nervous-chic Posted April 3, 2004 The Death of the Black Woman While struggling with the reality of being a human instead of a myth, the strong black woman passed away. Medical sources say she died of natural causes, but those who knew her know she died from being silent when she should have been screaming, smiling when she should have been raging, from being sick and not wanting anyone to know because her pain might inconvenience them. She died from an overdose of other people clinging to her when she didn`t even have energy for herself. She died from loving men who didn`t love themselves and could only offer her a crippled reflection. She died from raising children alone. She died from the lies her grandmother told her mother and her mother told her about life, men & racism. She died from being sexually abused as a child and having to take that truth everywhere she went every day of her life, exchanging the humiliation for guilt and back again. She died from asphyxiation, coughing up blood from secrets she kept trying to burn away instead of allowing herself the kind of nervous breakdown she was entitled to, but only white girls could afford. She died from being responsible, because she was the last rung on the ladder and there was no one under her she could dump on. The strong black woman is dead. She died from being a mother at 15 and a grandmother at 30 and an ancestor at 45. She died from being dragged down and sat upon by un-evolved women posing as sisters and friends. She died from tolerating Mr. Pitiful, just to have a man around the house. She died from sacrificing herself for everybody and everything when what she really wanted to do was be a singer, a dancer, or some magnificent other. She died from lies of omission because she didn`t want to bring the black man down. She died from tributes from her counterparts who should have been matching her efforts instead of showering her with dead words and empty songs. She died from myths that would not allow her to show weakness without being chastised by the lazy and hazy. She died from hiding her real feelings until they became hard and bitter enough to invade her womb and breasts like angry tumors. She died from always lifting something from heavy boxes to refrigerators all by herself. The strong black woman is dead. She died from never being enough of what men wanted, or being too much for the men she wanted. She died from being too black and died again for not being black enough. She died from being misinformed about her mind, her body & the extent of her royal capabilities. She died from knees pressed too close together because respect was never part of the foreplay that was being shoved at her. She died from loneliness in birthing rooms and aloneness in abortion centers. She died in bathrooms with her veins busting open with self-hatred and neglect. And sometimes when she refused to die, when she just refused to give in she was killed by the lethal images of blonde hair, blue eyes and flat butts, being rejected by the OJ.`s, the Quincy`s, the Cuba`s & the Kobe`s. Sometimes, she was stomped to death by racism & sexism, executed by hi-tech ignorance while she carried the family in her belly, the community on her head, and the race on her back! The strong black woman is dead! Or is she? I know I`m not! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Qac Qaac Posted April 3, 2004 She died from being a mother at 15 and a grandmother at 30 and an ancestor at 45. What's wrong with this. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WingA Posted April 3, 2004 wow, dat was touching!! thanx.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Miriam1 Posted April 3, 2004 Man, that was really, great. Hhm, Qac Qaac, its is not the fact that she is a mother at 15, that matters but the simple idea that she is in a illict relationship and having to rear a child alone at that tender age..with pratically no help..that is the problem..if she was mature at that age..and had a husband..a family..simply a support system..i am sure there would be nothing wrong with it..but this ideal situtation rarely exists. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuCkY Posted April 4, 2004 Wow,that is some deep stuff-very touching indeed...Thnx GaL. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Warrior of Light Posted April 4, 2004 Very disturbing. Thanks for the warning. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Warrior of Light Posted April 7, 2004 Nervous chic this is another face of the BLACK WOMAN. I beleive we somalis are know facing some of these problems or about to. Guess this is something to reflect on. -------------------------------------------------- Dear Jamie: > > > >I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers. I >am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking, educated and >loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black female's attitudes about our >relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black >women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too >mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much >excess baggage. Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was >constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me >the world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, >why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the >dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in ! public. I would like >to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by >them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us. Charles >Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy >Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba >Gooding Jr., Don ! Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, >Wesley Snipes...I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and >that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women >because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from >us and we may learn you how to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black >men, let me know. Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA. > > > >Response: > > > >Dear Jamie: > >I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl. Let >me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one >of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor of >Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation >and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the >ranks of successful black men. I will not use my precious time to slander >white people. I just want to set the record straight of why black men date >white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated >white women was because they were considered easy. The black girls in my >neighbourhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when >they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience >to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without >too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls. Nowadays, in my >opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy >to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall >weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black women. We >are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money >than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many >black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have >talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is >to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record >straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful >black men date white women. Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel washington, >Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth >"Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong >black women. And, to flip the scrip, there are numerous white men, in and >out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white >women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few. I just >don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed. Stop thinking that >because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when >black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties >and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw >meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history! It >was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was >the black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was black >women who were breastfeeding and raising your babies during slavery. It is >the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and >children beat! en, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born with >two strikes against them: being black and being a woman. And, through all >this, Still They Rise! It is because of the black women's strength, >elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my >black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to >them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colours and >shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing >about black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their >integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to >stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach >their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I >have fallen in love with black women. I honestly believe that your anger is >geared more toward jealousy, envy than snotty looks. If this were not so, >then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If >you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your >pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with >u! natural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more >voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to >have what the black woman has. BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile >woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, >unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good >wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and >understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a >sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill. No offence >taken, none given. Signed, Black Royalty Wow!! we must pass this on to make >the day to the Black Queens of our acquaintances! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nervous-chic Posted April 8, 2004 Sade I had read that before. Thanks for sharing it with us though... Whoever that man is who wrote the letter, i am official in love wit him..nah, just playin..but yeah, these issues are starting to show up in da Somali population..Somali brothers have, in the past, been gettin wit white wome; but today it is more often and more apparent. Sumthin to think bout Ciao Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
