Women Feel 'Contempt' For Shy Men

[STOIC]

It is the imitation of others that brings the weaker self image. This is especially true in the western world where kids in high school have to cope up with the peer pressure and exceedingly try to be cooler! There are many brands of shyness that I think we daily witness and it depends on the persons perception of self.I think being shy person is not a bad thing just don’t let it be a pollutant to your psych.Our outer world can be played in a different way, but it is the inner believe that matters.If you are strong and positive inside I think weak self-image will not a be a matter to you!Just be conscious enough in your surroundings.It is the confidence inside that will be very deep.

[Ms DD]

DON’T LET THEM SMELL YOUR FEAR

Confidence is a very attractive attribute. In fact, most women say that they are drawn to men that project confidence and self-assurance. If you are a shy guy, you are going to have to learn how to project a confident image to the ladies. For one, eye contact is a must. When you meet a woman, you should look her dead in the eyes and smile. If you are looking down at your shoes or around the room, you will come across as being very uneasy and uncomfortable. Secondly, you should project your voice and speak in an audible and clear manner. If you approach a woman and you speak so softly that she has to have you repeat yourself three times, she is not going to be impressed. You will seem meek and timid. Also, don’t cross your arms when you are talking to a woman because this mannerism will make it seem like you are trying to keep yourself closed off from others. Regardless of the inner turmoil that you may be feeling and the butterflies and knots that are dancing around in your stomach, your outward behaviors have to be calculated to project confidence. Practice your introductions in the mirror, and make a conscious effort to keep your head up and your shoulders back. Body language speaks volumes. It may take a while to get the hang of the confident new you, but with practice, anyone can master the art of confident body language.

 

 

ASK QUESTIONS

 

 

Sometimes shy men have the tendency to nervously ramble on about themselves, neglecting to take any interest in their dates. It isn’t that shy guys are rude and insensitive; it’s just that they aren’t sure how to handle themselves under pressure. Unfortunately, if you ramble on about yourself, your date is going to think that you are a self-centered egomaniac. Follow the Boy Scout’s motto: always be prepared. If you have an array of possible questions prepared for your date, then you will be able to turn to one of those questions if you are nervously fumbling for conversation. Ask your date about her first job. Ask her about her family. Ask her about her pets, if she has any. Ask her if she has done much traveling, or if she wants to travel. Ask her about her hobbies and special interests. She will be flattered and impressed that you are taking such an active interest in her. Plus, these questions often lead to long conversations and trips down memory lane. The more prepared you are, the less nervous and shy you will appear to your date.

 

 

CHANGE YOUR INNER DIALOGUE

 

If you are constantly thinking negative thoughts, then you are going to be projecting that negativity onto your dates. The power of positive thinking is incredible. If you are your own worst enemy, then it is no wonder that you are so shy. You aren’t happy with yourself, so you can’t imagine why anyone else would be happy with you. The truth is that you need to revamp your attitude towards yourself in order to overcome your hurdle of shyness. Every time you have a self-defeating thought, question it. For example, if you find yourself saying, “I am a never going to be able to approach that woman because she is going to think I am an ugly loser,” you should reject that thought and deliberately think in the opposite way. Say to yourself: “I am going to approach that woman because I know that I am worth talking to.” If you consistently monitor your negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones, then over time, you will notice that your attitudes start to shift to more positive ones overall.

 

 

LOOK YOUR BEST

 

The better you look, the better you will feel. A shy man who feels that he is looking good will be far more outgoing than a shy man who thinks he looks like crap. You need to set yourself up for success by dressing to impress. Shy men have a tendency to wear clothes that hide them, such as baseball hats, baggy sweatshirts and loose-fitting apparel. It’s time to come out of hiding! If you are going out on a date, and you are going to be at a somewhat nice restaurant, you should wear a nicely fitted pair of black pants or khakis, a button-down collared shirt, and a tie. Also, make sure that you are clean-shaven (unless you have purposeful facial hair, not just a five o’clock shadow), and make sure that your shoes are shined. If you look the part, you will be much more apt to act the part.

 

DAting tips for shy men

[Ibtisam]

DAting tips for shy men looool HAHAh

[Ms DD]

Men in polyester shirts open to mid-chest days are over. Now they dance on sideline.

 

I love shy men personally. There is something endearing about them like you wanna mother them and then smother them

 

 

Pucca and her Ks (khamees, Korean and any other K u can think of

[Pucca]

^oh someone who agrees with me! shy men are quite hot eh

 

the Ks are special...

[Aaliyyah]

Shyness is part of faith. Nothing wrong with it.

 

I agree as well Pucca

[Kool_Kat]

Originally posted by J.a.c.a.y.l.b.a.r.o:

A&T, you don't take my advice coz you think i'm a rival to you. You don't take Ibtisam's coz you don't agree with her. You don't take Cara's coz she has an agenda ,,,,,,,,,,, and yet you contine whinning ,,,

 

Yaad wax ka maqashaa markaa bal aanu doonee ,, ??

Maad iska aamusto intaan xaaskaaga (if there is truly one) wax laga sheegin?

 

As for the topic, shy men are just too 'blah'! Cusbadaa kamaqan...

[Malika]

Lol@Ibti,hayee!!

 

A&T,your of a different league,intaasi lee guufilaan,no need to fight your corner..And in time folks will appreciate your uniquness,but definetly you and Jac are not the same..

[NGONGE]

I am with you there A&T. Even though I expect you to turn on me any minute.

 

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If you want to put your kids photos and show them off here, don't worry about Malika and Ibti. They're just being difficult and uptight. Nothing wrong with putting a photo there.

 

ps

A&T is a shy man. I have evidance.

[Malika]

^I know,he shouldnt listen to me,I feel so bad , A&T is sweet wallahi,he just does what one asks of him...

[rudy-Diiriye]

thats lie...women just basically have comtempt for everything...its natural thing for them.

[Saqajaan]

women are like children, they never know what they want. Don't waste time thinking about who they have contempt for or not.

[winnie]

uhhh, is this article promoting homosexuality???

 

dont bother with women, kulaha,pffft!

[Jacaylbaro]

loooooooooooool@homosexuality ,,,, ,, Inaalillaahi

 

 

Waar A&T ha la iska daayo ,, u see he ran away that he is not willing to come back any time soon.

 

 

Ngonge, show us the evidence bal ,,,

[NGONGE]

^^ Arr naga daa dee. PM ego waydii badow yaho. Halkan micalimadaa nago qabsanaysa. Did you not see what she did to him when HE put his own kids photos? Imagine if I revealed anyting about him?