Ibtisam Posted May 14, 2008 CL, the question was if it was allowed from Deen point of view, not what the englighten CL thinks *waves, I missed you, wlc back When I use to woke the hospital, many Kuwaits use to come for IVF treatment in the summer. I always assumed it was hala. Ngonge: Adoption is hala, as long as they know you are not their parents. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cynical lady Posted May 14, 2008 QST "So here's my question: if you and your partner couldn't get pregnant and tried almost everything there is, would you ever consider having a surrogate mother to carry your child? " MHHH Naah that was the question not what you thought was the question…whose blind now eeh ehh…waves back and I misd you 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ibtisam Posted May 14, 2008 Read the replies my dear, it took a different turn. In any case we are mostly* Muslim here, so views, wants, desires etc are irrelevant Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cynical lady Posted May 14, 2008 bloody hijackers Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
-Lily- Posted May 14, 2008 ps Easy with the shantytown lingo, young lady. Ano waxba ma tufo (well other than in Val's general direction that is). I’m proud of my little street lingo, leave it alone. Ibti, it's only fair to tell kids they are adopted. There is something peverse about parents wanting to keep it secret, it always comes out one way or another. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NGONGE Posted May 14, 2008 Ibti, I wouldn't be too hasty with my pronouncements, Ibti. It is not only about 'knowing who your real parents are'! It is also about inheritance and other issues. Adoption, as it is known and understood in western law and parlance is NOT islamically compatible. In addition, the adopted child would have to leave the home the minute he/she reaches puberty (because of the rules relating to being a muhram, etc). (Of course, it all depends on what you understand by 'adoption' I suppose). Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
-Lily- Posted May 14, 2008 I thought a stepdad is a Muhram? So how can you be forced to leave at puperty? Really confused now... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ibtisam Posted May 14, 2008 Ngonge: Yes, I'm aware, but adopting a child is hala was what I said. The details are very different from western laws I agree. Lily lol it might be an idea to read a book on this area, otherwise you can get so confused. lol Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NGONGE Posted May 14, 2008 A stepdad is your mothers spouse. An adopted parent is not a stepdad, Lily. Ibti, That would not make it an adoption then, it'll simply be a case of fostering, no? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
