How to be a good wife

[-Lily-]

Whatever happened to treat others as you wish to be treated? Especially your loved one. Seems like that's aksing too much these days.

[juba]

"treat other like you wish to be treated!!!!!!" what blasphemy are you speaking of!! You should be stoned!!

:rolleyes:

[FatB]

blasphemy

defenition

Main Entry: blas·phe·my

Pronunciation: 'blas-f&-mE

Function: noun

Inflected Form: plural -mies

: the crime of insulting or showing contempt or lack of reverence for God or a religion and its doctrines and writings...etc

 

how does this apply to the thread!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[juba]

^ you obviously don't understand sarcasim

 

Sarcasim- noun

Def- 1) a mocking remark

2) Scornful irony

 

 

:rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

[Wiilo]

Wow, how did i missed this topic?

 

I really like it, wow, keep them coming, thanks

 

 

Go Figure:.......

[Jafarel.]

Ideal wife for Ideal husband...

 

Many of you here will be good wives and husbands. Others will be terrible.

 

MARRIAGE MANUAL: QURAN AND SUNNAH...not some 60's reports on 'how to a good wife' (and seven's 'how to be good husband')

[Jafarel.]

How to Be a Successful Wife

 

1. Use your 'Fitnah' to win the heart of your husband All women have the ornaments that Allah blessed them with. Use the beauty Allah - Azza wa Jal - has bestowed you with to win the heart of your husband.

 

2. When your husband comes home, greet him with a wonderful greeting

Imagine your husband coming home to a clean house, an exquisitely dressed wife, a dinner prepared with care, children clean and sweet smelling, a clean bedroom - what would this do to his love for you? Now imagine what the opposite does to him.

 

3. Review the characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn and try to imitate them The Qur'an and Sunnah describe the women in Jannah with certain

characteristics. Such as the silk they wear, their large dark eyes, their singing to their husband, etc. Try it, wear silk for your husband, and put Kohl in your eyes to 'enlarge' them, and sing to your husband.

 

4. Always wear jewelry and dress up in the house. From the early years, little girls have adorned themselves with earrings and

bracelets and worn pretty dresses - as described in the Qur'an. As a wife, continue to use the jewelry that you have and the pretty dresses for your husband.

 

5. Joke and play games with your husband. A mans secret: they seek women who are lighthearted and have a sense of humor. As Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - told Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would make her laugh.

 

6. Thank your husband constantly for the nice things he does. Then thank him again. This is one of the most important techniques, as the opposite is a characteristic of the women of hellfire.

 

7. An argument is a fire in the house. Extinguish it with a simple 'I'm sorry' even if it is not your fault. When you fight back, you are only adding wood to the fire. Watch how sweetly an argument will end when you just say sincerely, "Look, I'm sorry. Let's be friends."

 

8. Always seek to please your husband, for he is your key to Jannah.

Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - taught us that any women who dies in a state where her husband is pleased with her, shall enter Jannah. So .. please him.

 

9. Listen and Obey! Obeying your husband is Fard! Your husband is the Ameer of the household. Give him that right and respect.

 

10. Make Du'a to Allah to make your marriage and relationship successful. All good things are from Allah. Never forget to ask Allah ta'ala for the blessing of having a successful marriage that begins in this Dunya and continues on - by the Mercy of Allah ta'ala - into Jannah.

 

 

And Allah ta'ala knows be

[Valenteenah.]

That's a totally awesome list Jamarel. It even makes me feel like going a step further and making like a doormat when he gets home so he can wipe his shoes on my pretty dirac.

[MR ORGILAQE]

that is probably not a bad idea Zeph

Jamareel add that to the list my good man

[-Serenity-]

Originally posted by Aeronwen:

That's a totally awesome list

Jamarel

. It even makes me feel like going a step further and making like a doormat when he gets home so he can wipe his shoes on my pretty dirac.

[Jafarel.]

Qualities of a Good Muslim Wife

 

From the viewpoint of Islam, a good wife is considered to be the best gift in the world. This accords her a special position, and places responsibility on the husband to treat her according to this elevated position. The role of the wife in the marriage is extremely important, indeed it is the decisive factor.

