Lack of Marriage !!!!!

[Adna]

Salaams

 

Faithfully speaking i would agree with Sister-somali 100% because it's all about what she said,,

Life is far too short to wait for a tomorrow that may never arrive.

,, marka if we all beleive that every thing would be just fine,,,Guur is not only heblaayo and hebal got married in hotel but if we based our marriage in way of religion and traditional,, we should succeed but if you spend big money and party alot i wouldn't be suprised if you got divorced in a month,,,, marka let us stick to our religion and culture,,,,, peace and love until we meet again,,,

[shyhem]

Originally posted by LATEAFHA:

Oh Shyhem, tell me about it is that what they do in the states? lOoool, excuse me i'm in new zealand!

 

peace

Lateafha

Do mean u guys have no sherrif knocking u'r door coz ex wife has sent a complain that ain't no check is coming in her mail.In that case I think new zealand is a place i should relocate to but what do u call anew zealand citizen NEW ZEALANDISH.

 

For those of u who don't know u shouldn't rush into marriage,atleast here in america.I swear incase u end up in divorce which ofcourse is common in my city nowadays,u will have two options.

 

Quit u'r job and start hustling on the streets so u'r income is not defined by the state

or move out of this place,i mean run like mad man all the way to africa and don't even think about looking back.

 

U see the problem is that Unless u make good money,the sort u'r lawyer makes u won't be able to avoid the cost of maintaing u'r ex wife and her kids and u'rself or ur'new wife.U need to pay bills for both u'r first wife, and u'r second wife.Lets just say u'r married to two women, but unlike in somalia u are only sleeping with one.

 

Now tell me why i shouldn't think marraige is scary atleast here in my state?I have to study the woman,and her family especially the females in oreder to come up with some sort of profile that will get me an idea of how things might turn out incase.

[Batuulo]

a/c wr wb

To the sis Who Start this topic , First I'll thnk you for this Question,

 

A successful marriage doesn't just happen. It's not simply a matter of luck or finding the right person. It takes hard work and determination. It means being selfless and making mistakes. It means having vengeance on your mind but forgiveness in your heart. But, then, its perfection is "half of faith".

I wanna share wit you at this helpfull Article

 

** By Sr. Muntaqima Abdur-Rashid:**

 

I have listed some rules that may benefit those seeking an Islamic

marriage, as well as, those who are already married. I do not pretend

to be an expert of any kind.

The rules are:

 

1. Be conscious of your physical appearance. No one was more conscious

of this than the Prophet. His Sulmah reflects keen attention to

personal hygiene and good grooming.

 

2. Be aware of your role, but do not fall into role- playing. Muslim

spouses sometimes experience difficulties because they are trying to

do things 'by the book' without giving due consideration to the

conditions prevailing in their country.

 

3. Be a companion to your mate. Try to show enthusiasm for your spouse

's interests and hobbies. It is well-known that the Prophet would run

races with 'Ayesha. By all means try to involve your mate in your

interests.

 

4. Be active in Islamic community life. This will strengthen your

commitment to Islam while providing you wish a wholesome social outlet.

 

5. Admit your mistakes and have a forgiving, generous attitude when

your mate errs.

-Be

understanding when your mate does not live up to the Islamic ideal and

gently try to motivate him or her in the right direction.

 

6. Have a sense of humour. Be able to chuckle at life's minor

aggravations.

 

7. Be modest when around members of the opposite sex. Do not try to

test your spouse's affection by feigning interest in another. This

will only cause dissension and bad feelings.

 

8. Share household duties. Brothers, take note. This is especially

important these days when women work outside the home.

 

9. Surprise each other with gifts. Treat her to an evening out alone,

away from the children. There are no words to describe the lift this

can give to a marriage.

 

10. Communicate your feelings to one another, good and bad. Tell him

how handsome he looks. Where there is disagreement, have an open

discussion. Don ' t collect red stamps. Nip it in the bud .

 

11. Live within your means. Stay away from credit cards if you can. :rolleyes:

 

12. Respect your mate's need for privacy. A quiet time to oneself,

either at home or away from home, each day can make a disagreeable person agreeable.

 

13. Don 't share personal problems with others. There are a few

exceptions to this rule, but if you must discuss personal problems,

make sure it is with a person in whom you have the utmost confidence.

 

14. Be sensitive to your mate's moods. If you want to share a personal

achievement, don't do it when your spouse is 'down in the dumps ' .Wait for the proper time.

 

You may be saying to yourself, "This is

easier said than done." Well, you're right. :cool:

[A7LA-SHU]

oh my gosh..... shyhem dude u funny as hell wallahi. but everything u said was true..

 

let me now go back to the poster. girl if the guys is smart enough to say he ain't ready for marriage that is sweet of him.. coz think about it. what happens if he said sure honey lets get married but deep down he knows he ain't ready and after a month or so he tells her girl i gotta bounce coz i was never ready for family and all that shit that comes with it.. so if i was u i wouldn't be made abut nigga being honest and sayin what he really feels.. i really like them for dat. atleast he is being man enough to tell u the truth.. so ladies in MN should be happy the nigga won't be telling her bye bye i gotta go lady when she has two or more kids to take care of.. that is just what i think....