Somali women and Sex

[Ibtisam]

rudy Must you, Iish :rolleyes:

 

Browny

 

Hun go and see a gynecologist or a sex therapist, If you live in London I can recommend few.

 

cheers

[cynical lady]

how do u knw this people@ ibti is there something we should knw? lol

[Ibtisam]

I know some people who work in this field. :rolleyes: What did you think?? oh ... oh no you did'nt; lol

[Ms DD]

erm...erm Should we discuss this here? Not appropriate I'd say.

 

But I would first suggest that you speak to your husband about this. Ask yourselves what you are comfortable with and then do it that. The brain is your most powerful sex organ. Brain needs exercise to function at its best. Avoid all stress and anxiety. If your mind isn’t in the right place, then you won’t enjoy it. Get in the mood by putting on nice sexy outfits, light scented candles or uunsi, dim the lights and just cuddle. The most improtant thing is to communicate with each other. You will find your man to be more willing to explore and spice up things.

Increase the compliments and appreciations for your partner and communicate each other in a genuine and loving way. It can be something simple as bringing your partner cup of tea/cold drink or writing them a 'missing you' or 'thinking about you' note and leaving in their appointment diary. Don't take each for granted. Thank them and be specific saying: "Thanks - I really appreciated your help in making me the dinner or getting me the perfume etc."

 

Hold hands & hugs slowly as loving touch is a basic human need. We need gentle loving touch and hugs that don't always lead to the bedroom. It is just a way to bring the 2 of you closer.

 

Be creative and invite your partner out on a date. Think of someplace they would like to go. Write them a note or call them on the phone and ask them if they would like to go out on a date and are available. Keep it fun and easy going. Simply appreciate the opportunity to talk, listen, hold hands and enjoy being with each other. As you become more comfortable with your partner, pay attention to your body's signals of desire.

Remember that if you can't talk about sex in your relationship, it probably is a sign you are not ready to do it - and that applies to a lot more topics than just sex. Some couples have unrealistic expectations about how often sex should occur and think everyone is having more of it that they are. It doesn't matter if its twice a week or twice a month, what matters more is that both partners are comfortable and content with the communication, quality, timing, frequency, emotion, connection, trust, emotional sensitivity and affection they are able so share with one another. Enjoy and be content with what works for the two of you and build on your successes from there.

 

Remember the most powerful sex organ is the brain, and the largest is the human skin. Get reconnected there first, and a healthy sex life will follow.

 

 

Oh..and FGM really doesnt stop you having a great relationship with your husband. Your brain and inhibition do.

 

 

I hope i wasnt too explicit.

[Aaliyyah]

Cambarro sis you are expert at this , if this doesn't help her out ,,,i dont know what will...u are the closest help she can get from SOL... masha-allah sis u have said it all there is to say ...

 

Wa salaam

[man_in_malaysia]

hadii intaas ay sameen lahayeeen, naag la furaa lama arkin leheen..

[Ibtisam]

hadii intaas ay sameen lahayeeen, naag la furaa lama arkin leheen..

^^^lool that made me laugh

 

I agree with Aaliya on that one

[man_in_malaysia]

that is true right? most social isue articles waxey leeyihiin MAN IS DOMESTIC ANIMAL...hadi Manger your department ku dhaho CUSTOMERKA waa in add SAAS iyo SAAS aad u sameesa YOU SIMPLY DO FOLLOW INSTRUCTS and DO IT, BUT IS VERY HARD FOR SOMALI WOMAN TO FOLLOW THOSE ADVICES CAMABRO STATED IN HER ARTICLE...YAAAB...DHULKA ISKA QAADA, WAX NOOL ISKA DHIGA..LOL

[Ms DD]

You know what man-in-malaysia..prudish men dont help the situation too. I know a lady who was so comfortable calling her hubby xabiibi, honey at every oppurtunity and she was touchy-feely person sideedaba, and he found this so uncomfortable at the begining as he wasnt very efectionate or touchy-feely person. She changed him after few years. Men arent always creative or adventurous. It takes two of them to come to compromise and make each other happy.

 

To blame the women for the divorce rate is just concealing the part men take for the break-ups and it is mainly not taking responsibility.

 

Why would a man divorce his wife cos she is prude or inexperienced? This is a new experience and learning process for most young muslim couples. They continue to learn as the years go by.

 

Sis Aaliya..long time no see. How have you been girl? Hope studying is going well for you inshallah.

[Captain Xalane]

Originally posted by man_in_malaysia:

that is true right? most social isue articles waxey leeyihiin MAN IS DOMESTIC ANIMAL...hadi Manger your department ku dhaho CUSTOMERKA waa in add SAAS iyo SAAS aad u sameesa YOU SIMPLY DO FOLLOW INSTRUCTS and DO IT, BUT IS VERY HARD FOR SOMALI WOMAN TO FOLLOW THOSE ADVICES CAMABRO STATED IN HER ARTICLE...YAAAB...DHULKA ISKA QAADA, WAX NOOL ISKA DHIGA..LOL

In otherwords,u are saying that u would follow the manual book word by word innit?Its either that or the ''bac madow'' will be be thrown out for ya yea.

[mantra]

Here's a little something I stumbled across, food for thought...