 

Wives must do their best to keep their husbands pleased with them. The ideal wife combines in herself three merits; she pleases her husband when he sees her, by taking care to appear beautiful before him; she obeys him when he gives a command; she does not go against his wishes regarding her person or property.

 

To refuse to go with her husband when he calls her to bed is a grave mistake that a wife must avoid. When a wife intends to fast voluntarily, she may do so only with her husband's permission. If she does not receive his permission, then he has the right to make her break her voluntary fast when she is observing it. The reason for this is that he might wish to exercise his conjugal rights with her, which he cannot do if she is fasting with his permission.

 

It is a wife's duty not to allow anyone, that her husband does not want, to enter the house without his permission. She may not give anything away of her husband's property without his permission. She should avoid asking a husband for extra money, or for that which he does not possess and cannot provide, and she should show gratitude for whatever is given.

 

A good wife is one who is true to her husband's word if he adjures her to do something. On a husband's return home, a wife should receive him kindly and meet him with a good and beautiful appearance. She should try not to neglect her husband's needs nor ignore his demands. The more a wife takes care of her husband, the more she will be loved. Most husbands consider their wives care of them as an expression of their love.

 

A wife should discuss family problems with her husband to alleviate any later problems or misunderstandings. It is for her to hold her husband's close relatives in respect and treat them kindly, which is a mark of respect and honor for the husband.

 

Leaving the house frequently is a bad habit for a woman. She should also not leave the house if her husband objects to her doing so. She does not have the right to lend anything of her husband's property against his wishes. However, she can lend from her own property. Also, a wife may not give alms from her husband's property without his permission.

 

If a husband's friends inquire about him, a wife should answer them but without indulging in lengthy conversation. Too many arguments and disputes with a husband, heaping abuse on him, leads, in fact, to hatred and deterioration of the relationship.

 

Taking care of the house and running the household are the wife's responsibility. If the husband gives his wife permission to go out to work, this should not be seen as a license to equality. In fact, the issue of also producing income to the households is something, which might later act as a dividing factor between husband and wife. If the wife works outside the house, her income is entirely hers to do with, as she pleases. Her husband has no right over it. If she prefers not to work, she must be satisfied with the level of comforts her husband can provide on his income and not pose unreasonable demands on him.

 

Speaking to or telling others about sexual matters between a husband and wife is a grave sin in Islam. This applies to both parties. She should not be afraid to express her love and affection for her husband. It will please him and bind him closer to the family. Moreover, if he does not find an attractive, loving woman at home, he may be driven for solace elsewhere, outside the home.

 

Leadership in the family is given to the husband. For the wife to demand complete and full equality with her husband will result in having two masters in the family and this does not exist in Islam. However, the husband should not behave in an autocratic manner and misuse his position. He should display love and affection and treat his wife as a partner in life. Marriage is a partnership of love, trust and mutual respect between two people. Its foundations are solidly established by Islam and exist as a sanctified castle, so to speak.

 

We have listed here the many and varied duties and acts of commission as well as omission by the wife. This does not imply that the husband has no reciprocal duties and obligations. On the contrary, his function within the marriage bond is equally important. However, one should bear in mind that marriage means understanding and behaving tenderly towards one's partner. It is a partnership of give and take.

[MR ORGILAQE]

Blimey! i said add it to the list not make up a new one flipping heck

[Jafarel.]

[rudy-Diiriye]

Originally posted by Jamarel:

[QB] Qualities of a Good Muslim Wife

 

wow! good to know! now i gotta it!... whos next in the line!! she gonna get it! no more mr nice guy!!

[Khayr]

Originally posted by Aeronwen:

That's a totally awesome list

Jamarel

. It even makes me feel like going a step further and making like a doormat when he gets home so he can wipe his shoes on my pretty dirac.

After years of Deniaaaaaaaaal,

 

and many IDENTITY changessssss,

 

you have come to over the RIGHT SIDE

 

to assume your PROPER POSITION,

 

Mashaallah, mabruuuuk and one more thing

 

who is will be the LUCKY ONE to take that

 

FIRST STEP!!!