his death. When she confronts her best friend...her best friend admits the affair but also reveals that she's dying of cancer. She begs her to raise her 2 year old daughter. The woman is conflicted about raising the daughter of her late husband and his

mistress

but at the end agrees to honor her best friend's dying wish.

 

Anyway, I guess this question would be for the women. Let's say your hypothetical husband has been

secretly married

to his second wife for a while. She dies. He comes to you and tells you about the situation and you decide to stay with him. Would you raise his child(ren) with that woman if he asked or insist that they be raised by her family (or anyone else for that matter)?

 

Men, if your first wife refuses to raise your children by your late second wife, would you divorce her or have them raised by someone else?

 

**No trolling please**

for the sake of clarity in your first paragraph "Mistress" qualifies as cheating .. no argument there

 

but in your second paragraph second wife secret or not does

NOT

equal cheating ... and should not be mixed up with the former.

 

so If i were to answer the second question: since al-xaaji faarax

did nothing wrong

she should have no problem raising his child from another woman

Geeljire, with all do respect the so called al-xaaji faarax did everything wrong, as far as his 1st wife is concerned he cheated on her..just because he did wadu before he did the deed doesn't make it right

 

As for the question at hand...I really don't know what I would do, but most likely let the woman's extended family take care of the kids and kick him to the kerb.

[cynical lady]

Stuff and nonsense

[NGONGE]

^^

 

Originally posted by Isis Naomi:

**No trolling please**

I don't mean to troll but I really don't understand the question.

 

It's not something I would do at any rate. The mother should always be the openly known wife. The bit on the side should always remain the no-children-under-any-circumstances bit on the side. This is the internationally accepted rule of cheaters-R-US.

[Faheema.]

^LoL@Cheaters-R-US...wax waalan.

[Blessed]

LoL NG, did you get to see Abla Noorah in Ramadan?

Same scenario, only he lives.

 

Isis,

They can go to their moms family.

[Gheelle.T]

That book you read sounds more like a fiction novel/story..I doubt if your hypothetical question can be answered..

 

NG, like the way you coined that "Cheater-R-Us" mm

[xiinfaniin]

Gabdhahana wax dhalow iyo nin naag kale guursanayya baa lagu ibtileeyey

 

Ilmaha rajada ah wax ka kori, inta ilaahay ka baqdid