 

To get a grasp on the difference between the two practices, imagine if (instead of the foreskin being carefully removed) the entire head of the man’s penis were simply lobbed off! Or, as with the most extreme versions of FGM, imagine if -- after lobbing off the head of the penis, the remaining shaft was shoved between his balls and his scrotum stitched up over it so that it was completely unreachable. Then, years later, imagine a woman whipping out a dull knife, slicing open the now fused flesh of his scrotum, pulling free his bloody rod and then hopping aboard the remains of his dick for a short, self-gratifying ride while he tried to choke down his screams.

[NGONGE]

Not wishing to derail your topic in anyway but what this thread reminded me of was the sad case of neutered cats!

 

Apart from humans, monkeys and rabbits, cats seem to be the friskiest creatures on earth. Countless times have they kept me awake at night with their constant (and very annoying) mating calls! They just never seem to be having enough of it. I’m not spouting empty talk here. I have, over a number of years, observed the behaviour of cats. When a female cat is on heat, limitless numbers of tomcats suddenly appear out of nowhere and all wait their turn like one of those old Soviet bread lines.

 

What puzzles me here, is how do cats learn about sex (how do animals in general?) and what books, films and other materials do they have access to in order to know how to satisfy the neighbourhood’s she-cat? The mind boggles (and right now, I’m starting to wonder if our local orange spotted she-cat is not in fact some famous porn actress in the feline world. She does saunter around in a sluttish way after all). Though I’m an expert in the feline sexual practices (from simple observation rather than participation) I have not yet had the pleasure (or misfortune) to observe two cats experimenting with different positions (they lack imagination I suppose). Having said that, I did, on several occasions study their foreplay techniques. Nothing to write home about there I’m afraid. All cats are sadistic and use foreplay as an opportunity to bite, scratch and hiss at each other in a very angry way. I do not recommend it at all. Well, not unless that’s your cup of tea.

 

On another point, eunuchs, those castrated males, do they at all have any sexual thoughts I wonder? I suppose they must at least have them in their dreams (where, probably, everything is in good working order). Still, surely they’re in a worse fix than neutered cats!

 

What about house flies? How do they do it? I mean they’re very dirty creatures. How does the female fly allow a dirty - just been rolling in some excrement- male, come anywhere near her? Has she no standards? Then again, to be fair to those males, I have often spotted them on some window or tabletop, busy cleaning their faces and bodies. Was it their lucky night, I wonder! Still, houseflies must have some amazing sexual positions. Battle of Britain like in their intricacies and difficulty! Bombs, Away.

 

Bees on the other hand, have perfected the foreplay sport; they come to the game already dripping with honey and wax, would you say that qualifies as a candle lit dinner?

 

Ok, I shall stop the ridicule now. I can clearly see that this is nothing but a windup thread but, for the benefit of our readers, I shall try to tackle it head on.

 

Of course, I am not a female, let alone a circumcised one. And my experience with and knowledge of circumcised females is, truly, not as good as the one I have with neutered cats. Still, if I wring my brain and chew this topic for a bit, I’m sure I can come up with a satisfactory reply.

 

Aha! Here is a popular one that I managed to unearth from the recesses of my mind. Why do you have to enjoy sex at all? Somebody somewhere on the authority of someone else, once said that intercourse is simply a means for reproduction and that many people forget this fact and view sex as a means to an end (orgasm in this case). From that position, orgasm would be akin to a man (and a woman) building a house, and as they clear the land to start building, they find a shiny gold ring or even a treasure (if it’s multiple orgasms. Come on, keep up keep up). Suffice to say that not every couple that try to build a house stumble upon shiny rings or treasures.

 

Of the many light bulbs that were switched on in my mind as I read this topic of yours, the most mirthful of the lot was the one were I wondered if you were actually doing things correctly! Sex, by its nature, is a very straightforward activity. It’s like building a simple kitchen table. How hard could it be to attach four legs to a middle body? I don’t think it’s that hard. But I think the problem with people, unlike cats, bees and flies, is that they’re trend and fashion victims. Nobody wants simple tables anymore. They all want to go to IKEA for their tables. And once they got the parts, they spend hours trying to work out what goes where and how. As a consequence, they’re often left with many unaccounted for screws, even though the table seems to be fully assembled! As a result of these homeless screws, these people declare that their table is not perfect and that it shall never become complete unless those screws are put in their rightful place! The problem of course, is that only an expert can really do it the right way and most of us are not experts.

 

Oh! Another light bulb moment! What if IKEA just include these extra screws to tease us all? There must be some wisdom behind that.

 

I could go on but I think I’ve said enough for now.

 

Ps

There is no topic that cannot be discussed in an open forum. It all depends on the tone and style of the person presenting the topic. Our author here was too blunt and direct for any of us to seriously consider replying. I know we are talking about sex but I suggest that you dress your words up a bit next time. They fell on the vulgar side this time.

 

PPs

The ladies below are talking to the man above. :cool:

[cynical lady]

OHH NO i was just abt to eat my lunch thank u very much for making me vomit.

 

 

RIGHT ABT NOW AM KISSING MY TEETH DAM U VILE MAN DAM U

[Ibtisam]

^^^that is nasty! MANTRA!!! errr, :mad: :eek:

[NGONGE]

cynical lady, was it the 'food for thought' part that got to you?