60 Ways To Keep Your Wife's Love, and the romance alive

[Hunguri]

Ofcourse, the divorce is in the hand of the husband. That is the Islamic point of view not a comic or comedy. So, he should not threaten her to divorce. That is what the Sheekh meant.

[Jacaylbaro]

and she don't have to say don't divorce me i'll be good ,,,,,,,,, she can ask for a divorce as well

[Hunguri]

Yeah, she can ask for a divorce from the Judge on a genuine valid reasons. The Judge can also do her divorce on behalf of the husband, if he fails to execute his duties beign a husband. That is the little thing I know.

[Ms DD]

^^ Well well well..How do you know?

 

Yes, He shouldnt threaten with divorce everytime. Women threaten to get divorce from their husband everythime they get angry which is the wisdom behind this.

 

Edit: Oh..what is so comical about this Xanthus and Lily? There is no pleasing you guys, you object to women pleasing her husbands Good wives guide and then you object to men pleasing their wives..

 

So what is the deal?

[Hunguri]

DhDh, is this more than 60? do u have some more . I found its already working for me. Do post more with the source and the URL!

[Jacaylbaro]

"There is no pleasing you guys, you object to women pleasing her husbands Good wives guide and then you object to men pleasing their wives..

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LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL ,,,,,,,,,, Good point ,,,, bal dhinac uun isku raaca dheh

[Ibtisam]

Ms D&D

 

Sis After finally reading your full list, I am so disappointed it is unexplainable, I thought it was 60 Secrete ways to keep your wife happy, not 60ways to be normal human being with good manners, there must be something more specific, than give salam to your wife! WHAt i thought, no shi*t

 

None of these things are specific to a wife (other not jumping on her, which is again common sense and basic respectable manners.) but rather normal behaviour towards people you " like

 

The conclusion should have read, Be polite, have good manners and don't threaten her with divorce because she might just take it and leave your impolite sorry *a*s*s in the cold!

 

I bet a man wrote that :rolleyes: And this is nothing in comparison what the list for the women!, he is told "act like a human being" while she is told to jump through hoops and kiss the ground! :rolleyes:

 

Sorry I do not think none of the above listed in rocket science, nor do I think anyone should feel special for being treated as such, because it should be the basis of any relationship.

 

What writings like this does is make the normality seem special and sometimes something to aspire to, which leads some people into think that it is unattainable or only special people get this treatment, which is utter nonsense.

 

Other rules just take the biscuit treat her “like a fragile vessel”… come again! :eek: , now why did I think she was a human being who may have different characteristic and strength, and they are certainly not fragile vessel, otherwise they will never be able to endure certain things that they endure in life! :mad:

 

Final the whole thing seems to imply mislead her, and play her like a piano by showing her one side, artist with your compliments by singing songs she wants you to sing, all while pretending to like singing the song, which of course is nonsense because you will only be able to pretend for a while.

 

:cool:

 

Rant over

[Pujah]

^ right on Xanthus, tell it like it is.

[Che -Guevara]

Originally posted by Ms Dhucdhuc & Dheylo:

Can I add number 61

 

 

61. Use your imagination

You are not being helpful Ayeeyo.

 

 

LoooooooooL@Roobleh.

[Jacaylbaro]

I always hear YOU CAN NEVER SATISFY A WOMAN ,,,, i think i'm gonna believe that soon ,,,

[Ms DD]

Jacel

Only men who come up short tend to believe that sort of crap.

 

Xan

 

You are clearly sexist and no open to equal opportunities. You expect men to be naturally be kind and good whilst the women shouldnt go that extra mile for their husbands.

 

You'd be suprised how many men dont greet their wives with sweet kind beautiful words. What is wrong with in lagu koolkooliyo and treat you like a daimond. In all honesty, I think I agree with a post Justice made a while back. "Become his maid and he will become your slave". Demand to be treated like the queen you are and let him demand to be treated like the king he is. Win win situation for all.

 

Nowhere in the list mentions that men have to pretend. The list says (to me at least) 'dont take each other for granted, do things that please each other, try to listen to each other and compromise etc'

 

I will bet you that you will have issues with the follwoing list

 

1. Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good.When was the last time us men went shopping for designer pajamas? Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.

2. Use the cutest names for your wife. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - had nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings.

 

3. Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day - which brings no attention from the husband - until she does something to 'bug' him. Don't treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that.

 

4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives - radi Allahu 'anhunn. It's a technique that few Muslim men have mastered.

 

5. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those Ahadith when Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would kiss his wife before leaving for Salah, even if he was fasting.

 

6. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don't let that be; thank her!

 

7. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.

 

8. Don't be little her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah - radi Allahu 'anha - was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel.

 

9. Be humorous and Play games with your wife. Look at how Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would race his wife Aisha - radi Allahu 'anha - in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that?

 

10. Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam: "The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family." Try to be the best!

 

In conclusion: Never forget to make Dua to Allah - azza wa jall - to make your marriage successful. And Allah ta'ala knows best !!

[roobleh]

Jaceylbaro, That is why the couple are in a struggle that could be improved when men learn the act of disarming them with charm esp. when she is angry. However, relationship to be healthy one, she has to realise that you're not Mr. Nice guy 24/7. I mean, do not suppress your anger when you're really mad. Explode but do not snap apart!

[Jacaylbaro]

Good point roobleh ,,,,,,,,,,,, that applies to the both ,,,,,

[Ibtisam]

Ms D & D I'm Just leave you and co in your own little world, anigu waan amusya when it comes to men and women and relationship, waan iidin kaa daal big time, seriously.

 

I hope you and all others remain in the bliss

 

Jacy and rooble haablaah meel haa kaa tuurinina, good pointna maa arago

 

cheers

[Jacaylbaro]

it is not in hablaha meel laga tuurayo ,,,,,,, come on Xanthus

 

 

Let's agree to disagree here ,,,,,,,,, i want the best for them ,,,