Adna Posted May 26, 2003 Salaams to all of you. I just wonder why somali men in M N have lack of marriage. what i mean is i have noticed that most of them just want to date the sista and just waste her time and when it comes to Guur he would say ooh i'm not ready now.I just wana know what is cousing the problem i'm jus curous about it, so if any body know whay is that just express your i deas.. peace and much love untill we meat again Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shyhem Posted May 26, 2003 We scared of the child support deducations on our payrolls since we know our divorce won't be far from the wedding date. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kool_Kat Posted May 27, 2003 LOOOOOOOOOOOOOL@SHYHEM!!! You ain't gotta say no more!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mujahida Posted May 27, 2003 Oh Shyhem, tell me about it is that what they do in the states? lOoool, excuse me i'm in new zealand! peace Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NoVa Posted May 27, 2003 looooool@shyehm' oh god' gracious...child support deduction haha..waraa iga tag, ur' ass be afraid that once ya marry her after a year later...the divorce paper will be on the table lool...it's all good..at least that happends now day's as if it's a regular thang...it's 'in' ya know...strange as it may sound' but i do agree with ya on that one. Marriage has no quality whatsoever now days...it's becoming a whole lot'drama. *Ta Ta Tiya Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MD Posted May 27, 2003 loooooool@shyhem Deeqa i guess shyhem answered your question, but personally i think the main problem in why they (men) are scared to commit is the "responsibilities"...Once your married that's it, no more playing around time to act like a real man.. *still laughing* Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
maajo Posted May 27, 2003 LOOOOOOOOOOL SHYHEM DMM..ALLAHSAHLO:)..sorry i cant answer..i am in ARLI-ALE Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Blessed Posted May 27, 2003 loooooooool Brothers in London getting like that too.. something to do with more choice .. why bother marrying when you can do every thing with a girlfriend you don't have to answer to.. why settle for one women when you can have on e in every district? Man, if i was a man I'd be a dawg (is that the right term?). See in Somlia or Muslim countries hadii gabadh lagugu arko .. wey kuu dhamaatey .. u got her whole tribe in ya face .. now it aint like that. But they get tired of all that 'shid' in the end...maybe u just coming across them at wrong season Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rudy-Diiriye Posted May 27, 2003 well! deega! i tell ya, its true guys do get sacred about it! but i believe that it all depends on the couple! Well after a nice long holiday! travelling the east coast, i believe i am down for the COUNT!!LOL. i just meet HER, the most wonderful sista! I am looking fwd to spending every sec w/her!! its magic! what can i say. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Adna Posted May 27, 2003 Salaams to all shyhem i think that could be true when you are not a good father and good husband.when you really think that you can't handle the responsibilities that makes you a week man. marka i personally beleive what you have said we know our divorce won't be far from the wedding date do you know when this happens and why?. It happens when you make your wedding on hotel and have some freaks sing for you and you know why any thing that you do haduusan alle raali ka'eheen it will destroy at the end by it self. all what i'm saying is why men can't be strong enough and carry their responsibilities, and why can't we have a traditional wedding so we wouldn't have this problem ,,,,, peace and love untill we meat again. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JASMIINE Posted May 29, 2003 Clown, from reading ur posts, i swear i though u was from mn. something told me u we're from mn, something i cannot quit put my finger on. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JASMIINE Posted May 30, 2003 my mistake clown....never mind. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
king_450 Posted May 31, 2003 wonderfull Question, sis here is my take on this issue, it is always nice for Women to commit first, and here is my reason of saying that, If men commit before women , then it will very hard that marriage will become possible 90%of the time, but if women commit first , i can assure you the possibilities gets higher 50% chance of getting hitched, yes 50% so the point is women you should commit first before we do, ask me i have the backup to support it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Paragon Posted June 1, 2003 Could it be because brothers, including me, are busy gaining knowledge suitable to start a family, that has strong Islamic and cultural foundation? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sister_Somali Posted June 1, 2003 Marriage is completing half of the deen so we should rush to it rather than delay it. Life is far too short to wait for a tomorrow that may never arrive. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites